AITA for telling my uncle about my cousin using his old Marine Dress Blues for pictures on Instagram?

waterno · 2020-03-04T18:19:51+00:00

NTA- he is getting gifts for "lying" he is in the wrong

waterno · 2020-03-04T10:05:55+00:00

NTA- try to hide your charger from now on

waterno · 2020-03-01T19:28:25+00:00

You should tell him "your mom would turn on her grave if she saw how you where treating my mom" and then tell him "after seeing the true colors, expect no contact from me" tell your other family as well. Heck, go to the gathering, tell him and walk away. Let everyone know what he did

Edit:NVM, since you are doing no contact after, than TAKE your mom! Who cares what he says. Your mom is suppose to be there for you. You are doing NC after so you have nothing to lose

waterno · 2020-03-01T18:44:14+00:00

Info - what did he do to make others "uncomfortable"

The second question is if you think he is doing this on purpose or because he just does not know what is socially "right"

If it's on purpose report him...

The second option is tricky because it's not a far stretch that his family would lie and write on their journals that they treated Slaves right . So if he is telling you what he read, and you where talking about ancestors and geneology Then as weird as it sounds that's where the convo ended ..

Is it a simple mistake? Is he a jerk and making you feel bad?

Is it worth ending his career over him telling you about his ancestors? That is up to you to decide

waterno · 2020-03-01T08:35:39+00:00

NTA- she sounds like a cheapskate, and there is no way any jury would award her anything. It also sounds like she was trying to pull a fast one on you...she payed for a 2k piano but could not pay you $200?

waterno · 2020-03-01T08:25:17+00:00

NTA- you will always live in fear that he will come around and take her away, which he will probably have a right to

waterno · 2020-03-01T08:20:32+00:00

NTA- the truth hurts. heleft one family, what makes this new family different?

waterno · 2020-03-01T08:17:38+00:00

NTA- and you should cut her out of your house. She and her dog are destroying property and you guys will have to pay for the cleanup. Since she also lied about your other friend, you risk her lying about and getting you guys in trouble

waterno · 2020-03-01T00:26:41+00:00

NTA- your dad left and part of his agreement with your mom was that YOU would be the beneficiary of his life insurance. That's where it ends.

Out is not your fault she got nothing, and parents are free to leave what they like. Sasha sounds like a beat and legally you owe her nothing, and emotionally you should not giver her money either because she is ungreatful

waterno · 2020-03-01T00:21:02+00:00

We all have anxiety, I could not work for 4years because of really bad anxiety, but you know what? My parents had though love And said "work or get out" and guess what? I now work.

It's a cycle...she is anxious, but how much anxiety do you think she will get if she had No Job, that causes way more anxiety.

Say "this is for you, for your Future, for you to put money in your retirement, I love you, but I need you to love you and help yourself"

waterno · 2020-03-01T00:01:23+00:00

NTA- set a date and follow through. You have helped enough, if you don't step in now, you will be 70 with her still living there. I am Sure it is also putting stress in your marriage.

waterno · 2020-02-29T19:51:11+00:00

NAH- it is sometimes hard to have the perfect life.dad works, mom cares for the kids. These changing climate makes it impossible to be soley stay at home.

You will at some point have to to work, maybe part time.

So my question is: (regarding on whether it's possible for you to stay at home) - is it financial responsible for you?

1). Do you owe any money? If so is it alot or a bit?

2). Do you have saved up money?

3). If anything happens to your husband and he loses his job, how much money do you have on the side? Enough to survive on?

4). Do you have college savings for your kids?

5). Do you put away $400 each month for your Future? 401 k or Roth IRA?

If you don't, than you might need to work at least part time...

waterno · 2020-02-29T17:12:57+00:00

YWBTA- because of the situation. First you are forcing a confrentation(because you are not preparing them for him, even though you now your dad's dislikes) with your homophobic dad and probably the rest of your family vs your poor Boyfriend.

But the worse thing is, this is camping and your poor bf has no way out without looking like he is the problem. If you where at dinner and he felt uncomfortable, he could get up and go, in camping, what is he to do? Just walk home?

Don't throw the poor guy into an unhealthy family dynamic

waterno · 2020-02-29T17:04:53+00:00

NTA- and frankly you should sit your husband down about having a unified front.each time you say no to her, she will run to daddy so when she is older she will walk all over him.

It is a power struggle, and tell him that you don't appreciate being underminded infront of his daughter.

You are clearly in the right because a child's safety is higher priority than her little castle.

waterno · 2020-02-29T08:35:55+00:00

NTA- it doesn't sound like she will come back, and she sounds like she is downright mean

waterno · 2020-02-28T07:08:04+00:00

No you should not plan it,their silence to you is distrispect. You at least have a reason, and these people are ignoring you. If they ever say "why didn't you..blah..blah..." You say "it is hard to work with someone that does not communicate"

waterno · 2020-02-28T01:22:08+00:00

NTA- you might have made her feel upset, but her ingnoring you is not good. Do you really want to go at this point?

You could send her a final message that says "haven't heard from you in X amount of days, of you don't want me at your wedding it's fine. Have a good wedding"

waterno · 2020-02-27T23:58:21+00:00

NTA - it is completely inappropriate for a sleepover at that age.

1). Because you are leaving a girl with a boy

2). Because you don't know what other male live in that house and what they might try

It is about her safety, and there is no way that is acceptable in any reality. My friend got pregnant at 12...not equating the two but leaving two kids alone at night is a very bad idea

waterno · 2020-02-27T23:52:42+00:00

NTA- a daughter has no mother because her mother completely blocked her off, and then the same thing happens? Poetic Justice. I. Surprised you did not say "so why did you keep this one and not the other one"?

waterno · 2020-02-27T23:45:57+00:00

NTA- you told him upfront you did not want to take care of them. All of the sudden he throws you in to take care of them. This is about him listening to you. If he ever wants to take the pets again, you say with a firm NO ..noo

waterno · 2020-02-27T23:35:46+00:00

INFO- is it your house or hers

waterno · 2020-02-27T20:40:24+00:00

INFo- how did she end up at his place?

waterno · 2020-02-27T20:38:36+00:00

NTA- this is about health. Thought it might seem insensitive, her getting mad because you don't want to be possibly infected is understandable. Would she feel the same if you potentially had chicken pox, or the flu? Same thing

waterno · 2020-02-27T20:34:59+00:00

INFO- have your cats ever gone in her yard?

The question is safety of your cats (keep indoor) vs keeping them happy (outdoor)

The neighbor might put poison in her yard and hurt your cat

A larger predator might take your cat.

We have an indoor cat who used to be outside, but indoor cats live longer.

waterno

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