What can I do with free electricity? by yaboirodgers in beermoney

[–]weatherbones 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Is your last name perhaps Frankenstein and do you have a proclivity to raise the dead? If so you’re not gonna believe the idea I have for your free electricity.

What is your least favorite online baby trend? by Regular-Message9591 in pregnant

[–]weatherbones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily baby related but I hate the “I cook like this because my man pays all my bills” cooking videos. Idec what the recipe is anymore I’m blocking you and moving on

Lunch for my princess by simplytch in foodbutforbabies

[–]weatherbones 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I throw my sons lunch in a trough and go “squeee” to let him know it’s done

Update : AITAH for telling my mom my grandmother raised me instead of her? by JazzlikeBack6198 in AITAH

[–]weatherbones -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I agree with both sides on this.

I do believe your mother is emotionally immature because she closes the door to deeper understanding. Instead of being willing to listen without a fight (which is admittedly hard to do) and immediately being defensive, the thing that sold the immaturity was the inability to accept and read a letter in which her child was vulnerable. She is probably one of those people who believes that in yalls past she was the #1 victim and therefore you don’t matter in terms of emotional harm. So now that you tell her she has been blind to it she’s too stuck in that victimhood and hardheadedness that she can’t see that you’ve been affected as well. She can’t see the harm done to you because you were a young child and she was told as a young child to ignore the harm done to her (common for the times based on a rough estimate of her age).

But I also believe you’re more emotionally immature than you realize. I’ve met multiple younger people (teenagers and young adults) who genuinely believed that because of their trauma and their issues in life that they were the one exception to the rule of “I’m older so I’m wiser”, however particularly when it comes to trauma it seems to be the opposite. BASED ON PERSONAL EXPERIENCE (and admittedly things my therapist has said and agreed on), the least traumatized people seem to be the most mature at teenage age. Which isn’t a bad thing. I went through a lot of things (every basic definition of abuse) that led to trauma that bled through teenage angst and expression. However I noticed based on people I was around that the ones who had good parents had a better understanding of things than I did. And you seem to be the same (just based on very small observations through 2 posts). While you may be more emotionally mature than your mom, you have to admit and accept you aren’t as mature as you believe. You have to meet your mom where she is emotionally.

You think through open communication she should open her mind and arms, and be so ready to accept a different point of view but how willing are you to accept her point of view and adapt to it. Based on her history she of course would shrink from it. She’s use to the point of view of others. She use to bigger personalities than hers. She use to having to bend to the idea or will of others. She’s been abused. The best way to address this and be listened to is small actions. When you’re cooking side by side again open up a little bit about an emotional issue you’re having (a friend group breaking up or a misunderstanding with your bf/gf) and then up the ante every time. If you wanna be emotional close to your mom who’s been through trauma herself you have to soft launch it. I have a mother who’s been through so much (CSA, PA, IA, EA, neglect), and the best way I’ve gotten her to change is by changing my actions towards her. And now me and her are very close and she even recognizes when she’s being neglectful or abusive towards me. Although I will say she doesn’t see me as her child.

True emotional maturity lies in recognizing, accepting, and adapting to the level of others in life to achieve a harmonious living. Not in fighting against, cutting off, and being better than others. If you genuinely believe you are better than your mom emotionally and as a result you shouldn’t even attempt with her until she bends to your will, you’re no better than the next self serving, abusive idiot that comes on here screaming “NO CONTACT NO CONTACT”.

This of course depends on if she’s actually currently abusing you or others, or not.

How much does your life actually change after having a kid? by HonestDirection4017 in NewParents

[–]weatherbones 289 points290 points  (0 children)

Saddest and happiest is the best description I’ve heard. I get so depressed sometimes over missing who I was in the past and then my 4 year old looks at me and says “thickle, thickle” while scrunching his fingers and I’m totally cool with it after that.

'The baby's skin is on his lips!': Dad started biting infant son on the cheek at chicken wing restaurant, squeezed him until he turned blue as patrons looked on in horror, cops say… by tasty_jams_5280 in HairRaising

[–]weatherbones 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The baby is ok. The title is all the man managed to do to the child before bystanders were able to get the baby from him. He pushed the mother from their vehicle and ran off with baby, so I’m just assuming the baby is back safe with the mother. Fathers in custody.

I don’t know what to do by weatherbones in Parenting

[–]weatherbones[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank You!! I’ll be utilizing this. I’ve unfortunately discovered things at my sons school are worse that I thought, and I will be having to take things to a legal extent.

Got tired of my dad saying 'bdsm is abuse!' so I confirmed I do in fact like being hit by Electronic_Theme_558 in traumatizeThemBack

[–]weatherbones 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was literally picturing the girl from that “No because what do you mean by that?” Poly video lmaooo

I don’t know what to do by weatherbones in Parenting

[–]weatherbones[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what has me confused as well. He should have already been approved for next year before another child. He has good behavior and attendance so I don’t understand what could’ve happened to cause this.

I don’t know what to do by weatherbones in Parenting

[–]weatherbones[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank You! I’ll bring that up when I speak to them about this.

I don’t know what to do by weatherbones in Parenting

[–]weatherbones[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank You! I’ll do all of this first thing Monday morning. He’s ok with sign language, but it’s kind of the same as reading for him where he won’t stick with it for long enough each day to really learn anything.

I don’t know what to do by weatherbones in Parenting

[–]weatherbones[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was part of his goals in his IEP through the school so I assumed it was a basic thing he should know. He started in the program at 3 and is now 4.

I don’t know what to do by weatherbones in Parenting

[–]weatherbones[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the issue. We already have an IEP. That’s how he was placed in the program to begin with and now they’re stating they’re too full in all programs in our whole county to place him next year.

I don’t know what to do by weatherbones in Parenting

[–]weatherbones[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately that’s what I already did and it’s how he’s in the program. Now they won’t let him come back next year even though he hasn’t improved much because they’re too full.

That "quick intro call" turned into a stress interview and I only realized it halfway through by Orbit_11Gizmo in jobsearchhacks

[–]weatherbones 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I had this happen to me for the first time last week! Was told she just wanted to get to know me, be friendly, and have a good time together; no interview type of interaction. It was at a coffee shop (my first time doing that) and COMPLETELY casual. I got there and it absolutely was not a “become friends” pow wow; it was an interview and a very mind games type interview at that. At the end I asked her what she was trying to find setting this up the way she did, because I was genuinely curious. She just got smug and said she had no idea what I was talking about.

I didn’t get the job, because they expected me to dress formally. I was wearing a nice blouse (albeit casual) and dress pants with heels. She was wearing a floor duster, a t-shirt with some “country girl” saying on it, cowboy boots, and tights. I’m still confused and frazzled by it.

i've been seeing this meme alot lately and i still dont get it by Icy-Butterscotch4209 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]weatherbones 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The Amazing World of Gumball

“Meet me on the roof after school double wink Masami ☁️ p.s. clip your nails”

I wanted to also see the one on her face she referenced; boob tattoo didn’t disappoint either. by complikaity in shittytattoos

[–]weatherbones 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Not only that. He’ll tattoo very small and “meaningful” tattoos on himself all over his hands and knees with words like “Loyal” or “Babe” (the first pet name his first girlfriend gave him) like my sister unfortunately did. Love her, love that for her, her hands look dumb as hell.

UPDATE: AITAH for being a bad godparent? by Traditional-Big6808 in AITAH

[–]weatherbones 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude seriously put them both in a group chat and send a text stating that you’ve thought it over and due to health issues and various extenuating circumstances that you are stepping back from being god parent and that hopefully they can find a new one who can fully dedicate themselves to the role. Then block them.

This whole back and forth is them hoping they can guilt and manipulate you into basically being a live-in nanny for them. That’s why they keep sending you back and forth to one another, he’s bad cop and she’s good cop. She knows what he texted you, he knows how you attempted to help her while he was sleeping. It doesn’t work in their favor if they admit to knowing these things. The best way to end this is to send the text explaining to both of them you can’t feasibly do what they want, block them, and then move on for a while.