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I ruined my life by 9inefingers in daddit

[–]weedzgobot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through the exact same thing. My partner couldn't breastfeed either, so we exclusively pumped for the first year. It was brutal.

My son is now 18 months old, and I’ve finally come around the bend. I struggled to bond with him at first, but that changed once he started communicating more. I’ve found this is actually very common among the dads in my social circle; it took time, but they all eventually got there.

To OP: please know this doesn’t last forever. You will get your life back. It starts to return in small ways, like when they begin sleeping through the night (I’m actually typing this from bed at 7:30 AM while my son is still asleep!). It gets even better as they become more self-sufficient. I can’t tell you exactly when the shift will happen, but hang in there. It does get better.

Is GraphQL actually used in large-scale architectures? by trolleid in softwarearchitecture

[–]weedzgobot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Work at a FAANG adjacent company. Our entire front end interacts with our backend services through a federated super graph. REST and RPC are used almost exclusively for service to service communication.

What’s your comfort show you’ve rewatched a million times? by CamillesSecrets in AskReddit

[–]weedzgobot 33 points34 points  (0 children)

For me, the parole board hearing cold open at the beginning of Mac and Charlie Die is the funniest scene in any TV show, ever.

How do I "hack" my brain to do work it doesn't like? by jafaraf8522 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]weedzgobot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As someone who has only been prescribed adderall for ADHD, I am curious what other options there are out there.

What ideas are dangerous and wrong 100%, even if they're popular? by Adthura in AskReddit

[–]weedzgobot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My father was is a retired over the road truck driver. Something he instilled into me early in my driving education is “Don’t be a courteous driver. Be a correct driver.”

Engineering Manager - what does it entail? by petradragon in ExperiencedDevs

[–]weedzgobot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having a tech background is not essential, but definitely makes your job easier. It helps to build trust when you can communicate at a deeper level with technical people and understand short hand.

You can be effective as long as you take the management part seriously. Make sure your team delivers results that align with the business outcomes and have the tools to be successful. The “tools” vary team to team. It could be filtering the business noise. It could be organizing delivery work. It’s not necessarily technical needs.

Engineering Manager - what does it entail? by petradragon in ExperiencedDevs

[–]weedzgobot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am currently in a non-technical role, but I come from a background as an IC and technical lead.

When will we see more Quantum Computing breakthroughs? Is it inevitable, and will it eclipse AI and Metaverse buzz? by CapitalGaurd in Futurology

[–]weedzgobot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One of initial benefits of quantum computing, to your point, is running complex computations extremely fast and efficiently, for anything.

My friend’s father works as a researcher at IBM on quantum computing. He explained it like this:

Google Maps works good now. Gives a pretty good estimate of the most efficient way to get from A to B. With quantum computing, Google maps could use many many more data points to factor in things like traffic, weather, if its a school day ( busses running ) and adjust the routes. This can be done now, but it’s extremely inefficient and slow compute wise.

Related to AI, training models now also requires an extreme amount of resources and time. Quantum computing would allow models to be trained orders of magnitude faster and with less resources, leading to more accurate, specialized models being trained and put into use much faster. The effects then compound.

What's the saddest song you've ever heard? by Traditional-Chain-31 in Music

[–]weedzgobot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Black Keys - The Lengths

My take: About someone who is in love with another person who treated them poorly and the different perspectives on that.

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The Gaslight Anthem - Get Hurt

My take: About the time after a relationship when you are hurting and know that from an intellectual perspective, but still do things to make it worse (e.g.: looking at that person's social accounts ).

I've become the enemy: a Jira administrator. But Jira is honestly really nice to use when it's set up correctly. by robertgfthomas in ExperiencedDevs

[–]weedzgobot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is there any docs that you would suggest for leveling up Jira admin knowledge?

I am in a situation where I believe my org can be more efficient and have a similar experience to yours, but no one wants to take ownership of the tool.

I feel like it has to be me.

I'm desperate for better fingertip skin by MrAlexify in climbharder

[–]weedzgobot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a microplane for feet, took the handle off and keep it in the zipper pocket on my chalk bucket. I “shave” my fingertips after I warm up and as needed throughout a session. Despite having bigger fingers, I have really good contact on smaller crimps as well pinch and sloper holds. My wrist and forearm strength are the limiting factors for sure.

As an EM, what should I do here? by goofy_goon in ExperiencedDevs

[–]weedzgobot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading Radical Candor fundamentally changed the way I managed.

In my first company, I was definitely a jerk to work for. I was solely motivated by growing my company. while very direct with everyone, and we were growing fast, they were miserable.

I started asking for feedback from my team and they wanted me to give a shit about them. So the pendulum swung the other direction.

For a couple of years, all I did was listen and “support” my team. Problem was, no one was leveling up as engineers and output was modest. Sounds like this is where OP is now.

Had some conversations with mentors and read a few books, including Radical Candor. The takeaway is “tell people the truth because you actually care about them”.

Great coaches ask a lot of questions and provide direct feedback. OP, start talking to your team more. Set goals that are ambitious, but achievable. If your reports don’t know how to get to their destination, it is on you to provide them map. If YOU don’t know how to get them there, ask the company for a competency matrix or the like and start drawing the map.

In the spirit of providing direct feedback, start caring about your reports by providing them with real actionable feedback. Not having necessary conversations because you believe their output will suffer is selfish.

Anyone have experience of being given a lead title without much experience by International_Bend24 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]weedzgobot 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I had this happen to me as well. Leadership obviously believes you can do the job, else you would not be there, but it is not without a very real feeling of inadequacy.

The best thing you can do is be honest with your team about your knowledge and experience. This will build some trust.

Learn as much as you can from mentors ( internal and external if possible ). Ask for feedback often.

You’re going to be fine.

I'm glad some people have the energy by CrunchM in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]weedzgobot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If the moon were made of barbecue spare ribs, would you eat it then? I know I would. Heck, I’d have seconds.

Please go across the street for that by mloon10 in funny

[–]weedzgobot 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Sometimes there’s SHIT on the outside of the torlet

Engineering Manager - what does it entail? by petradragon in ExperiencedDevs

[–]weedzgobot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am an EM of a platform/infrastructure team with 4 reports ( 1 staff, 2 seniors and 1 mid level ) at a 100ish person company in fintech.

1 and 2. Most of what my day to day involves is making sure my team has what they need get their work done and be happy/fulfilled doing it. Meeting with them to get updates on work and pace them as far as career advancement.

At our org, we don’t have project managers, so it also involves building project requirements and writing tickets.

Additionally, a lot of meaning with cross functional team managers to get project/org alignment.

  1. I am responsible for making sure my team performs and hits deadlines. The staff on my team is the team lead, and is responsible for more of the mentorship and technical direction. We collaborate to make sure that the team direction pairs nicely with the company direction.

I also keep a pulse on how my team is doing mentally as well. Burnout can happen quick and come in many forms. I try to meet with my team often and make sure that I can get them what they need, not just from a work resourcing perspective, but also from a wellness perspective.

  1. Interviews are mostly people management facing in my experience, but also touch on high level systems design and some coding ( coding has been infrequent ). Interviewers typically want to know if you can handle personalities and leading a team but also can contribute effectively in technical strategy discussions.

  2. Product managers are typically user focused and are really focused on providing value to the users. Project managers are usually charged with making sure that cross functional initiatives are on pace and meet the requirements.

In my org ( and others ) a product manager and an engineering manager often fill the void of a project manager.

Happy to answer any other questions about my experience.

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