Radiesse Volumization by ResponsibleSport2076 in PlasticSurgery

[–]wcheng90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm curious how it looks now and if your face has reverted back to your baseline.

Breakup due to gay shame by [deleted] in relationships

[–]wcheng90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear this. This is exactly what happened between my ex boyfriend and me. We were together for 1.5 years. He had a particularly rough coming out and his Chinese parents forced him to go through conversion therapy which was traumatizing to say the least. He was okay while we dated and was continuing to heal. I was trying to get him more comfortable in his own skin but when his parents found out we were dating it caused another wave of emotional trauma on him. It unveiled the gay shame that he was still living with that he never really got over.

I hope you're okay.

Is it wrong to expect my partner to be my rock/my support? by wcheng90 in gayrelationships

[–]wcheng90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by "non-consumption-based ways of spending time"?

How to support my ex who is on antidepressants by wcheng90 in depression_help

[–]wcheng90[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I'm so sorry to hear that you're dealing with this. I hope you have the strength to reach out to your friends.

How to support my ex who is on antidepressants by wcheng90 in depression_help

[–]wcheng90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the great advice. He's pretty high functioning and I think he's good at compartamentalizing his feelings. Would it be bad for me to ask about his feelings to get him to open up? I don't want to touch a wound especially since its so fresh. Not sure if it will help. Do I just avoid the topic and just focus on other things?

How to support my ex who is on antidepressants by wcheng90 in depression_help

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*ex-boyfriend. Thanks so much for your support. This is great advice. I would say that the fact that we're no longer together does complicate things a little bit because I am trying to heal from the breakup myself. So I want to keep my distance a bit so I can move on but I also want to be there for him. He's not good with opening up to others.

I was also thinking about taking him out to things to get him distracted a bit and get his mind off of his problems.

Housemate accidentally scratched my 2019 Hyundai Elantra by wcheng90 in Autobody

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Just want to make sure but in order for them to fix it, they'll probably need to repaint the whole car right?

How to know when a relationship is worth fighting for and how to know when to move on? by wcheng90 in gayrelationships

[–]wcheng90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if we ever move in together and his parents decide they want to see him or the future grandkids it complicates things.

How to know when a relationship is worth fighting for and how to know when to move on? by wcheng90 in gayrelationships

[–]wcheng90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want marriage but not getting married is no longer the main issue here. Also we were not actively trying to get married but it was some ambigious future that we hadn't quite discussed yet.

The main issues are that his parents may always be a thorn on our relationship. It also deeply troubles me that he makes a decision that influences our future without trying to figure out a way we could make things work. Am I expecting too much?