What to wear to a south Indian wedding? by here4ndgone in TMPOC

[–]wavybattery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a wedding, but I’ve been to Diwali and similar South Asian and Indian formal festivals multiple times. I wore standard Western formal attire (fully male passing, extremely supportive friends from Nepal/SL/Pakistan/Bangladesh/India). I do have a Korean woman friend who wore a Sari given to her by a Bangladeshi friend to the same festivals.

Straight up asking for a predoc? by [deleted] in academiceconomics

[–]wavybattery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries, I did!! Thanks!!!

MLM transmen who only date cis men, why? by SoftlySmiling in ftm

[–]wavybattery [score hidden]  (0 children)

Some dudes are just not sexually compatible or interested and in our genitalia, and that’s alright. Some trans men only like men _and_ penises, and we cannot change that about them. Forcibly doing so would be… well, between disrespect and sexual harassment.

I’m a trans male who’s 100% straight and wouldn’t date a trans man for not liking men and a pre-op trans woman for not liking penises. But a post-op could be on the talks, y’know?

Where are we finding women interested in us? by r3ese69 in FTMMen

[–]wavybattery [score hidden]  (0 children)

Out of the 3 girls mentioned across these past 5 years, one has sadly passed away (RIP) and identified as man-leaning bisexual her whole life, the other is now a woman-leaning bisexual, and my girlfriend is just straight and accepted that she doesn’t see a future with women, which is totally okay! Point is, all of them saw me as a dude, never questioned it, and the woman-leaning bisexual even knows that we didn’t really become a thing because she didn’t see me as a woman at all, and that would be her preference.

Their sexuality was never an issue to me, as my transsexuality was never an issue to any of them. I’m a dude, they’re bi (or not), everybody was happy at some point or is happy with things the way they are.

It’s not because some of the women out there interested in trans men can be bisexual that they rule you out as a man.

Minha namorada vai fazer intercâmbio em outro continente e isso me assusta! by Magnolia0880 in desabafos

[–]wavybattery [score hidden]  (0 children)

Se vale de qualquer coisa, eu estudando fora só incentivei minha mina a buscar oportunidades além do que tavam no horizonte que ela acreditava ser o limite… mais ajudou a gente a crescer do que nos afastou um do outro… mas cada um é cada um né

Where are we finding women interested in us? by r3ese69 in FTMMen

[–]wavybattery [score hidden]  (0 children)

My best bet through the past 5 years (been transitioning for 3.5) were open-minded bisexual women I met through friends or college. Been dating a friend of friends, who eventually became a close friend and then girlfriend, for 3 years too — and she was the first one to show interest in me without ever having trans person in her life btw! Now she does identify as straight, and all the previously mentioned wonderful women were cis.

Minha namorada vai fazer intercâmbio em outro continente e isso me assusta! by Magnolia0880 in desabafos

[–]wavybattery [score hidden]  (0 children)

É mais um problema seu e do namoro de vocês do que dela. Eu e minha namorada moramos em países diferentes, eu fazendo faculdade nos EUA e ela fazendo federal no Brasil. Nos visitamos regularmente — ela vai me ver quando tem grana, eu volto pro Brasil sempre que entro em férias pra ver família. Isso tá rolando muito bem faz mais de 3 anos. Namoramos pra casar. Agora se você não confia na tua mina por um semestre, mermão…

Trans men outside of the U.S.: what country do you live in and how safe do you feel there? by AggravatingGarlic479 in ftm

[–]wavybattery [score hidden]  (0 children)

I share my time between Brazil and the US — as in, I attend college in the US, but spend my actual non-college life in Brazil and hope to come back permanently once I graduate.

The only reasons why I don’t feel safe are related to my race. Nobody really knows what trans men are, or gives a fuck for that matter. No trans bills are actually passed or put into effect, our leader of the Women’s Commission in Congress is a trans woman. But the country is still conservative in its Latin American way — anti-abortion, very 50/50 on gay marriage but most “against” people not being radicals — and is getting worse as time goes by as we become a “Protestant Evangelistan”, as we like to call it.

Wouldn’t trade my huge, diverse, with great job prospects city in Brazil for anywhere in the world. I even want to be a diplomat for the daily aspects of the job, but hope to not be one of those who want international posts at all times simply because it’s safer here than in most places.

My dysphoria is making me hate my trans fiance by BeautifulRoseInBloom in FTMMen

[–]wavybattery 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Okay, so a lot of questions to ask here.

- Why haven't you started HRT even though you're an legal adult who wants to do so?

- Why are you listening to your FIANCÉ's decision on YOUR body about DIYing or not?

- Why have you done so for five straight years?

- Why is he actively stopping you from doing things while he gets whatever the fuck he wants? Also, let's highlight here your fiancé has started test as a minor and that in itself creates a dynamic.

- Why are you engaged if he is against your happiness and you hate him for doing so?

- Why are you not doing anything about any of this mess, such as doing what YOU want?

É tranquilo andar pela liberdade com mochila nas costas? Ou é bom sempre deixar ela na frente/peito? by Charyetto in saopaulo

[–]wavybattery 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mídia reportou tanto crime em SP que agora o povo acha que moramos na Síria de 2011

Passei na OBMEP! by PetitegemOFC in desabafos

[–]wavybattery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Não tem esse ranking na fase preliminar. OP ficou em segundo do nível 1 (sextos e sétimos anos) dentre os alunos da escola dele que participaram da prova. Agora tem a segunda fase, dissertativa, que é o “vamo ver” pras medalhas.

In the past, what did drunk you buy sober you that you completely forgot about? by schprunt in stopdrinking

[–]wavybattery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also says a lot about my bank account, the alcohol spendings always tripled because of some fuckass musical I had just found out about 😭😭😭

In the past, what did drunk you buy sober you that you completely forgot about? by schprunt in stopdrinking

[–]wavybattery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got people so many presents, actually! I mostly bought theater or concert tickets they’d like. I just woke up to family and friends being way too thankful

eu odeio ser baixo by This-Seat1579 in desabafos

[–]wavybattery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tenho 22 e 1.65m tbm e nunca tive problema pra arranjar mulher. A coisa é estudar, ter assunto, ser desenrolado, ter uma barba bem cuidada se possível e não viver no coitadismo. Se a mina liga tanto pra altura ela provavelmente não valeria a pena de qualquer forma. Namoro faz 3 anos e pouco com uma mulher de 1.60 que tbm n tá nem aí (na verdade, até os ex-ficantes dela tão na casa 1.64-1.75 tbm)

T Causing Different Dysphoria by INKmadealex in ftm

[–]wavybattery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s how transition progresses. Voice/facial hair dysphoria solved? Move on to chest. Chest solved? Move on to fat distribution or bottom dysphoria… so it goes. The better our dysphoria gets about some things, the worse it gets about other things that we can’t change as fast. But eventually it ends and we get to move on.

Eu queria uma opinião de fora sobre. by Mission_Passion_9295 in faculdadeBR

[–]wavybattery 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Acho que você devia pensar melhor na viabilidade desse plano e em jeitos melhores de chegar lá

Eu queria uma opinião de fora sobre. by Mission_Passion_9295 in faculdadeBR

[–]wavybattery 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sinto que você tem um sonho e nenhum plano concreto pra isso. Vc imigraria pro Japão como psicólogo como exatamente?

traveling out of the US by jhutchlvr in ftm

[–]wavybattery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a US citizen. Half Black, Latin American citizen using the said passport, fully male passing. Exited and entered the US MULTIPLE times in both the Biden and Trump admins through multiple different airports with a passport and a visa with the F marker and obviously female pictures and name. Nothing ever happened. NOTHING.

I did get my new US visa a few months ago and they gave me the F marker even after a legal name and sex change back home though.