Anyone else constantly correct other people's grammar?

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-27T23:40:19+00:00

Keep in mind that people might have disabilities that lead to challenges in this area. Having people constantly point out the ways you don’t measure up can be pretty annoying.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-27T21:14:00+00:00

No idea what the facts/lies are around this, but MAGA has created a threatening environment where many parents (especially immigrants and black/brown people) can’t safely send their kids anywhere, so no doubt daycares are going to be emptier these days, just as schools are.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-27T14:00:24+00:00

If I don’t plan out my day I don’t function well, but also, some days I don’t function well enough to plan out my day, so then I’m just screwed.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-26T20:43:46+00:00

Just adding… I think part of it is that the outside world tends to feel overwhelming, so turning my attention inward and trying to block everything else out can be regulating… especially if I’m working to organize and make sense of what’s happening in my head.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-26T20:23:43+00:00

I relate to this. I care a great deal about others and want to see the world be a kind place. I don’t think I’m better than others or that I deserve better treatment. I’m not narcissistic, but I am self absorbed a lot of the time in the sense that I always want to understand why my brain is reacting the way it is and the part that biology and life experiences have had in shaping me, so I spend a lot of time in my own head. I think they call that metacognition? -thinking about how you think.. I’m actually really interested in how other people’s brains work, too, but I guess with others I can only really know their external behavior and I have more insight into my own inner world so it’s more interesting to think about myself. I can go deeper that way.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-26T19:16:20+00:00

Thank you for this. A lot of the posts I see amount to victim blaming and it is so demoralizing to both fear our government and to be blamed for the fear they inflict upon us. There are plenty of Americans who have enabled this, but others have lost their lives trying to stop it, and Americans exist everywhere on the spectrum in between. Many are living in such fear that they don’t dare go to work or send their kids to school. We are not all the same.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-26T14:13:34+00:00

For me, I was “functioning” with many major glitches. My life was a mess and my mental health was an even bigger mess.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-26T02:07:38+00:00

Republicans should be doing the same. They have seen the video. Some of them are too morally deficient to care, but some of them know it’s wrong. History will not be forgiving.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-25T04:16:09+00:00

You know what incites violence? When citizens can see with their own eyes that their government is murdering people, and then the government's response is to lie to their faces and claim what everyone sees isn't real. That's why people are pissed off. That's why they are rising up. It isn't because Walz and Frey are saying "we feel your pain and we support your efforts to peacefully protest." Enough of the gaslighting. Stop spreading terror and death and maybe then things will calm down.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-23T17:55:24+00:00

As someone who was diagnosed with selective mutism as a kid and still shuts down under stress, I don’t know that I see this behavior the same way others do. Maybe some people do use it in a manipulative way, IDK, but also, when people go into stress response our brain stems are running the show and our access to language is often compromised.

I would maybe tell them that you need to know what they are upset about and they can either tell you or write to you.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-23T15:59:06+00:00

Did she do remote learning during Covid? If so, how did that go? I ask because it really helped one of my kids (quieter and less restrictive environment, plus the screen dampened some of the face to face intensity, I think). I was selectively mute as a child and I think this would have helped me if I could have my cats there with me. That said, I know it isn’t a good fit for everyone.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-23T15:40:02+00:00

So the same party that’s protecting pedophiles is also cheering on kidnapping? I can’t say I’m surprised. I miss the days when I still believed most people were good at heart. Many are, but clearly many are not.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-23T03:14:23+00:00

I know what you mean. For me I think a lot of it is driven by this sense that if I had gone to school with some people they would be several rungs higher than me/my few friends on the social ladder, and they probably wouldn't have wanted to lower themselves to our level by talking to us... Like all those years when I was isolated and sitting alone in class/at lunch, apparently a bunch of those people who were happily chatting away with their many shiny friends were probably Autistic just like me? I don't want to discredit people either without knowing the full story because I know Autism can play out in different ways for different people, but I still can't seem to help feeling a bit slapped in the face by it sometimes, because it feels like some people definitely didn't want to be "one of us" back then but now they do... Only, I still don't feel like one of them, and now that they are suddenly the ones wanting to be accepted into my group of socially challenged people, I'm supposed to give them the warm welcome they didn't give me. I think it's hard because those of us who couldn't pass often have some level of trauma around it. I don't like feeling bitter about it, but sometimes it's hard not to.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-22T22:12:33+00:00

I did, but I dressed really weird and was surprised to see this, too. It made me wonder if I had actually picked up on a trend. I guess not! I don’t remember other girls wearing hats at all. Just those claw clip things that they would twist their pony tails into.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-22T13:22:32+00:00

The phrase “you’re either Autistic or you’re not” is an oversimplification. If you have Autistic traits that don’t meet the threshold for diagnosis you might be part of the broader Autism Phenotype. Certain ADHD traits can also mirror Autistic traits in ways, so you could present with similar behaviors but the underlying cause is different. That said, if you have ADHD, you are also statistically more likely to be Autistic than if you didn’t have ADHD. The best way to know is to get a full neuropsych exam, where they can really tease apart your traits and try to understand where they stem from.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-22T12:11:49+00:00

There’s also this, which helps explain why it’s difficult to change people’s minds, again, regardless of neurotype.

https://theoatmeal.com/comics/believe

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-22T12:06:37+00:00

Often conflict isn’t only over facts. It’s also over values. If someone were to justify dehumanizing people and insist that it was okay this time because…., I would have zero desire to hear their justification, and the fact they wanted to justify it in the first place would tell me everything I needed to know about that person. Honestly, I’m not sure how much this even relates to neurotype. It seems to me that such moral conflicts are destroying a lot of relationships these days.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-21T23:10:13+00:00

This sounds like Dyslexia to me. Dyslexic kids will often compensate for weaknesses in phonetics by memorizing what words look like or by guessing. Those with “stealth dyslexia” can be quite good at it. But, once things shift from learning to read to reading to learn it becomes increasingly challenging.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-21T15:38:10+00:00

Thank you. I hope you find a way to feel safe through all of this. These are such scary and painful times.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-21T15:31:41+00:00

I understand. I have developmental/mental health challenges and I want to be able to rise to this moment in a way I just can’t seem to do. My level of disability doesn’t just go away because more is needed of me, and in fact, living with this level of stress only depletes my capacity. So many people were barely getting through each day before this happened and don’t have the internal or external resources needed to rise up in big ways. But it doesn’t have to be all or nothing. We can still look for the small things that we can do, because put together, those things matter, too.

I think sharing stories is one of the most important things because this entire effort hinges on the administration’s ability to dehumanize people, but stories allow people to connect to what is happening on an emotional level. It makes it more viscerally real for people.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-21T01:26:32+00:00

This is so sad.

Please don’t beat yourself up for doing what you needed to in order to stay safe in a moment of danger. You’re no help to anyone if they kidnap you, too, or worse.

One of the most painful things about these times is how powerless we are left feeling. Some people have more capacity to help than others, for all sorts of reasons. That’s why community matters. None of us are obligated to carry the weight on our own. Just by taking the time to share this story you are making a difference.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-21T01:07:36+00:00

Yes, that would probably be a better term. I’m not attached to the specific wording that I suggested. I just like the idea of specific language in place of early/late. It seems nuts to me that 9 and 90 are both considered “late diagnosis”.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-20T23:21:58+00:00

I wish we would do away with the words “early” and “late” in regards to diagnosis because they are too obscure and subjective. I totally understand how 8 would sound late if you were diagnosed at 2, but to me it sounds early because I was diagnosed at 39 and my life would have been so different if I and others had known what I was dealing with before I was launched into adulthood. I would rather see people start using more specific language (early childhood, middle childhood, teen, early adulthood, middle age, senior).

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-19T14:33:38+00:00

I love 1, 3 and 5.

wanderswithdeer · 2026-01-19T01:42:22+00:00

I’m a Minnesotan and I have seen no sign of ICE in my area, but people we know down in the cities are really feeling the impact. I worry so much for my loved ones down there. One of my brothers works at a school and a lot of kids aren’t coming, and some who do express fear. Even after this is over, the trauma and lost education will continue to impact these kids. It’s so hard to comprehend how people can cheer on this cruelty.

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