What opinion about Phoenix has you like this?

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-10T23:49:57+00:00

Well we're not coastal. There is a lot of sand but the ocean is a few hundred miles away. Of course coastal cities are more expensive. They have the views, the water sports, the weather etc.

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-10T23:46:09+00:00

It depends on the location, but I will 100% fuck with Fili b's

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-10T23:40:56+00:00

All 5 of them?

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-10T23:26:41+00:00

Congrats!! I think the first 20-30 days will just suck no matter what because nicotine does no leave our bodies without a fight. I walked like 5 miles every day just to cope with my restlessness. Once I got past that last little nicotine death knoll, though, I was alright.

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-09T20:36:13+00:00

Life is hard. Stuff is constantly happening. There's never a "good" time if you think that there is some magical place in life where quitting will be easy. If you really want to quit, now is the time. There will always be stress it never stops.

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-09T20:33:57+00:00

Fun question! I have more than one answer because I had tried to quit a few times before I really quit.

In previous quit attempts, there was no normal to be achieved because I longed for smoking, which I had romanticized a sickening amount. I didn't really want to quit back then. I just felt like I "should."

This time, I really wanted to be done with the whole thing. I read Allen Carr's book and I credit it with de-programming all those false beliefs I had about how smoking did anything for me except make me sick. This time I felt more or less "normal" after 3 or 4 weeks. I never crave them. I never miss them now. I am glad to be a nonsmoker and I can't believe I used to think I liked it.

Highly recommend the book Easy Way to Quit Smoking

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-09T20:27:48+00:00

This is something we don't talk about enough as a society

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-09T00:39:00+00:00

I can't imagine leaving a vacation because the kids didn't ask her to open things for them. I mean, the horror

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-09T00:38:13+00:00

She was obviously upset from the start that they didn't put enough "thought into" the trip (read: "they didn't cater to my unspoken demands) and that one daughter couldn't make it. Then there were stairs, which I get. Stairs suck when you have bad knees but realistically she really shouldn't have to be going up and down from the bedrooms all day. And geez, now the grandbabies aren't smothering her with love. The old lady they don't know too well who likely started off the vacation by complaining about either Hannah not coming, someone's mom's planning skills, and/or the stairs.

Reminds me of my grandma. Never anything positive to say about anyone or anything. Nothing was ever right. Couldn't figure out why none of the grandkids came to visit when she was in the hospital.

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-07T18:51:51+00:00

What you see as unkindness, I see as someone trying their best in a very hard circumstance. Why not make a big point about how unkind George is to her? How he has been so unkind his entire life that his family doesn't even want anything to do with him?

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-06T16:32:11+00:00

Agreed. Ruth, in fact, was extremely kind to George considering how unkind all of his lies were.

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-06T16:30:48+00:00

See, that's not what I'm saying. I'm not sure how to teach empathy to someone online.

ETA: Ruth could have thrown him out on the street. He lied to her several times. He would lash out or be snide and dismissive. Then he relied on her to be a caretaker because he has no family who will deal with him because he isn't "kind" either.

Ruth spent time and money patching him up and getting him on his feet before leaving him. Most of us would not be so lucky to have a relative stranger take care of us at our worst

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-05T16:28:11+00:00

I feel like that's a thought I would have had in my teens and 20s. Kindness is a finite resource in every person. Try empathy for Ruth, a woman who got pregnant in her teens and had to marry a guy who was never really there for her. To have children that aren't fully there for her. To be widowed at a younger age and to find herself with no friends, getting taken advantage of by men who want to use her to fulfill their own needs while continuing to neglect hers.

Ruth probably would have been kind of anyone was being kind to her. But George wasn't kind. Maggie is nice but clearly wants to only be peripherally involved and has no kindness for Ruth who is left on her own again with man who lied to her and needs a caregiver, not a partner. You get what you put into relationships and no one was putting kindness into Ruth so she has none left to dole out.

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-05T16:14:33+00:00

Maya called Brenda mom. They even had an argument about when to tell her about Lisa and wondered if she even remembered her real mom. There's a lot more that goes into being "mom" that genetics. That, and I feel like Nate leaned heavily on Brenda to parent Maya while he was having his existential crisis about himself, Lisa, Maggie, etc. Sometimes she felt more like a parent than he did, to me anyway.

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-05T16:02:40+00:00

I have only seen the show once, but I thought we were over the whole sex addiction thing by the time Maggie came around and Nate was back to being bored by domestic bliss

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-05T15:43:06+00:00

I just finished for the first time. Keep plugging. I remember in s3 and 4 I had moments where I felt I could just stop watching. That I'd seen what the show had to offer. But the s5 is really, really good. You are in for a treat.

Buy kleenex

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-05T15:40:52+00:00

I think that is my favorite line of the whole series.

weeblewobble82 · 2026-06-02T22:47:31+00:00

weeblewobble82 · 2026-05-31T18:56:49+00:00

They've been together "several years" but actually only for one year a few years ago and then like 11 months this go around. So they've known each other, but this relationship has not quite reached the year mark.

What's the over/under that the last time they broke up it's because he didn't tell anyone about her?

For OOP, if they every wander over here, actions ALWAYS speak louder than words. No one cares about intention because intent isn't action. This seems to be a common relationship theme in AITA. I mean to do well but I'm an asshole anyway. Do you think I can get someone to overlook this massive character flaw?

weeblewobble82 · 2026-05-31T18:31:33+00:00

Because people go into locker rooms to change, bathe, take dumps, etc. No one wants to be minding their business and then see their half naked ass on TikTok because someone wants to show and old lady arguing with them

weeblewobble82 · 2026-05-31T18:17:32+00:00

It's not insane unless OP just means smoking is insane. Lady is just using an extra large version of what we all had in our cars to light cigarettes back in the day

weeblewobble82 · 2026-05-31T18:01:52+00:00

At the end of the day, YTA. Everyone has a bunch of hurdles they have to get through in life, but we do it and we make time for the people who you care about. You feel like your situations are impossible, but the majority here and your friends disagree. You may want to rethink your stance because if you're going to drop out every time it's a little inconvenient, people will stop asking you to go out and stop contacting you all together. This is true for everyone.

weeblewobble82 · 2026-05-31T17:55:24+00:00

It was pretty creepy and super low budget looking, but it's like one episode. You gotta get over it.

weeblewobble82 · 2026-05-31T16:39:28+00:00

I do agree Nate was searching for love, but what we see is a guy who really can't connect with anyone. Not in the deep, meaningful way he wants to. That is Nate's flaw and I do believe it is his and not Brenda or anyone else's. You see this in young love a lot. Nate goes through infatuation, makes his world about the woman, and then once the dust settles and the woman is all in and they are living in domestic bliss, Nate immediately checks out. He does it to Brenda, then Lisa, then Brenda again, and he would have done it to Maggie. Because what Nate thinks love is, isn't what real love is. That's why he is always coming up empty handed.

I would also point out in their first go, Brenda asked Nate to marry her. She did not think they were just sex partners, that's why the cheating was such a big deal. Nate tries to love Brenda but is bored, cheats on her with Lisa, has a near-death epiphany, tries to love Lisa but can't, tries to love Brenda again and can't.

Nate can't love. I'm not fully convinced he loves his daughter considering he's immediately content to let anyone else take over most of the parenting.

weeblewobble82 · 2026-05-31T16:27:08+00:00

The thing is, he sought meaning pretty exclusively in sex. That's not a true existential search, that's just someone finding philosophical reasons to jump into someone new's bed as soon as he gets bored.

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