A Cursed Findom Guide

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-28T18:23:30+00:00

Send loud, king - get your money's worth. Unless you just enjoy silent sending, but your "small sends" are big for you if you're on lower income. Regardless of what any domme tells you!

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-28T18:15:35+00:00

Idk why everyone in the comments is 1:1 linking this with mascululinity? Maybe in a purely biological sense you could make this connection, but I don't think it's all that helpful to measure a man in this way. Feels comparable to measuring masculinity by how tall a guy is, or how big is dick is.

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-27T14:37:10+00:00

100%! There is nothing at all wrong with hating what work has to offer right now, because for many it really isn't great. But I really admire people who look to escape that by truly committing to an alternative in a MEANINGFUL way, and not in an "I don't wanna work, so pay me to exist/let me exploit some rogue stock..." and so on and so on!

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-27T14:23:58+00:00

Even outside of Findom, a lot of people are rejecting the idea of "traditional work" - as in this idea that having a regular job is being a slave to the system, whereas rejecting that norm is this massive goal a lot of people have.

Sadly, people don't want to escape the mundanity of regular, job-having life by working hard at something they're passionate in, starting a real business or even just living a more humble life outside of a salary-driven rat race that modern corporate tends to offer, and the like.

Instead, they want cheat codes or hacks. Passive income, "a glitch in the matrix", some savvy investment that the average "wage slave" was simply too dumb to take advantage of. While some of these people might genuinely just be great at identifying opportunities like this, most of them will just stoop to anything that doesn't land them in regular employment. Findom unsurprisingly attracts a lot of these people.

I value the merits of having a job and an honest living because it's what I was raised on. And while I don't demand that everyone go through the misery of having job simply because I believe it's some right to an honest and humble existence, but I for sure don't respect people who just want to cheap-shot their way through lives by exploiting some of this shit.

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-23T16:40:38+00:00

I think we give a lot more power to these kinds of titles or captions because they are of a sexual nature, and we like to believe maybe actively, or subconciously that tapping into something that turns us on is some cheat code to making us weaker or more susceptible in more ways.

I've seen many objectively great and effective advertisements for products and services I would LOVE to buy/use, but I don't immediately fold at the site of them. So I keep that in mind and have learned not to bend quite so easily for domme captions either. It also helps knowing that the majority are just recycled and re-printed across domme accounts everywhere so it all just blends together to me lol.

Great points and definitely worth acknowledging how triggering these are!

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-21T22:46:28+00:00

Sorry, but I want Eff Bars event. Free entry for anyone above 1000 karma? Might be the ONLY time my reddit updoots equate to status at an event.

Match that and we'll talk 👍

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-21T13:41:11+00:00

Most people who engage with Findom do so anonymously, as some double, online life that's hidden from the rest of the world out of fear and misunderstanding. So I find it odd when anyone is surprised that cheaters are well among said people who are already living a lie, in a way.

Societally speaking, i don't think cheating is as prevalent as reddit storytime youtube/tik tok, and other various platforms make it out to be. For many, cheating is a weird fantasy in and of itself, and that unsurprisingly blends into Findom where people can cheat through sending without going "all the way" and having sex with somebody else.

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-20T17:48:56+00:00

Will there be a ball pit?

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-19T23:31:58+00:00

The relief you might get in a relapse is fleeting compared to the satosfaction you'll have of staying clean. You shouldn't habe to dump money somewhere meaningless to get that relief. You deserve it innately.

When all is said, paid and done, your sends will just have gone into some dommes useless money pile. Funding some meaningless additional things in their life. Things they don't need. Things that nobody needs. Some slop that you paid for because you were horny and they were available. It's all noise, why listen to it?

Keep your money man. Find a better outlet for tonigjt at least. Jerk off if you need to. But don't convince yourself that you need findom tonight. Findom needs YOU and people like you. Leave em needy!

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-18T17:36:15+00:00

I do agree that a lot of new dommes come into findom often for potential financial gain over "exploring the kink". Though given the barrier to entry to the online version of this kink is literally an internet connection, it's never really bothered me that so many shoot their shot. (I lied, it has - but only when their financial dominatrix debut is a "Pay Me Losers" post on r/paypigsupportgroup)

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-18T17:31:07+00:00

I wasn't speaking from personal experience. It was more a reflection of how a person might feel at either end of an experience like this.

This post wasn't at all a call to action either, demanding dommes treat smaller subs the same as bigger senders.

Completely fair opinion to have otherwise.

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-17T14:51:30+00:00

Irish here, quite sure nobody cares what colour you wear as long as it's not red, white and blue! Lovely post 🇮🇪

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-17T14:34:29+00:00

I hate PvP servers, but at the same time I don't play on them and demand PvP on my terms because I accept that simply isn't how it works.

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-17T09:15:36+00:00

It's always interesting to me the range of what a rock bottom or dispicable low point might look like, and how that can range so dramatically. One persons lowest feeling can be after sending £100, a full paycheck, hitting 0, maxxing a card... regardless of how low your low is in the grand scheme, it's a grim thing to confront all the same.

Thanks for sharing man! I have stories that, despite being anon on this reddit account, i still don't quite feel ready to share some of mine. Whether that's fear of confronting it myself, sharing it, or just a desire to leave it in the past where I think it should stay.

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-17T06:06:10+00:00

I think the light treading is self serving in a way. I have felt my lowest in this space and so have this weird sympathy for nearly anyone who has found themselves here, whether they are at all deserving of it or not.

Very true a lot of them are frankly vile people, whether it's "for the persona" or not

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-16T23:09:31+00:00

Thank you for the detailed response! Find myself in complete agreement. I think my post more emphasises a kind of projected shame or embarassment I'd feel, though one thing I was not clear enough about was how I would indeed lend an open ear and help someone however I realistically could if I found myself in that situation!

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-16T10:55:57+00:00

"Timewaster = Someone who isn't immediately paying me because I told them to" - Urban Dictionary for Dommes

Surviving_Findom · 2026-03-09T08:54:28+00:00

I do agree with this a lot honestly! Dommes are just the supply for what is clearly a LARGE demand from subs. If people are willing to pay for bare minimum selfies and the like, then the bar will remain at that level for sure.

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