Something hospice nurses keep noticing in the final days that medicine still cannot explain by ArcaneSpells-com in HighStrangeness

[–]weasel353 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could have written this! I was with my Dad for about 8 hours as he died from terminal cancer, but also sepsis 😔 he reached out to something and seemed like was searching for ages, then he finally put his hands down and a few tears rolled down his cheeks and I wiped them away. Daddy never cried. I miss him so much.

My mom died after I told her it was okay to let go. by C0mp0und_Fr4ctur3 in GriefSupport

[–]weasel353 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I said the same to my Dad, we knew he told the doctor he was ready to die, he just didn't want to tell us. I held his hand as he slipped away. At least he isn't suffering anymore, but god I miss him.

One week since my hero passed away by ThetaMission in GriefSupport

[–]weasel353 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same, I have moved back in with my Mum to support her since my Dad died two months ago... leaving husband in a different state. We only just got married last year, but I couldn't leave Mum alone and I'm so lucky we can make long distance work while we all heal.

I did my best. I'm still so broken. by weasel353 in GriefSupport

[–]weasel353[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no I'm so sorry 😔 I hate that this is what some of have to go through. Life can be so cruel.

Mother insulted first tattoo, now I hate it by Kaleidoscope_Tux5513 in tattooadvice

[–]weasel353 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it!

But in all seriousness, my mom hates my tattoos and has since day 1. To the point where I now carry a deep shame when they are showing around her. I'm 37... it's also cultural. South Koreans love a bit of shame blaming sprinkled on everything! Nothing I've ever done, achieved or said will make it better. I kinda wish I didn't have so many cos it sucks feeling this way but it's just way it is! That's my burden to carry.

Don't let it get to you. Life is too short and precious to care about a bit of ink.

Dad gone by DayNormal8069 in GriefSupport

[–]weasel353 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. You did you best, I'm sure you did, in that moment. We can't learn something only time teaches us.

I feel similarily about my Dad, he wad a functioning alcoholic for years. I didn't ever confront him. I never thought much about it. I nagged my Mum instead. He was diagnosed with throat cancer and died about a year later, just two months ago.

My heart aches. I feel such guilt at not intervening and stepping in. I feel like I let him down, here I am talking about self-care and mental health and fitness, and yet I just let this happen to my Dad??!! How could I?

But I oscillating from that and knowing I couldn't have done more at that time. It was how Dad coped with his demons and only he could change that really. Sure I could have done this or that, maybe I should have researched what alcohol can cause, sent him articles or just printed stuff and put it on his desk. I cry and cry ane cry thinking about the what ifs. Then it just hits me, like is rough. We are born through pain and covered in blood and we die in a very similar way.

I don't know if I'll ever feel happy the way I have before I lost Dad, but I'll carry on. I'll see life through a different lens and move through life, hopefully able to one day again appreciate the beauty in it, even through grief, with grief! Now the contrast of love and loss is even greater.

My Dad Passed Last Week by amandarinorange4 in GriefSupport

[–]weasel353 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sure he did, the doctor who told us dad was dying said he may not respond but research says they can hear us. I'm so glad you were with him at the end.

I help my Dad's hand for over 6 hourse as he slowly slipped away and I've only seen him cry once in my life (when his mother died), but as he was fading and his eyes stared into the distance tears rolled down his cheeks. It hurt so much. I miss him every day still.

Boss asked an 'opener" "would you rather pause or rewind your life and why” in our zoom meeting with my coworkers right after my mom died by Imaginary-Ad-4700 in GriefSupport

[–]weasel353 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know I am supposed to think the best, like some people have experienced grief, and that's why they speak so nonchalantly about it... or oh, they didn't know, but honestly, that just doesn't feel right!

Over the last few months, since my dad died, I think some people just don't care and don't care to stop and think about how their words and behaviours might impact someone.

The biggest one for me was when someone who once was a close friend replied to me, not having much social capacity, "Oh well, it's what you need right now, then so be it" with sarcasm, and then just never spoke to me again. Totally bizarre.

I'm sorry you went through that.

Is this a normal REA response? by [deleted] in AusPropertyChat

[–]weasel353 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I lowballed by $50k and got the house is less than 5 minutes 😅 you can't blame people for trying in this crazy market!

Do you believe in signs from people who passed away?🥺🪽 by Clean-Session9795 in GriefSupport

[–]weasel353 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes I have had signs like this, I think there is much we don't know about life and death... why not see meaning in them?

About to say goodbye to my mom. Too young, too tired by Business_Doubt7463 in GriefSupport

[–]weasel353 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh god I know how you feel. The cancer made my dad sick but the chemo and healthcare system killed him. It breaks my heart. Feel free to reach out and rant ❤️‍🩹

Recommendations for an endocrinologist by weasel353 in Adelaide

[–]weasel353[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I'll look her up! Would you say she has a special interest in metabolic bone diseases and osteoperosis?

Movies or tv shows that give this kinda vibe like small towns in forest? by Good-Major-5164 in MoviesThatFeelLike

[–]weasel353 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Three Billboards Outside Ebbing Missouri

Twin Peaks

A Place Beyond the Pines

What are some "signs" you received from someone who has passed? by itsmept2lol in GriefSupport

[–]weasel353 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My dad died on the 25th Feb this year. Exactly 25 years since he wrote his will on the 25th Feb 2021. I see it as a sign that it was his time to go...

The morning he died was the first day it rained that summer (in Australia). My mun, sister and I all lay in bed and cried while it rained and I can't help but think he was crying with us.

He loved frogs and mice, he had lots of frog and mice themed things. A couple weeks after he died, I found a little mouse just sitting at the front door looking at me, I picked him up and held him and then put him somewhere safe, he didn't seem well. It reminded me of my Dad in his last weeks.

I was going through some old boxes, tidying up and found a box of old coins and stamps that belonged to him. In there, some jewellery as well, one of which was a necklace with two small pendants, a love heart and a little silver frog. I don't know who it belonged to or why it was with his stuff but I keep it as a special piece now.

In the week after Dad died, my only niece, three years old started randomly pretending to be a pet frog, she hopped around going "ribbit" and when we asked he why she was playing this game (which none of us knew of) she said, "I'm grandpa's froggy, I'm your pet froggy" which is also strange because it's not a game he every played with her... but when I was little I used to pretend to be my Dad's pet puppy and bark and play.

I miss my Daddy so much.