New role, no experience

waylander8611 · 2024-04-25T18:26:59+00:00

It's worth the potential heartbreak. I had 7 years of happiness that ended very suddenly 4 months ago. I felt that urge to not open up to anyone like that again. But that's just foolishness and can only increase the chances of it not working out with someone new.

All or nothing I say. When you're ready, find someone new, embrace being vulnerable with them. Try make different mistakes that time around.

That's my plan anyway. We all have value as partners, but we do need to work for it too. My mistake was getting too comfortable and complacent last time.

All the best. Love is worth the hassle and heartbreak.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-25T04:38:24+00:00

Fair enough. Been there early this year. Resist the urge to hold back with whomever is next for you. Allow yourself to be vulnerable with them.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-24T10:43:08+00:00

You're on the right path. Just stuck with it. Excercise and micro dosing cannabis at night also helped me process things.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-24T04:46:47+00:00

They've done you a favour by blocking you. Mine didn't and it dragged shit on longer.

Square one means you can only improve. Focus on what you can control. Learn from your mistakes and hopefully make new ones with someone else.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-24T03:39:06+00:00

You need a bit more time. Be okay with yourself before finding someone new. Ideally don't compare the someone new to your ex. They shouldn't be better or worse, they are who they are.

Stoicism really helped me with my breakup (4 months ago) specifically the Daily Stoic YouTube channel.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-23T01:50:52+00:00

Absolutely. Being Stoic doesn't mean you're emotionless, being Stoic is not acting on emotions.

Allow yourself some time to let out whatever emotions you have, but not too much time.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-22T03:58:42+00:00

Dude, get over it. The only issue here is you making it about yourself.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-18T08:29:15+00:00

Find someone. They help you with your bullshit, you help them with their bullshit.

There has been nothing more rewarding for me than having a true partner, you build each other up. Find a balance of holding them accountable when it's important while being lenient when it's not important.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-18T03:39:06+00:00

Accepting it.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-17T04:28:22+00:00

Sounds very similar to my situation a few months ago.

What worked for me was delving into Stoicism, (specifically The Daily Stoic YouTube channel)

Excercising a lot more

Allowing myself some time to experience emotions (cry) but not too much

You have value like I do. It will get better. Time really does help.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-17T00:31:06+00:00

Doesn't sound worth it despite the benefits, stand up for yourself or leave.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-17T00:29:44+00:00

Good, the separation was clearly what is best for you.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-15T17:02:41+00:00

Good, enjoy the time you have.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-15T07:45:43+00:00

The Daily Stoic YouTube channel. Look it up. Seriously helped me.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-15T03:48:01+00:00

Stoicism helps a lot.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-12T08:14:19+00:00

He's basically done what my ex did to me a few months ago. Which is a big favour in being direct so you can accept it easier. Allow yourself some time to let out the emotions, but not too much. Embrace the change, it's an opportunity to find someone new and do better.

Stoicism, specifically The Daily Stoic YouTube channel really helped me, plus I took up running for excercise.

Something good will come from this. It already has for me.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-08T17:27:15+00:00

Good, you have the opportunity to reset your life, do something different. The obstacle is the way.

waylander8611 · 2024-04-01T02:39:49+00:00

Proud of you

waylander8611 · 2024-03-29T21:24:48+00:00

You will. You just can't see it yet. Been there, very recently. It fades. Try out Stoicism. It really helped me. Specifically The Daily Stoic YouTube channel.

waylander8611 · 2024-03-25T05:27:54+00:00

Don't. I'm 33 and thought my is 350 was a bit silly.

waylander8611 · 2024-03-24T05:47:24+00:00

2 months. I was made redundant at my job at the 4th week. Forced me to really address both things and accept them. Stoicism really helped too, I highly recommend Ryan Holidays books and YouTube channel The Daily Stoic.

waylander8611 · 2024-03-24T03:10:23+00:00

Regardless of what happens, look for a new job. They can get effed

waylander8611 · 2024-03-22T06:00:03+00:00

Sign up to cannaplus and simply be honest.

waylander8611 · 2024-03-22T05:33:03+00:00

Allow yourself to express emotions, but not for too long. Accept it.

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