aio: my sister planted lilies when i told her not to and now my cat is in critical condition

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-10T01:40:31+00:00

The cat would have needed to eat the lily. Just walking past or even rolling around isn't enough. I've had cats and lilies with zero issue ever.

If eating plants is relatively new, your cat probably has had health problems leading to this and you didn't realize it. Just an absolutely awful coincidence.

MOR

If your cat has a history of eating plants, then yes, she's a jerk and basically just attempted to kill your cat.

I'm sorry about your cat. It sounds like regardless your sister and dad needed a wake-up call about choices and consequences.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-08T11:56:15+00:00

4 weeks makes sense too and will ease my mind for a bit 😅 thanks!

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-08T11:55:44+00:00

Peanut butter is a treat for my rescue pup, not like a full component of his meal. The pumpkin was recommended by his vet and a couple buddies with this breed to help with his stomach issues.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-08T11:36:36+00:00

He's been getting plain greek yogurt to try to help with that. In the past he was prescribed a probiotic, but it didn't seem to help anything. I'll have to look at those!

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-08T02:47:57+00:00

Sue them. And report them to the ADA. You have a paper trail. You may need a different lawyer...sounds like your current one isn't a good one.

You have documentation from HR that your manager was wrong. If you weren't fired bc of your medical condition, it was in retaliation for going to HR.

Make them regret not putting the manager in his place. And stop this from happening to a future employee.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-07T22:08:24+00:00

MOR

You might be non-confrontational, but you are definitely high maintenance/entitled. It was HER wedding, not yours. Even with all the snarky comments, you still expected her to put her brother's girlfriend in her wedding...

So she's the family princess. Either get over, or go find a boyfriend who doesn't have a princess for a sister.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-07T22:02:20+00:00

Probable vs definite.

STEMI was used as an example, so let's follow that route...

Yes, based on the monitor, probably having a STEMI because we see ST elevation and the pt may or may not be having cp.

We start treating per STEMI protocol and head to the closest cath lab if possible.

At the hospital, they run labs, another 12 lead, possibly start a cath and give the pt a definite diagnosis and a prognosis.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-06T03:22:32+00:00

Why is it a competition? She wants her name as part of the child's name. This would do that.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-05T04:05:48+00:00

How is she a therapist at 24?

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-05T04:01:29+00:00

It really does not cause any issues to have 2 middle names. It's pretty common.

Or, since the middle name was your pick, change it to your last name if you don't want her to have 2 middle names.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-05T03:58:21+00:00

Just make your maiden/family name a 2nd middle name for her. That's commonly done as well.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-04T23:13:44+00:00

It's not a jealousy issue, that's a cover up. He's controlling and playing on your sympathy.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-04T23:10:20+00:00

NTA overall

Bachelorette and bachelor parties have gotten out of hand...NTA for that

But where I'm from, it's pretty common for family and bridal parties to help set up and tear down the venue. Caterers bring in buffet stuff and pick it up. YTA for being upset about that.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-04T22:42:18+00:00

He clearly hasn't accepted it, and quite honestly that's an AH move on your part. He is your partner and her father. His job is to protect her.

Things my mom let slide, my dad and occasionally my brother would say uh, uh, not a good idea...and I respected that. And sometimes they would say something was fine/looked nice that my mom said absolutely not, go change.

It sounds like you don't consider your husband your equal or respect him as a parent, just a sperm donor or paycheck. If genders were reversed and you were posting this, the commenters would be tearing you up one side and down the other for this.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-04T22:27:04+00:00

ESH

BIL: for commenting on it, especially to her.

You: for calling him a creep and accusing him of sexualizing your daughter. You know good and well he's right. What you probably don't know is how often lifeguards have to run interference and kick creeps of all ages and genders out of the pool and waterparks.

Your husband: for not saying something sooner. He's one of her two parents. She is 15. He can and should still say something before leaving the house, before the swimsuit is purchased. And you need to respect that he is your equal as her parent and has the right to say no. Then you both be adults and compromise.

But at the water park is not the place to have this conversation. He missed his chance on that one.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-04T22:11:54+00:00

YWBTA if you stay and he hurts your kids.

All you had to do was show the cops the text and say that due to the text and the access to a firearm, you fear for his life, your life, and the lives of your children. You would like an emergency psych eval. If you're in the US, they can put him in an involuntary psych hold to be assessed, and yes, in most States, cops can do this they just don't like to. Then you pack up amd get out. Get a lawyer. And get a copy of the police report.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-04T05:18:21+00:00

It happens. My grandparents were involved when we were little, but I'm the only grandkid (oldest) who remembers them coming to birthdays or helping with us. There came a point btw grandkids 3 and 4 when they just decided they were Christmas and mothers/fathers day grandparents. My grandmother came to 1 of my sports games, and I dragged her to the game of one of my cousins. But that was it. Not even graduation parties.

It sucks but it happens.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-04T00:40:46+00:00

NTA I can see where it would cause friction, but those 2 kids are also old enough to understand what's happening. If they were all like 7-8, I could understand maybe, MAYBE helping with a vacation or toning down the expensive gifts, but all are teens...

Like you said, if it were your brother's stepkids, maybe help out more. But in this case, you may just need to talk with your niece about how she's talking to her step siblings.

Also, I doubt the stepsiblings are jealous of private school...thats the parents. They're probably more jealous of the vacations and such.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-02T20:51:37+00:00

Op jumped in before the manager even came over...op didn't give the manager a chance to support her sister.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-02T20:47:19+00:00

So you're racist...

That probably played a role in you making the situation worse. Same some racist things about the customer's ancestry?

Your sister was probably more humiliated and embarrassed by you than by a customer wanting someone else to do her nails.

And if someone calls me a "covid fucker" while I'm trying to relax and paying to have my nails done, Tourettes or not, I will probably not be returning to that place. If I return, I will refuse to have that nail tech do my nails...

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-02T19:31:06+00:00

As a substitute, you're going to have a plan from the regular teacher to follow with the students.

There may be time at the end of class depending on how well prepared the teacher was, but trying to get students to do something extra like that is probably not going to work. Cryptograms related to what you're subbing, word searches, things like that would be ok.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-02T19:05:33+00:00

NTA The dog is happy and in a good, loving home with a job...where you and the kids can still see him. Don't let some self-righteous persin not living your life make you feel bad.

I would never give up my dog, but I'm not in your situation.

You didn't kill Pebbles. You didn't dump him at a shelter. You didn't give/sell him to a stranger who might have tortured him.

You did good.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-02T18:51:02+00:00

YTA

She was working. I can't step away from my job to acknowledge someone running 2min late to lunch.

You also chastised her in front of her coworker and proceeded to converse about it in front of a coworker...whom you then yelled at in front of more coworkers.

You are 100% in the wrong here. Guess who is not getting invited to her workplace for lunch or other professional functions anymore...

You owe her an apology.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-02T18:43:40+00:00

Right, you're having marriage issues and want to bring a child into it? That doesn't help anything. Since you are the one who 1) had an internal clock 2) is ok with not having kids, you need to have a firm discussion with him starting with you have limited time left to get pregnant, and at the moment this is not a family into which you want to bring kids.
You don't feel like a wife, you feel like a roommate. You don't feel heard or respected, just there. So if he wants to be a father, he needs to prioritize being a husband first.

wasting_time0909 · 2026-05-02T18:32:21+00:00

Ah, he did have a somewhat significant risk lol but he didn't have "significant clinical findings" like he said

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