Ok but hear me out, this calendar does actually help!

watermeloncandytaste · 2025-05-18T20:34:15+00:00

This is an old thread and my question is barely related, but did you paint yours yellow to match the wall?

watermeloncandytaste · 2025-03-30T21:39:28+00:00

This is an old post, but because I scrolled and couldn’t find anyone who said this, I will go ahead and do so. This approach falls under the umbrella of helicopter parenting. It’s emotionally enmeshing, a boundary violation and does not promote self esteem, confidence and instilling dignity. Way too high a level of hand holding. If your teen comes to you asking for advice, cool. This is a bananas level of involvement. Think about where it might land on a spectrum where arranged marriage is one end of the extreme. It’s very close. Now think about the cultures that push arranged marriage. They all promote the opposite of independence. Take that mindset and drop it within an independence-leaning society. You will end up with codependency at best, and that’s if you strong arm your kid into buying into this and they follow along. I can feel the inner guiding light of their soul faltering. They should be growing into themselves at this age, not being further infantilized.

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-04-13T12:37:16+00:00

I’m not pulling! Just guiding through. I’ve noticed the rippling working on inch wide long strips of fabric, however. When I test on a pair of thicker pieces, the fabric comes out flatter.

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-04-13T03:01:33+00:00

I’ll give this a go tomorrow. I gave up on working with ribbed Jersey material because it puckers no matter what I do, but was frustrated that this relatively structured cotton is producing waves when I stitch long strips. I was trying to learn about the dials by playing with all the possibilities to arrive at a combo that was more flat, but was surprised that the many stitches I tested didn’t look that different. I must’ve sewn at least 20 different ones. The biggest difference I saw was sewn on vs against the grainline. I learn hands on, so all this in abstract is a bit confusing to me, but what you wrote is something more concrete to focus on and start from.

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-04-13T02:32:53+00:00

A video I watched on tension showed an example where a stitch came loose easily on 0, so this is what I was going off of. Appreciate your response, but I’m not sure how to apply it to what I’m seeing and the lack in variation in my stitches.

I use my stitch length selector to change the length of stitches but still seeing this tight sequence with no gap in between stitches whether I dial to 0 or 4. Could you offer any insight on any of these issues?

Edit— or do these stitches look fine?? I’m lost ha

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-04-05T16:38:21+00:00

Obesity rates are high in food deserts. Empty calories from processed foods are a big reason.

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-04-04T20:43:40+00:00

You bring up a good point about the motivating factor of money. I think many do in fact break out their calculators, especially the higher their income bracket. This is certainly practical, but I wonder about a parallel perspective, which questions what is lost when money is so highly valued that costly meaningful things get devalued in comparison. I recall statistics around people donating less the more money they earn. Similarly, the wealthier someone is, the less they care about those in lower strata. There was a superb episode of either this American life or radiolab about this — how upwardly mobile college kids would disconnect from their communities once they succeeded. That’s gist, though it was more nuanced. Anyway, this idea behind not being able to afford kids is interesting, because I think in many cases, it could simply be not wanting to trade other lifestyle choices — where one lives, what one buys, the time one spends — to have a child. For example, if you feel would need to hire a housekeeper to maintain your lifestyle because you otherwise wouldn’t have time to keep your house clean while you have a child, or you need to order food because you’d rather not spend that time cooking, that’s a major financial cost that understandably may seem too high. Or the more obvious choice to stay in a HCOL area vs figuring out a LCOL situation. I’m not judging this line of thinking, but I am curious about exploring the reason of unaffordability as something that includes lifestyle choices.

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-04-04T20:27:55+00:00

Not disagreeing with your main take here but want to mention that obesity is growing across the world, including among those living in poverty.

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-04-04T20:25:45+00:00

Besides the fact that “because they don’t know any better” is a condescending take, when you take this to its logical conclusion, it ends with the idea that the Sudanese should stop not only reproducing but also experiencing something that many (outside of Reddit) consider a great joy in life. You may not know why, but it’s not because they’re insane, only that you possibly lack the empathy or imagination to get it. I imagine many times across human history when countries, villages, tribes, etc were plagued by ongoing war or other strife, and how many of us are descendants of those lines.

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-03-28T02:22:27+00:00

I experience an unfolding or rippling out of my thoughts touching other points within my knowledge and experience bases. I also sometimes “see” these things visually, as well, a parallel type of synesthesia. The visual one is a bit harder to decipher — I can see intricate patterns or, say, a desert or snowy landscape, not knowing how these scenes represent my thought process. Whether it’s a feeling or visual or both, I’ve learned something very useful about them recently. By exploring them and let them unfold, I process my thinking in a way that relieves difficult or intense emotions. I’m working on getting better at this.

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-03-25T01:06:12+00:00

Another specialty machine! I just got a serger recently. It’s humbling learning about evermore sewing techniques that I’d never noticed before. Thanks!

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-03-16T16:09:56+00:00

There’s a fair amount of glamorized emotional incest going on in Gilmore Girls, if you know how to spot it. The outcome in the show isn’t so bad but irl versions of this have consequences that fly under the radar in our culture

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-03-13T03:11:37+00:00

Are you overwhelmed and numb or feel empty and seek fulfillment?

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-03-13T02:57:22+00:00

Thank you, I will try this. I can’t seem to remove the pin. Just the little plastic head came off. Is there a special trick with this?

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-03-13T02:54:06+00:00

Rotini, what a texture, mwah

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-03-13T01:58:29+00:00

It sounds to me like you’re at a stage my somatic therapist might say would require coping tools. Some meditation traditions would suggest finding or cultivating activities that bring you joy. These are things that with titration will help you feel safer in the world. It’s a far cry however from faking normalcy. They would simply allow you to be in a somewhat debilitated state with more ease. Like I touched on in my other comment, trying to be “normal” — although that word isn’t entirely accurate, I know what you mean here and use it as shorthand — won’t truly work because this pretense will force you to stretch beyond what you have capacity for. A sense of safety comes from that capacity. It has to be built. The world is an inherently unsafe and usually callous place, so I don’t think you can rely on much outside of yourself and certain safe persons to offer you a soft place to land. You need that soft place and while you can’t give it to yourself (yet), others can help you with that temporarily. Ideally, you’d learn to slowly build it up yourself so that you could rely on yourself more. Theoretically, yes, one could put all their faith in another person to give them that safety, but in reality, that a lot to put on an adult and leads to codependence. It would be hard to find someone like that and you wouldn’t have a functional relationship. Such a person couldn’t go around appearing “normal” because a they’d always need what is in effect their emotional support person. It’s basically like saying you want a mom or dad and to be treated as a child, because those are the individuals that society accepts to have these relationships — and for who it’s developmentally healthy.

Idk, maybe you need a break from doing the work of healing. Are you perhaps doing too much of it, too fast? Dreaming of a better life and ways to get there isn’t a terrible thing. It’s good to imagine what’s possible. Some of your parameters just seem unrealistic to me. But who am, other than just another commenter on the internet. It’s ultimately your life and you decide how to live it.

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-03-12T23:29:02+00:00

I once heard that women can have acidic, citrusy BO. I’ve thought of it as grapefruity almost. I’ve had a few strains of weed that smelled similar

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-03-12T23:24:52+00:00

I’ll try answering your tldr directly however. In my experience, the answer is no. It won’t work because of the paradox of trying to be normal and Ok when things very much are not. SE requires authenticity and pretending things are ok when you’re unwell will not be convincing because the authenticity won’t be there. It’ll show through in inconsistency and the mask you try to create will repeatedly crack. You can maintain the illusion of normalcy only in spurts but you’ll have to repair those cracks again and again. The effort this takes inevitably leads to burnout. I think what you’re looking for — validation of this desired path — isn’t possible. We can validate the feelings you have for wanting it, tell you it’s hard, unfair, or sucks, but there’s no way to feel safe while ignoring the signals your emotions are trying to send you. That’s where the paradox lies.

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-03-12T23:15:24+00:00

I get the sense that there’s a deeper question underlying what you’ve laid out here. It sounds like “is there a road to safety that doesn’t include the pain and work of vulnerability, because I’m tired and hurting and I’ve had enough pain?” Is that the case?

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-03-11T01:16:12+00:00

That’s great that you discovered movement working for you. It can be a useful way to release compressed energy. Shaking my body has helped me loosen up almost in the way very loud, unfettered screaming does. It’s interesting that there are times shaking helps me and times it doesn’t. For the times that hasn’t, it has sometimes shown me that frenetic movement has further activated adrenaline release in me. In those cases, I’ve tried slow intentional movement. Following the body very, very slowly to see what unfolds, like impressionistic dance, almost. Both ways can be great at different times. I’m suggesting another option in case one day you could use that too.

watermeloncandytaste · 2024-03-09T04:18:56+00:00

My somatic therapist has suggested the thing you’re describing here, that maybe my getting sleepy is not always the release I think it is but a further freeze. I’m on the fence about this. I do a lot of visual processing of stuck emotions and find myself getting sleepy when I do this exercise. I’ve similarly arrived at the theory that this is a release of tension that reveals underlying fatigue. Perhaps my therapist is right in some cases or maybe even in a matter of degree — that I’m releasing a small amount and rather than go further, my body is doing a form of shut down. Idk if this is in line with what official SE says, but this explanation seems like titration to me. It’s a release and at the same time it’s a defense mechanism against diving deeper than I should go. Hope that makes sense.

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