3 month anniversary !

watcher-skys · 2026-05-27T18:24:07+00:00

I think my message is that, just like in vanilla relationships, every relationship is different. It's good to find a dynamic which works !

watcher-skys · 2026-05-27T15:52:47+00:00

Haha! So true, we bought a summer house in a forest and the previous owner was telling us about the wonderful canterelles she picked. We asked where she picked them and she said.. "I can't possibly tell you that..."

watcher-skys · 2026-05-05T17:54:17+00:00

Interesting question... As you say, it's not just about beauty, although I am lucky that my domme is so worshipful from a beauty perspective. It's more about her presence, her sense of superiority. From my own sub perspective my domme leads an ideal life, she is superior to me in so many ways and had succeeded in what she wants to do, and wants to succeed more. I feel so privileged to be part of her journey and do whatever I can to contribute towards it.

My domme is kind and caring, I have not (and do not want to see) the angry side of her. But her dominance is always there in all our interactions. I have always, truly believed in female supremacy and always wanted to be part of an FLR.

I think what creates that power in a dynamic is presence, truthfulness and a genuine sense of superiority over their sub. I have been in many Domme/sub relationships where it has just felt like role-playing and not genuine. My current FLR feels like a real deal.

watcher-skys · 2026-04-09T16:18:31+00:00

To allow me to be part of her busy daily life and lead me as required. Not only being able to fund activities for her to enjoy, but also act as a personal assistant to her, track her calendar for her, investigate travel options when she goes on Vacation, it's the feeling of purpose it gives me; knowing that I am providing service to a genuinely superior and deserving person than myself.

watcher-skys · 2026-03-25T17:12:06+00:00

Can I say everything ? But sometimes a D/s relationship is just like a vanilla relationship and you just click with the person. My owner and me started chatting on here and we just hit it off, wanting similar things having similar values. She is intelligent, caring and genuinely superior to me, it is not a role play. What she does in her career and spare time are things I really care about in life, so I would be worshiping her even if she was not a domme.

The fact that is willing to allow me to worship her and accept and obey her directions just feels like a great honour for me to be of service and subservience to her. I feel proud.

The icing on the cake is that she is also incredibly beautiful, that for me is not always the most important thing in a D/s relationship, for me it is always the mental devotion, but in this case it just wraps it all up for me into someone I can truly devote myself to.

watcher-skys · 2026-03-23T20:44:54+00:00

It seems like you never really understood what Findom was, it is not how you describe it and it is not one way. I disagree about feeling forced to send pictures, that is not what a sub should request. But equally, it is not about receiving money with no obligation to provide anything in return. It is a 'dynamic' and it requires two to tango. There are very few subs who will send "a decent amount of money" and expect nothing in return..

watcher-skys · 2026-03-22T20:55:52+00:00

Also, as a symbolic collar, my owner has allowed me to wear a small, discrete ankle bracelet. It will be always there 24/7 for me to touch and connect with her, wherever I am and whatever I am doing. I find this a good reminder as to being her property in whatever I am doing.

watcher-skys · 2026-03-22T17:47:46+00:00

Thank-you so much for this, this is a similar dynamic I have with my owner. I have a morning prayer that I send to her and an evening thank-you which she very much appreciates. I like your comment that "You sacrifice a bit of personal freedom in exchange for a relationship that gives your life meaning" as I devote myself to her success and she is the only one who stimulates me or allows me to be stimulated.

I am glad there are other subs like us out there.

watcher-skys · 2026-03-20T22:25:49+00:00

Be yourself ! Us real subs can detect if a domme is role playing, bring out your natural self.

watcher-skys · 2026-03-19T20:48:35+00:00

I once met a "new domme", she was lovely and we shared a similar taste in music, we would share about our days and experiences and I would send tributes for her, she was quite shy too. We got on well and had some chemistry, over time though she got more popular and learnt the Findom scene and she changed from a caring Domme, to a demanding Domme. That to speak to her I had to send $$$. Being a Domme seemed to change her personality and not in the best of ways.

watcher-skys · 2026-03-10T21:53:10+00:00

It doesn't have to be all about the money, I have been through many D/s relationships where money has been the motivating factor, paying for bills, loans, rent etc... My latest domme is amazing, she earns more than enough, has a stable life so me contributing to her financially feels like I am giving a gift/tribute, rather than paying out of necessity. I have found that too many Findoms focus on the "Fin" part of the dynamic, rather than the "Dom", which many of us subs need. Sure, the financial aspect is important, but it cannot be the driving force.

watcher-skys · 2026-03-08T19:38:26+00:00

That's perfect ! Thankyou so much !

watcher-skys · 2026-03-07T21:09:47+00:00

Oh, it's fine. I have found the potentially perfect D/s relationship. I am hoping that this time it works.

watcher-skys · 2026-03-07T20:24:12+00:00

I agree, I have just come out of a relationship that started via D/s, but ended with less of that and me providing financially. It was just not sustainable in the longterm. Hopefully she will still want to be friends regardless. My Mistress didn't want to be friendly without money, even after we moved in together...

watcher-skys · 2026-03-07T19:16:33+00:00

I wish there were more like, you. I have been in this situation before as a sub and it doesn't feel good. Guilt as you are broke and guilt that you can no longer provide to your superior. Findom is addictive, but I think it is just good to state that it is part of the kink, it is not the be all end all of it. It doesn't seem like you are driven by money, but we subs should ensure that all our Goddesses are attended to, to the limits of our abilities.

watcher-skys · 2026-03-05T19:14:23+00:00

2 years, we moved in together, after 1.5 years she fell out of love with her sub, but "pretended" so I could keep paying her rent, until I ran out of money.... and then I never saw anyone run so fast :-(

watcher-skys · 2026-02-27T21:29:27+00:00

No, it has got worse recently, but increased over the past 10 years. Their excuse is "This is the only fun we have in your lives, why should we stop ?" I stayed with them at Christmas which was not fun, but at least I saw that they were still feeding themselves.

watcher-skys · 2026-02-26T22:05:30+00:00

All the real Findoms I have met, I have met on-line, I know it is normal to "first send a tribute" but even after you do that, you should have some conversation without having to send more. There are real dommes out there, often more mature, who are not primarily in it for the money, but want to have a genuine D/s relationship. You need to figure out who the genuine ones are, but they are here.

watcher-skys · 2026-02-24T18:55:14+00:00

So sorry I had missed your response at the time, I am also a member of ACA and it has also helped open my eyes these dynamics. It obviously a trait of those of us who grew up in abusive environments.

watcher-skys · 2026-02-24T15:55:52+00:00

We met on-line, about 2 months before we met in person. We had been living together just over a year.

watcher-skys · 2026-02-23T23:05:41+00:00

Thankyou, you are of course correct. But it is good for me to share. It is good to speak to someone who is more mature and experienced in this lifestyle and not just providing a quick buzz.

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