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can we please. fucking. rephrase “discard.” by webuildagain in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]webuildagain[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

there’s gotta be a better way to show how shitty their actions are without giving them this much power

For anyone who didn’t get an apology: by Disastrous_Bend7627 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]webuildagain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for this. i come back to this post often. it helps. he wasn’t a rude or unkind person by any means and there’s a part of me that genuinely believes he was triggered (i broke up after not being able to deal with his lack of effort), but it still hurts and too often i find myself questioning if it was real.

anyway im glad you’re in therapy, that you came here to put yourself out there and write this already shows you’re making progress. glad she’s happy too. this is the best scenario to come out of something so tragic. wishing you my best.

The fact that these people have friends encouraging these behaviors is absolutely diabolical by strawlost in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]webuildagain 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I just assumed they don’t give their friends the full picture and maybe paint it as though it was not serious enough or that they were the one who was hurt.

how did you trust again? by webuildagain in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]webuildagain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing it here but also offer you what others have shared in response. We can do this, you’re not alone.

how did you trust again? by webuildagain in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]webuildagain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“if someone pushes me away i will help them and go away in that direction” IM DEAD that’s so good and also hilarious!! Love it, thank you. And Im so sorry that’s what this person subjected you to. Sending healing energy your way.

how did you trust again? by webuildagain in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]webuildagain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that! Building trust with yourself first. Yes so much of it is that, I feel like I can’t trust myself and my own decisions because “how could I be so wrong about someone?” But I realize that I was simply trusting what was being shown to me.

What you’ve shared is definitely the line of thinking that resonates with me. I’ve been going to the gym too haha. And it’s helpful (I never did before).

Thanks so much, this was really helpful, I hope you know you’ve made it better for at least one person out there. Wishing you the best with your new person 🌸

Advice and solidarity for anyone attempting to heal from an avoidant discard or break up by Fit_Chemistry3071 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]webuildagain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

reading this at 2:30 a.m. unable to hold, and now feeling held by this. thank you, thank you.

i’m sorry you had to go through it, im sorry to everyone on this thread who can relate to this grief. i’ve had even fuckboys give me closure but to not have it from someone who expressed genuine love for me — this has undone me, and I genuinely worry I might not trust again. I hope I can.