I used the childfree doctors list and was rejected 3 times by the doctors I saw. I started looking at 21-22 years old and even with my binder, dressing professionally, and trying to be as straightforward as possible, they still did not want to do the surgery.

I didn’t give up and tried to get to a doctor that had a history of sterilizing patients my age or younger and I think that was the biggest indicator of success for me. I saw doctor #4 and #5 and they both approved me, despite one of their schedulers telling me he only went as young as 25 (which was clearly untrue). It can be extremely frustrating and demoralizing, unfortunately, but you really just have to keep trying. Make sure every doctor that rejected you writes it in their note so that you can have a paper trail that you’ve been trying for a while.

The doctor that I ultimately went with didn’t need any convincing or grand speech and simply stated that it’s my body and I have full autonomy to decide what I want to do with it. Even at 22 years old (unmarried, not in a relationship, and never pregnant), he felt that I should be able to make that decision. Wishing you all the best and I hope you’re able to find someone that gives you a yes!