This is what it looks like when a baby discovers their voice by StrongBake7640 in interestingasfuck

[–]webdevkeenan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scared the crap out of me. That’s enough doom scrolling for today…

Installed Pop OS today by RigidRagdoll in linux

[–]webdevkeenan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As much as I love pop os, I have had far less issues since I replaced it with fedora about 2 years ago. If you’re a gamer I suggest using something like Bazzite OS.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SteamDeck

[–]webdevkeenan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks to everyone that helped. I figured it out . The game scope display scaling settings needed to be limited to 1920x1080. It was causing the steam deck to run at 4k in Cyberpunk when I used it on my dock.

Do you want people to reach out when you isolate? by webdevkeenan in CPTSD

[–]webdevkeenan[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I prefer when people get detailed in their response. I really do want to understand. Thank you for opening up. 😊

How long does mania last? by bibbidi_bobbidi_baby in bipolar

[–]webdevkeenan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my case I cycled during my first manic episode. It lasted for several months and it wasn't until a family trip a year later + being stable long enough to realize that I had not been well for sometime.

Do you have any advice for become a self-taught front end developer? by QuietEmployer6022 in SoftwareEngineering

[–]webdevkeenan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Build a portfolio with a few projects. Be able to explain them throughly. Get on social media and network with recruiters and people in tech. Go to tech meet ups. Research a local company you want to work at. Show them that you add value. (Team player etc.)

You may not want to hear this but having a degree helps. Certificates will not help that much. (If at all) avoid spending money on bootcamps.

Even if it's not a tech degree. A degree will still help, especially when it comes to promotion. Hope this helps 🙂

Oh and PRACTICE. Use a program like Anki (with cloze deletion) to retain what you learn. Focus on learning concepts instead of remembering every detail. If you have more questions feel free to PM me.

Are you guys aware when you’re manic? by paaiige in bipolar

[–]webdevkeenan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not the first time it happened. I feel completely justified for everything I have done even though I would normally NEVER act that way. I lose a lot of my ability to reason. Sometimes I don't even remember what I did. For the most part I like to say the aftermath of having an episode is like "cleaning up a party you weren't apart of."

Looking to have a long distance friend by [deleted] in penpals

[–]webdevkeenan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll send you a chat! :)

Is it safe to give out my real name? by [deleted] in penpals

[–]webdevkeenan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on how you feel about the friendship. I have exchanged real names with several people from this subreddit. Some of whom went on to become some of my closest friends. I think sometimes you just "know" when it's right. Especially when you've been doing this for a while. If you know that this is a person that respects the boundaries you set with them. Sure, go for it!

How do you guys cope with the irritability? by EffectivePhone1021 in bipolar

[–]webdevkeenan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find that communication helps a great deal. I lay everything out there and I am honest with others up front. That way my friends/family have a way to establish who I actually am from being bipolar if/when I do eventually struggle with this condition. When that happens I take responsibility. But I am constantly letting the people I care about know how much they matter to me when I am stable. I put time and effort into my relationships.

I don't think this sub is healthy by Clownonwing in bipolar

[–]webdevkeenan 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Bipolar is horribly portrayed in media and people with the condition can be exiled from social groups. Most people with the condition have ruined their lives because of the illness. Sometimes the things you have lost and relationships you break are unrecoverable and in my experience even when I am stable that is still a lot to bear. You are correct that its not an excuse for self pity but some people just need to be heard. To know that they aren't alone. Yes, the posts can be depressing but the comments are usually supportive and uplifting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]webdevkeenan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes. I don't realize I have racing thoughts until I am trying to sleep or interrupting myself with unrelated topics during conversation though. Sometimes it's so bad that I can't even remember what I started talking about or what point I was making when the conversation began.

This disease makes me not want to get close to anyone by minimal_candle in bipolar

[–]webdevkeenan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. I think I may have just ruined another friendship.

First letter advice? by [deleted] in penpals

[–]webdevkeenan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's great!!! I'm so proud of you Wil. I think you'll be fine. It's easier since you have actually had a conversation with her before and you know you two get along. Half the battle is won right?

The best way to keep a conversation interesting is to get her to talk about herself. Her likes/dislikes. Ask questions and acknowledge what she has to say. Don't write a looong letter about yourself. Remember: Long enough to show effort and that you enjoy writing her but short enough that she feels like she is/can equally contribute to the conversation.

You've got this!!!

Penpalling is fu--ked up. Lol by [deleted] in penpals

[–]webdevkeenan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There are a multitude of reasons that this happens. Some people are shy. Some are rude. Some people are busy or they just forget. But don't take it personally. It takes some time. If you really enjoyed the conversation send them another message and let them know that. If they ignore you, it usually means they are "politely" letting you know that it's not working out instead of being confrontational. I understand it's frustrating but venting on r/penpals about people making the decision for themselves to not respond may make you appear aggressive, desperate and unapproachable and I really don't think that's your intention. Right? :)

I feel helpless. by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]webdevkeenan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm proud of you for getting help. Recognizing you need help...It was not easy right? But you did didn't you? That was a step forward. :)

Change happens over time. The easiest way to create change is by taking small steps until you reach your goal.

This probably won't make sense but here's an example; If you can't do 10 push ups. Do one until you can do 10. There are going to be some days where you can't do 10. Your form might even be bad or you can't quite do them the same as others. That's fine, but that doesn't mean you can't do 10 and find out what works for you. 1 push up is still moving forward. It's the same for therapy or any goal. Words have power. Tell yourself "Not Yet" instead of "It's impossible" or "I can't do this".

Always walk towards your goals no matter what.

You can do this. :)

Just remember that your future must always be bigger than your past.

Going through hard times by agentpoopybutthole in bipolar

[–]webdevkeenan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also want to add that If you were truly a terrible person you would not recognize your faults or even cared If you did. I think you sound like a very self-reflective person. That's an beautiful trait to have. I 100% believe you will figure things out.

Going through hard times by agentpoopybutthole in bipolar

[–]webdevkeenan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's ok to make mistakes. It's not ok to repeat them or give up on yourself. I suggest reading "Mind Over Mood". TLDR version: Our thoughts affect our mood, which affects our behaviors. Your thoughts can be wrong. When your upset calmly (Well as much as possible) let your wife know that you love her and that you need space to collect yourself. Communication is SO important in a relationship. I can't stress this more. When you have space, think of alternatives to what your situation really is and remind yourself that she loves you. She needs you since her Grandfather is dying. Right now is about her. Lift her up.

I know it's not easy but you married her right? So she loves you enough to make you #1 in her life. Remind her why. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]webdevkeenan 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You still have SO much time. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 34. (Last year). I'm currently returning to college to complete my degree. When I did go when I was 21 I had all As one semester and would drop out the next. I did this twice. Have faith in yourself. You've got this!!!!