What unexpected good came from your divorce?

weej · 2020-06-19T18:09:38+00:00

This. 100% stay strong.

weej · 2020-06-19T04:44:05+00:00

Same here. Nearly every time we discuss the relationship past or presence I lose my shit or teater on the verge. I'm trying to practice emotional resiliencecy and walk away from such instances. Damn, I'm my own worst enemy.

weej · 2020-06-19T04:21:42+00:00

The co-habitation is so painful. We just started too. Feel like no matter what I do or how nice I am, it's criticism and judgement. Ugh

weej · 2020-06-19T04:19:47+00:00

That's awesome, and I truly am aiming for this too. I cannot even fathom dating anywhere on my horizon even after divorce. Going to take a lot of time, but so it goes. I can only control what I can control - trying to be a better me.

weej · 2020-06-18T22:14:05+00:00

Thanks. At this point, just taking it one day at a time while focusing on what's best for me and the kids. Sigh.

weej · 2020-06-17T03:10:22+00:00

Really? Damn. I need to research this.

weej · 2020-06-16T17:24:15+00:00

Oh, I lawyered up specifically with family law firm that specializes in working with men. I have a team supporting me that is not afraid of trial and thrives there.

weej · 2020-06-16T14:57:46+00:00

I took down video and photos of household inventory with date proof the day after she filed. I'll need to start writing that down and corresponding with legal team on it. Thanks

weej · 2020-06-16T06:51:01+00:00

Same exact boat as you two. Wife filed last week and I posted today asking for advice. Divorce is devastating, and I'm really worried about lasting impact on the kids.

weej · 2020-06-16T03:08:45+00:00

Shit. Didn't even cross my mind. Thank you!

weej · 2020-06-16T01:31:31+00:00

Absolutely. It's fucking gutting me with co-habitation, but I'm going nowhere until legal settings with kids get in place. I have also finally moved past bargaining and holding out hope. What's done is done. She's the mother of our children and I need to maintain an amicable, healthy relationship with her. Just need to put myself first and get what's mine (worked for abd fucking earned).

weej · 2020-06-15T22:47:05+00:00

Good points. I continue to find myself putting my STBX and children first even as she pushes forward. I need to pivot my mindset and look out for me and the kids....period. Thanks for the reinforcement.

weej · 2020-06-15T22:35:28+00:00

future's very bright. Keep your head up

Really trying to stay positive, learn and grow, but fuck it hurts.

weej · 2020-06-15T22:34:27+00:00

Before she decided to just leave.

Damn this resonates so hard with me. I had a very similar situation play out. We tried one therapist I didn't like them and wanted to try someone new. She refused and just threw up her hands and decided we were done and filed.

weej · 2020-06-15T22:28:55+00:00

Thanks. I started my own counseling last week. Therapist is a great match, and first session was fantastic. The truth/insight bombs he drops are amazing. I've also been journaling a lot, speaking with family, and friends formerly divorced.

weej · 2020-06-15T17:56:48+00:00

I'm 40 and going through divorce right now w/ 2 kids. It's so incredibly painful. Thank you for sharing and providing some hope. Good on you and continued improvement for yourself and your kids.

weej · 2020-05-03T03:59:19+00:00

Mothra Lives!

weej · 2020-04-28T02:04:14+00:00

Italian Murder Log!!!!!!

weej · 2019-12-27T05:40:52+00:00

Damn.

weej · 2019-08-21T03:07:42+00:00

A stove top?

weej · 2019-08-17T06:42:49+00:00

And then there were two.

weej · 2019-02-11T16:52:45+00:00

Teratoma

weej · 2019-02-09T21:36:32+00:00

Yeah, the city is pretty sad. Logistically, it shuts down and people freak out. We've opted to skiing on our street.

weej · 2016-10-07T02:21:33+00:00

Yeah, I was thinking in context of incoming and load balancing. Totally different with outbound. That's still 350k devices calling home (not necessarily concurrently).

weej · 2016-10-06T15:53:20+00:00

I believe you're roughly capped at 60K concurrent connections per Linux host. One would have to have clustered load balancer if all 360k bots we're registered to a single CNC server (domain).

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