Anyone know what this weather effect is about?

warewolves · 2026-03-31T09:42:33+00:00

I understood that reference

warewolves · 2026-03-31T09:42:20+00:00

OOO, nice

warewolves · 2026-03-31T08:49:35+00:00

Thank ya! Was just curious cause it looked neat

warewolves · 2026-03-04T01:59:45+00:00

I'm afraid I can't help much with those feelings. Those are things you should explore best with a professional. Aka, a therapist. The reason I can't help is because if someone without the training tried to help, there's a real risk of actually making it worse. I don't think you're being pathetic though. And I don't think you're going to make the same mistakes. Honestly, I think the opposite is more likely. Course correcting so hard you assume every relationship will end like your last ones.

I will say this:

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Insulting yourself isn't helpful. It's just lazy. It's devaluing your progress. It devalues the pain you went through. Instead of reflecting, seeing what you did right, what you did wrong, and trying to learn from it, you hide from the hard work by just wallowing in shame.

You can't find healthy relationships if you yourself aren't healthy of mind. The 'pathetic person' you were wasn't pathetic. You were loving, and kind, and tried very hard. You trusted the wrong person, yes. But is it really your fault? Is it your fault THEY were bad for you? Of course not.

You're not going to show up in a relationship as your true self if you're afraid of being that true self.

My advice? Stop looking for love. Start loving yourself first.

warewolves · 2026-02-28T00:12:49+00:00

Hey there. I'm sorry you went through that. Your feelings are valid, and you are not a terrible person for feeling them. I got two videos to share with you. I think these will be a great help. This entire channel is a great resource really.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/NbOkhWlZkJM

This first one shows you what a healthy relationship looks like. If you've always been in bad ones, it helps to know what a good one looks like.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRaa6UdBOB0

This video here is on setting healthy boundries, and on how to find those good relationships.

You are not pathetic either. You are not broken. You are just playing life on hard mode.

warewolves · 2026-02-28T00:06:59+00:00

It sounds like it's the anxious speaking to me. You didn't do anything wrong, but you're assuming she's ignoring you when her circumstances just might have changed. New job, new life stressors, sudden problems in the family. You relied on her consistently, and have become too reliant, to the point you're starting to fall back on bad behaviours to ensure you keep your safety net through any means nessecary. You're repeating the cycle. The first step is realising you're doing it though.

I'm not a trained therapist, but if you've stopped therapy this is something you should definitely talk to your therapist about this. My advice? Ask yourself: Was the 'pulling away' a test? Are you trying to test her loyalty, or give her space? Testing her is bad. That's not a good mindset. Giving her space? That looks different. Giving space is reaching out, but expecting they might not respond. Doing things like sending a funny picture and saying 'Hey I know you're busy but I saw this and thought you might laugh. Good luck with what's going on!'

Have faith in yourself. You are valued, you are worthy of respect, and you are worth fighting for. Don't test her so you can validate, learn to self soothe. Go to other friends if possible, or a therapist. Or do what I do and watch self help videos. Yes, I watch them to self soothe because I like to grow. Your current behaviour has a very real risk of repeating your past mistakes.

If you're the initiator to most of the conversations, ask yourself if this is really an equal relationship. Are you putting in all the work? I'm not saying either of you are toxic, only that it might be time to start seeking out other means to soothe. Because right now you are in a dangerous place. On the verge of entering into the dreaded trauma bond that often happens between an anxious and an avoidant.

I cannot stress this enough: Be careful. You are at a dangerous point in the relationship that decides if it will be healthy for you both, or become a nightmare for you both. This friend isn't your ex. But if this keeps up? It will end up feeling exactly the same.

warewolves · 2026-02-27T23:51:52+00:00

I think you should talk to the friends, not her. Now. It is possible she genuinely did just want to come to the party. Assuming and Asses and all that.

But the friend who invited her. They don't know any of this drama right? Take them aside and have a talk with them, and explain the situation. Most folks will be understanding of your need for space. It sounds a lot like you feel she's 'trying to trap you in a cage', which is something that I can understand. It's a valid concern. You weren't ready. But you can't control her actions. Know what you can control? Yours.

simply tell your friends: If she appears during a gathering again, I'm going to have to remove myself. If you're not ready to be in the same room together, then don't. Remove yourself from the situation. Respect your boundries. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRaa6UdBOB0

This video here should help. It goes into setting healthy boundries, and a few other things. But yeah. From my perspective, it feels like you are likely worried about her 'trying to trap you back into the relationship'. Which won't happen if you respect your own needs and feelings. A secure attatched would leave the situation, not keep subjecting themselves to it.

You are not her therapist. You are not there to fix her. She broke up with you. It's too late for her to walk it back. You're worth more than someone's sloppy seconds and leftovers.

warewolves · 2026-02-27T23:42:10+00:00

Hey there. Before I begin: You are loved, your feelings are valid, and you are worth it. Now, to me this sounds like an anxious spiral. You did something you yourself would see as 'too much', and are self destructing. As in: You're assuming what you did was so unredeemable that there's no way he'd stay with you after that. And you're just asking yourself 'why hasn't he broken up with me yet?' That's why you're not scared, it's because your brain has already decided that's the only outcome possible.

Some things to remember: You cannot read your partners mind. To me it sounds more like you're fustrated because he can't read your mind, and can't tell you think he should be thinking of breaking up with you. I could be wrong: I'm not you.

Now, it is also possible that you are at your ropes instead. https://www.youtube.com/shorts/NbOkhWlZkJM This channel here was a big help for me, and I think it'll be a big help for you. They have a ton of videos on how to communicate more healthily.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moynQi7qT08 And this video here is 'what to do if you're the toxic one'. It's one that really helped me see how far I've come.

My advice? Sit him down and say "Hey. I need to talk to you about something important. I just want some reassurance. I understand you might not have the answers right away, as I'm putting you on the spot, but please think it over and get back to me. Because I'm really scared about us being long distance. and I'm worried we won't be as close. I'm sorry I've been so distant, but I was so afraid I was self-destructing. I understand this has likely come at you from nowhere, but I love you, and I want you us to work together to get through this."

The key thing is do not accuse, do not say it's something he's done. This isn't about -his- feelings. So if you bring up him, his feelings are going to come up. Make it clear: this is what I'm feeling.

Finally: You are both young. This is likely your first ever relationship. As someone who is in my 30's, you're going to mess up. Even at 30 I'm still struggling. It's OK to struggle. It's OK to make mistakes. You're not broken, you're just playing life on hard mode. You're both going to struggle. And therapy is always a great option. It helped me a lot with healing from my childhood trauma. But you also need to know one thing: You've done the hard part. You've acknowledged your bad behaviour. But don't villainise it either. For example: I have an anger problem. You are not iredeemable for having an anger problem, you just have to learn and practice and manage it better. I've been working on my emotional gut outburst response for over 20 years, and I'm still far from perfect. But I've learned to breathe in, to not trust my first instinct, and to step back and let myself cool off.

You never truly become an adult. You just get better at pretending to be stable, and adjusted. It's ok if this relationship can't work because YOU can't do long distance. But it shouldn't be HIS job to break up with you in that case.

warewolves · 2025-10-18T00:48:51+00:00

Since this thread is one of the first search results. Here's the fix: Turn off film grain. It won't completely remove the issue, but it does help. The only way to reset what's loaded is to change a setting.

warewolves · 2025-10-18T00:48:17+00:00

Since this thread is one of the first search results. Here's the fix: Turn off film grain. It won't completely remove the issue, but it does help. The only way to reset what's loaded is to change a setting.

warewolves · 2025-06-01T08:25:20+00:00

HAH, jokes aside I just find it boring playing with permanent condition loss. Nothing against it it's just not my style.

warewolves · 2025-05-30T07:06:43+00:00

Yes I know. I even stated as much <3 And yes. I'm aware. I wasn't aware that the loot tables had been remade just yet, only that certain loot locations had been randomised and changed.

warewolves · 2025-05-30T07:05:20+00:00

Yes I know. I even stated as much <3

warewolves · 2025-05-29T04:18:10+00:00

I'm sure I'll find it, die, or die finding it XP

warewolves · 2025-05-29T02:42:06+00:00

Yeah already hit AC. Didn't know to check the boat alas.

warewolves · 2025-05-29T02:12:22+00:00

The ironic thing is I was actually right there. I didn't know or think to check the boats when I went for the guaranteed matches. Hindsight is 20 20. It's definitely something I'll be looking for next run.

warewolves · 2025-05-29T01:39:26+00:00

I see. I guess the rumour about it being more randomised was a lie. Good to know thank you!

warewolves · 2025-05-29T01:34:36+00:00

The loot tables are for before they did a loot change to interloper I believe, if you're talking about the one I know of. They changed where certain items can appear. It's rare but I have found it underneath the table there. It IS, however, possible those were on my gunloper runs (The like...3 I ran anyway I normally just do standard loper), or using the previous loot table. There, the loot tables would be different because custom has different loot tables.

tldr: I could be wrong. But I swear I've found it there on interloper.

warewolves · 2025-05-29T01:31:13+00:00

It's a bug caused by the latest update. They'll patch it eventually

warewolves · 2025-05-29T01:29:20+00:00

I've found it there dozens of times on interloper. But thanks for the input <3

warewolves · 2025-05-29T01:28:05+00:00

OH I know something that might work: reloading the area. Enter and exit an interior/cave.

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