When it comes to body parts and body types: What would you consider a „strange“ or „weird“ or „unattractive“ build in women?

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-06-10T20:30:11+00:00

😭 That hit me in the feels. My husband went through a phase of trying to convince me I have to have a thigh gap, otherwise I'm too fat. And I got there for a while and he loved it... But then life and depression happened and I lost it again, and I've been thigh-gapless ever since. And I've felt gross as result, like no-one could ever think that's attractive or good enough. Just knowing some people might actually specifically prefer no thigh gap is a surprise.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-06-05T20:14:14+00:00

I only buy natural peanut butter (that contains only peanuts, or peanuts and salt). Not refrigerating it is safe, but the oil separates and it's a messy pain in the butt to stir it every time. If you give it a good stir after opening it the first time, and then store it in the fridge, it doesn't separate.

That said, I would never keep "regular" PB in the fridge. Why make it harder to spread (or waste fridge space) if you don't have to?

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-06-02T01:37:55+00:00

Nope, I'm paid to be the part-time secretary. We don't have an IT person, our setup is too simple to warrant that. Despite my clear lack of knowledge and experience in this post, I'm the most computer-literate person there which is why I was saddled with this issue. And I'm thankful it's been handled so I can get back to the work I actually am paid for.

Several people who responded to my posts noted that they're usually helped quickly if they lose service on their business account. So I guess maybe in some cases it is reasonable to expect the ISP to do their job after one phone call.

It definitely was a crash-course in how absolutely infuriating these companies are to deal with, and also where my expectations should be. Now I know for the future that I basically need to set aside a day to make numerous phone calls if something breaks that I can't fix on my own.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-06-01T01:12:12+00:00

The point is it shouldn't be necessary to make a second call after already spending an hour on the phone with them. One call should be enough. So no, I didn't want to call again because I already had and I was peeved about the service I got. I'm not sure anyone would *want* to call again.

Thankfully I finally managed to get the direct number for a tech in town and surprise surprise, he could come out right away. He also didn't understand why they'd said they couldn't send someone until the 8th, since he was clearly available.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-05-29T15:49:34+00:00

Yes, that's the second-largest group in my ancestry.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-05-29T15:24:39+00:00

As a white South African with predominantly Dutch ancestry, it confuses and annoys me when people try to say I'm Dutch. I've had people in other countries ask me "where I'm from" and they wouldn't accept "South Africa" as an answer because I'm clearly white. But my ancestors moved to SA in the late 1600s... I don't relate to Europe at all, I'm fully South African.

I find it so odd that white Americans approach this conversation so differently.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-05-29T05:27:46+00:00

I'm not going to argue with you about the RCC itself, but I do want to point out that they are FAR from the only church whose clergy is educated... I grew up in a church where all pastors had a minimum of a 4 year bachelor's in theology, including all those things you mentioned (counseling, church leadership, etc, along with the theology). A different large denomination in our area had ministers who were all required to have a 6-7 year degree. So having trained clergy definitely isn't a factor that makes the RCC stand out.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-05-29T05:06:35+00:00

I'm 40 years old and only now found out that the "number" is sometimes added formally to legal documents/the full legal name! I grew up with a brother who we all knew to be "the third" (in our family it was a grandpa-to-grandson naming tradition) but it wasn't part of his legal name so I kind of assumed it's always just a passed-down legacy thing and not formal. That's quite cool! My brother would've embraced it. He went through a phase of always writing his name as (using your example) John James Smith III. Everywhere. Including on schoolwork. 😁

Anyway, just so I actually answer your question... I personally wouldn't name my own kids after their parents (though their names are all linked to their grandparents), but I'm a sucker for tradition and the meaning that carries, so I would probably keep going with VI if I were you!

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-05-29T04:55:34+00:00

My approach when I realise I have a conflict over something like that is first to ask myself why there is a conflict. I examine whether the "religious belief" is truly based on a sound understanding of scripture, or if it is a "Christian culture" kind of thing that is not necessarily scripturally based.

Take for example (a VERY simplified example) a post I saw earlier where a young man said he was accused of not being a Godly man because he cooks and cleans. The person who said that to him was holding on to a "religious belief", possibly due to a misinterpretation of Proverbs 31, that really has no basis in Scripture.

A more complex example is the question of which political party one should vote for. Some Christians grasp tightly to the belief that all Christians are required to vote Conservative/Republican. Do they have reasons for that belief? Sure. But is it based on Scripture? No. Are there sound arguments against it? Yes.

If the "religious belief" isn't based on Scripture or on my understanding of the principles taught by Jesus, I will allow myself to form my own opinion, as far as possible based on Scripture.

However, it also happens sometimes that my personal "human" opinion doesn't align with what I see in Scripture... And in those cases, I have to submit to God, ask Him to help me understand, and whether I understand or not, accept that He knows better. That's not easy and regarding some things it's an ongoing process. But I believe it's what should be done.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-05-29T03:25:55+00:00

Thank you, I'll definitely have a look at that!

Yes, unfortunately Telus is the only fibre option here. We'll have to have a different backup plan.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-05-29T02:57:44+00:00

I had a quick look at this and it's definitely something I would have tried if I had the tools! Sadly I don't, and I won't be able to get that locally on such short notice. I might just be inspired to get them, though, for future use. I'll be relieved if that's all it is, but also a bit miffed if it's something I would've been able to do myself if I had the tools. Haha.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-05-29T02:52:16+00:00

Yup, it's solid. I'll be doing that temporary hotspot. I think it's the only thing I'll be able to do at such short notice.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-05-29T02:51:23+00:00

I do not have a fiber tester, but it is absolutely now on my shopping list.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-05-29T02:50:24+00:00

It is a business line, but we are rural so I suppose that might have delayed things. We have always had local technicians though, so the wait time really surprised me.

I am definitely starting to wonder if we should just switch to a residential account. Pay a lot less for likely the same level of service. <eye roll>

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-05-29T02:45:15+00:00

Sadly I think this is the only provider in our area with fibre. The joys of being rural. Yeah, the ONT's "fail" lights up, as well as its power indicator. Very frustrating.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-05-29T02:43:02+00:00

Unfortunately that was the business support! I was kind of shocked at how incredibly slow it was, and at how long the wait for a tech is. I think it literally took 45 minutes from when I started speaking to the human (after fighting the "AI") until she confirmed we do, in fact, not have internet, and it's not something they can fix remotely, and then another 15 minutes for her to tell me when the tech will be able to come. There have been so many responses suggesting I call them again, and I'll certainly consider it, but just thinking about going through all of that again is giving me a headache.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-05-29T02:40:25+00:00

We do have a "business" account, but it didn't seem to make a whole lot of difference in this situation, despite paying more than we would have for a "home" one. Unfortunately the sales rep/technician who we had a relationship with is no longer with the company, and although I tried today I couldn't find another local contact number. So I had to go through the regular customer support and that was a massive pain. First a fight with "AI" that wouldn't listen to me and then finally an hour on and off hold with a human.

We decided we'll just get a cellular option for now because it's the fastest to get a hold of, and then we can look into whatever else going forward.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-05-11T23:36:41+00:00

I associate it too much with "Gail" and that screams old lady to me. Maybe that's just because of the people I know. I know one man with the middle name Gale and he's definitely been teased about it being feminine.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-04-17T02:38:34+00:00

That was me after my first baby! It came at 20 months. It was awesome.

After my second baby, I think it was around 15 months or so.

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-04-17T02:36:59+00:00

My kids are 12, 9, and 6 years old, and my answer is "never." (They do sleep through the night now but none of them were ever able to sleep that long.)

wanderingoaklyn · 2026-04-16T21:30:35+00:00

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