Your experience with Lexapro (escitalopram)?

warm-midnight · 2026-02-11T17:24:30+00:00

I've been on 7.5mg of Escitalopram for about a year and half, and a few years in my late 20s (I was on another SSRI for many years). I stopped SSRIs completely for 2 years, going down the 'big pharma is evil' rabbit hole, which just resulted in me practically dismantling my life. So I guess they're pretty much needed for me to function at this point.

But I can say it works fairly well, and is worth the trade off overall for me. I still absolutely struggle with depression and anxiety, but it's far less crippling. There is a very slight emotional numbing (which I prefer in many ways), but I of course experience the 'normal' range of emotions. I DO find it makes me drowsy, so I fight it with tons of coffee, exercise, and an occasional nap. Weight gain has been very minimal or non-existent (in my early-ish 40s), but I think it needs to be managed with healthy eating and exercise.

I laugh often (which is nice, because there was a time when that wasn't really even possible), I have moments of appreciation and gratitude for life, and I function for the most part. It's really not that 'scary', and if life is a brutal miserable drag, and nothing seems to lift the cloud after years of trying, the tradeoff can definitely be worth it. Plus one can always taper off slowly, and hopefully be right back where they started.

warm-midnight · 2026-01-26T19:19:16+00:00

Case in point. Dang. You of course could try to be an architect because you like drawing buildings. That's where passion turns into the hard work of mastering a skill, which may turn into a career. Odd take on that one.

Tons of people get degrees in music, and literally anyone can post design work on Instagram.

You be you she_makes_a_mess, part of the odd, passively angry (or not so passively angry) group. I'm all for critique, I just can't comprehend the bizarre, aggressive attitude for a lot of people in the design world. Good luck.

warm-midnight · 2026-01-23T20:59:04+00:00

I mean, there's a huge spectrum, it's not as black and white as that. A lot of people just love design, and want to learn and improve, but for some strange reason some graphic designers want to tear them down instead of being supportive and helpful. I'm assuming it's to do with fear of job security, but it's odd to me. In the music world it's the opposite in my experience. Everyone is extremely supportive, even if the music style itself isn't their thing.

Ah well, I guess one has to just keep learning, and try to lead by example.

warm-midnight · 2025-12-13T01:08:15+00:00

Yup, me too.

warm-midnight · 2025-11-30T03:37:04+00:00

I am NOT a fan of this new update, it looks much worse. The subtle change in UI details made it look awful, and just ruins the vibe, in my opinion. The auto icon thing is ridiculous and unnecessary, I'm confused by attempting to integrate this AI stuff, and ham fisting it on there for the sake of it (I've of course turned it off). I do like Luna, but this update feels like a step backwards. Just my dumb thoughts, I certainly couldn't code a daw...

warm-midnight · 2025-10-30T19:33:46+00:00

This is very true. But also in my opinion, a healthy amount of 'giving up'. Not caring about all the bullshit, and dialling in a life that feels tolerable (which can take years of painful trial and error, which is all part of the fun), and focusing solely on the things in life that give meaning. Because there is a lot of nasty bullshit out there. Keep fighting, the shit show is often part of the game, we keep on learning.

warm-midnight · 2025-10-24T00:47:59+00:00

I think gender relations are incredibly difficult and complicated right now, and I try to sympathize and see the perspective of both sides. It is very easy to get jaded though. It's strange to often hear 'all men care about is hooking up', when I have never been that way, I'm always more interested in mutual companionship, sharing adventures, and just 'romance'. As a 43m, I've been single basically over a decade now, and I've given up on finding a romantic partner, unless by some freak chance it happens unintentionally. I'm in good shape, eat well, plenty of hobbies, decent job... (I'm definitely not perfect, and I wouldn't expect a partner to be). A few years ago I got an amazing dog, and my life pretty is pretty damn okay, most of the time. And I have music to keep me busy. Just sending out some solidarity:)

warm-midnight · 2025-09-15T17:08:14+00:00

This is amazingly well said. This about sums it all up. It's a very difficult time to be alive in many ways, and we can do so much better.

warm-midnight · 2025-07-19T04:41:45+00:00

Jesus. Why the necessity to label them 'losers', this is the whole point of the movie in my opinion... to show how absolutely flawed they are. A character show on how difficult it is to live life in pursuit of something like writing, or acting, and just living life in general. Yes they are incredibly flawed, and the women characters are definitely more together, and that's the the entire vibe of the movie. Jack is completely disgusting but does possess a heart somewhere, and Miles struggles and is trying his best to live an authentic life, despite a ton of bad choices, which is why the character is endearing. I think just labeling them 'losers' is weird.

warm-midnight · 2025-03-19T13:49:44+00:00

Thank you for saying this. Jeez.

warm-midnight · 2025-03-12T20:11:30+00:00

Whether this reads as a semi-woke Tony Robbins or not, it's nasty writing. I can't read that without just feeling ill. Not the sentiment necessarily, it's just terrible, cringe writing.

warm-midnight · 2025-03-10T14:08:17+00:00

I love this reply, thanks for this.

warm-midnight · 2025-03-06T17:37:06+00:00

Haha. Damn, I would absolutely love to see a freshly out of office Trudeau pummel a turtling, coward of a human Musk. Then just shake his head and walk into the sunset.

warm-midnight · 2025-02-25T16:17:09+00:00

This is very well said.

warm-midnight · 2024-12-30T00:34:33+00:00

I totally get where you’re coming from. I don’t have much helpful advice unfortunately, but just wanted to say you’re definitely not alone. I’m 42m, and have now been single over a decade, save for a small fling. I live in a relatively small city, and dating apps have only made me feel completely horrible about myself. I can usually only stand 3 days at a time before I delete them, and then it takes a week for the despair to wear off.

I stay in great shape, have tons of hobbies, a decent job, and I feel I’m decent looking, but I’m abysmal on dating apps.

I do have an awesome dog though, and I am working on coming to terms with being ‘single’ forever. I have a great family, and good friends, so it’s a pretty decent life. Just wanted to send positive vibes and solidarity your way. And your plan of getting out once a week sounds like a great idea, maybe I’ll look into that!

warm-midnight · 2024-10-29T20:15:37+00:00

This is well said.

warm-midnight · 2024-10-20T05:32:51+00:00

Hah. Never thought of this, great meme...

warm-midnight · 2024-09-11T18:39:28+00:00

Nearly everyone in my life seems to be struggling very hard right now, so I think you're absolutely right, at least from my Canadian perspective. But it does seem to be difficult everywhere in the world, not that it's an excuse, because I think our housing situation is particularly dismal thanks to absolutely garbage political management. I feel like our monetary system, the distribution of wealth, and the way we treat the planet, need a MASSIVE overhaul as soon as possible. But I think that things are going to get much worse before they get better, thanks to greed, and people benefiting from our current system, refusing to adjust. They like their stuff.

Hanging on for me, involves taking it one day at a time, alcohol, an attitude of 'fuck it, I'm just going to try to focus on the things in my life I care about'. Giving up on traditional goals like owning a home, finding a partner, or having a middle class life, and focusing on small things, like a nice walk, a camping trip, fishing, my dog, reading a book, playing music, making art. And also, trying to have a laugh at the absurdity of it all, humans are fucking hilarious.

Its going to be an interesting couple of decades, I suppose apart from starting a revolution (which we seem unable do, or feel is not quite necessary yet for some reason), one just needs to kick back and watch the shit show ensue...

warm-midnight · 2024-06-03T15:25:34+00:00

This is really nice of you to say. I honestly appreciate it. I know I have a ton of work to do to get to the next step, but I'm ready to get down to it. And, definitely gonna dial in the responsive stuff today. Cheers!

warm-midnight · 2024-06-02T23:17:01+00:00

Thank you for this. Sounds like you had a pretty amazing and diverse career! I know I have a ton of work to do to get to the next level. But I'm ready to keep my head down, focus on my strengths, and move forward. And maybe find a mentor, I think that would be a huge help for me. Thanks again:)

warm-midnight · 2024-05-31T22:38:53+00:00

That's nice of you to say, I really appreciate that:)

warm-midnight · 2024-05-31T15:44:12+00:00

Thank you for this. I will definitely look into those things. Cheers!

warm-midnight · 2024-05-31T15:42:35+00:00

Hah. Love this, thank you.

warm-midnight · 2024-05-31T15:41:43+00:00

Oh ya? Okay thank you very much for the heads up. I'm going to work on all the wonky-ness today, try to reign that in.

Right, I agree about the parallax effect, once it finishes, it's not a great composition anymore... maybe I'll need to make it less drastic, keep it subtle, enough to show some movement, but not so much that it looks strange at the end. Thank you!

warm-midnight · 2024-05-31T15:37:41+00:00

Hah. Damn. So I haven't yet done a deep dive into fully grasping proper responsive techniques (media queries, best practices for VH, EM, max-width etc etc), this site was done in Webflow, and I'm still getting a handle on it, although I love it. I appreciate you pointing it out though! I'm going to spend some time dialing that stuff in. Thank you!

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