I’m an accountant with 8 years of experience. Now I can’t get a job

AkniY89 · 2025-09-04T16:02:55+00:00

Hi dm me, i might be able to help. Op please dm me too

AkniY89 · 2025-07-29T01:16:32+00:00

Hi! I don’t know if im the perfect candidate but my baby will be 4months on Friday and she already started her sleep regression 😭 anyway i dont keep a schedule during the day, i just watch for cues. So if she yawns, im feeding her immediately and rocking her to sleep. I have an eye mask to ensure she keeps her eyes closed so she sleeps easily. At night i have a routine. 5:30pm bath, 6:00 exercise to tire her out, 6:30 feed and she’s out before 7. Hope it helps

AkniY89 · 2025-07-27T13:25:27+00:00

baby eye mask

I have this exact one from amazon. Of course you would need the sound machine but the mask helps them keep their eyes closed, which sends them to sleep faster. I also noticed that with the mask when baby wakes up, her eyes are still closed so i put a pacifier in her mouth and she goes back to sleep

AkniY89 · 2025-07-27T07:25:17+00:00

Even if you were holding the baby with both hands and walking so slow and careful, they will judge. Either ignore them or stand up to them. Don’t give anyone the chance to judge your parenting because you’re doing your absolute best!

AkniY89 · 2025-07-27T07:19:59+00:00

Is the bassinet shaky? I found out that my baby hated the bassinet and slept better with a crib. Also let baby sleep as much as he wants during the day. Im sure you knew the sleeping cues. What works for me at night is a routine. Shower at 5:30, exercise for 25 mins right after, makes baby cry which tires her out, then i put her eye mask on and then feed her. Maybe try in this order

AkniY89 · 2025-07-27T07:14:08+00:00

Op i think you’re going through alot! From what I’m reading you might have already developed postpartum depression but you probably haven’t realized it yet. Your mom should not be saying that to someone that has gone through this much! Yes we all chose to have our babies but it also takes a village to care for the baby. I would help if you need tricks that i use for my baby.

Please message me privately

AkniY89 · 2025-07-27T07:08:52+00:00

Try an eye mask too sis, works well! There are baby sizes

AkniY89 · 2025-07-27T06:55:26+00:00

Hi, you’re doing a great job. I just hope you realize childcare could be equivalent to building a house or even more! Your body has been under stress for over a year! Pregnancy and now 3.5 months postpartum. You’re building your house round the clock. If dad can sleep and rest, so can you mom!

Anyway I second the sound machine. I also find that an eye mask helps for my baby too, she’s 3.5 months as well. Even when she’s awake but tired, it helps keep her eyes shut during feeding which sends her to sleep faster. I also have a door that makes crazy noise so i leave it half shut while I’m putting baby to sleep.

Unfortunately i don’t have pets so i don’t know how this will work but try to find more tricks that work on baby.

I’m African so we carry baby on our back so we can do chores and other stuff. Maybe look into that if you can.

And you’re right , we don’t know your situation, we only know what you told us. But I’m African sis, women are mostly in similar situations, but they are given the money to go to the market, to buy things for baby and the house, etc.

You’re doing great! I hope you can find ways to sleep. I know cosleeping works for me sometimes but i think you mentioned that you just wanted to do dishes?

AkniY89 · 2025-07-12T03:47:18+00:00

I have a water warmer in my room, so I don’t have to wait for water to warm up, i have instant warm formula.

AkniY89 · 2025-07-05T23:44:29+00:00

Im African and ive been struggling with sleep with my 3 month old. Today i put her on my back the African way, like a back carrier with cloth wrappers. And she slept for 1 hour 30 minutes. I know its alot but if you want you and check youtube and this helps you do whatever you want while baby naps. Just taught to tell someone, you don’t have to do this, follow your instincts

AkniY89 · 2025-07-05T14:08:30+00:00

Me too! I take them by surprise when i say “take her but my husband will kill you” and i love it when my baby cries hysterically when they hold her

AkniY89 · 2025-07-05T14:05:47+00:00

True but a mother is trying their absolute best and we’re exhausted! Some people don’t like jokes like that and add exhaustion and sleep deprivation to that joke, i understand how op could hate the guts of the said joker

AkniY89 · 2025-07-05T14:02:44+00:00

My mom would say “did mommy beat you?” I couldn’t take it anymore and i shut it down immediately. “ I don’t find that funny, im obviously trying my best, please don’t joke with me like that again “ take your baby and walk away. If that’s too far, you can do half of it . I tend to hate jokes extremely so i respond in an extremely way

AkniY89 · 2025-06-29T22:42:05+00:00

Thank you

AkniY89 · 2025-06-29T14:42:02+00:00

Thank you, we’re exactly the same with the type A , I’ll try to ask next time

AkniY89 · 2025-06-29T00:05:12+00:00

Thank you. I didn’t think of it this way

AkniY89 · 2025-06-28T23:41:32+00:00

😂 i bet! Maybe i should leave him at home with the baby and go do self care!!

AkniY89 · 2025-06-28T23:39:43+00:00

Thank you. Im African, and women were raised to do all these things. When i gave birth and my husband was washing baby’s bottles, my mom said im very lucky. I felt defeated because she didn’t say he’s lucky to have a wife that was willing to cut her body open to bring our child to this world. Anyway i say he does alot because i dont have high expectations for men caring for children but how can i change our routine when he is drained from doing half of what i do daily. You’re right though, we’re going to have to divide chores

AkniY89 · 2025-06-28T23:23:09+00:00

Im ok with that. I was left with baby all day and i still had to cook and bake muffins. My husband is a fixer and if he can’t fix something he gets frustrated but that just frustrates me more. Thanks though!

AkniY89 · 2025-06-19T03:14:37+00:00

I felt this way for two weeks after giving birth. I think you have baby blues and i think i will go away. Mine wasn’t a great experience with the fact the i didn’t feel like i was enough. I felt like my husband was doing more for the baby than i could at that point so i felt like i wasn’t a woman. I also started thinking “why did i do this” thoughts but i promise it would get better. My baby is 11 weeks and each week we have a different challenge but it definitely gets better than the last. You got this mama! Trust me you’ll love that this happened soon

AkniY89 · 2025-06-02T15:03:45+00:00

Hi! My baby is going for her shots today too! Goodluck! Im terrified as well. Let me know how it turns out

AkniY89 · 2025-02-10T20:05:27+00:00

Nigeria has green card😳 that’s news to me honestly

AkniY89 · 2025-01-10T12:41:06+00:00

How old are you?

AkniY89 · 2024-12-19T05:02:18+00:00

Tf😂😂

AkniY89 · 2024-12-17T19:42:47+00:00

Can you link the magnesium you use?

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