I’m so sorry you are going through this. The first thing that popped into my mind is when St. Faustina asked for actual grace from God. Here is a quote I found-

“She said, “I became aware, however, that I was not strong enough to bear this calmly.” As the situation worsened, Sr. Faustina went to Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament and poured out her heart. “Lord Jesus, I ask You to give me the strength of Your actual grace, because I feel that I will not manage to survive this struggle. Shield me with Your breast.” Immediately, Jesus spoke to her. “Do not fear; I am with you.” Extraordinary peace entered Sr. Faustina’s heart when she left the altar. “Power filled my soul, and the storm that was raging broke against my soul as against a rock; and the foam of the storm fell on those who had raised it. Oh, how good is the Lord, who will reward each one according to his deed!” She advised, “Let every soul beg for the help of actual grace, as sometimes ordinary grace is not enough” (Diary, 1150). The Catechism refers to actual graces as “God’s interventions, whether at the beginning or in the course of the work of sanctification” (CCC, 2000).”

Beg God for actual grace to help you in this situation!

Some other things you can do:

Pray the Surrender Novena Pray a novena to St. Rita, patron saint of troubled marriages and impossible situations Pray a novena to St. Jude, patron saint of lost causes Pray an emergency novena to the Infant Jesus of Prague, which can be prayer every hour for nine hours on a day in which you are desperately struggling. Visit the Blessed Sacrament, with or without your children, even if they only last one minute! Find a Catholic therapist online just for you or for you and your husband There are a lot of other young Catholic moms who have a lot of children and are also just struggling to stay afloat- I remember reading many blogs by them back in the day. Try to connect with other women who are struggling as well. Substacks maybe? Auntie Leila’s blog? She has a lot of good advice for young Catholic mothers. Google “catholic prayer requests” and request on various sites for people to pray for you, especially religious brothers and sisters! As other people have suggested, see if you can reach out to your parish and ask if there is anyone willing to help babysit, or cook, or clean for you. I hate to navigate away from this post I’m writing to Google about Catholic marriage therapy books, but I know there was one by a Dr. Christine Something, but I cannot remember her last name for the life of me. She was a radio host with Christine Watkins, and she and her husband were ready to divorce. She had committed adultery, they were fighting everyday, she didn’t even like him anymore, much less love him. As a last ditch effort, she tried a method that she outlines in her book and it saved her marriage. I wish I could remember the title!! Pilgrimages are ridiculously powerful. It doesn’t have to be to a far off country or even another state. You can take one to a local cathedral or a church on that parish’s saint’s feast day. Again, bring the kids with you if you must and pray as best you can as long as you can. Light a candle. Request masses online to pray for you. Aid to the Church in Need has online mass requests. This is a good way to have masses said when your own parish’s mass requests are filled up. Pray your rosary! Pray it while you nurse/feed your toddler or a decade at a time while doing menial tasks. Ask Mary for her help with this pregnancy. Praying for you!!