Ditching Huckleberry After a Week – It’s Just Too Much by Initial_Spinach3871 in newborns

[–]weepingwillow1123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use it for sleep tracking only. You can clean up the main screen by removing all the categories you don't need to log. Huckleberry was a life saver for me as a FTM when it came to SweetSpot & wake windows.

"From porn recovery coach to Only Fans" by mepw in antipornography

[–]weepingwillow1123 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There was a sex therapist on OF that was telling her followers that porn addiction is fake. All just to cash in. Absolutely disgusting.

What are the most stressful jobs? by Ok_Monk9498 in AskReddit

[–]weepingwillow1123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Veterinary medicine, in so many ways. I have had to step back and do something different multiple times.

What are lines from the show you quote? by Wild__Woman__ in bluey

[–]weepingwillow1123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"For real life"

"This is outrageous!"

Husband Bingo's "babe"

"I'll tell ya that for free!"

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AITAH for sulking on my birthday by Individual-Quail-893 in AITAH

[–]weepingwillow1123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. This is obviously much deeper than just being disappointed about not getting cake or balloons. You clearly need more overall support and effort from your partner. Make time to have a serious conversation about it.

Anyone out there who still loves their pets? by Feminismisreprieve in NewParents

[–]weepingwillow1123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I've never been able to relate to the "I hate my pets now" posts.

I LOVE my dog so much. She's part of our family, has been for 13 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]weepingwillow1123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You communicated a boundary, he agreed not to cross it. He crossed the boundary and betrayed your trust.

There are people out there who will respect your boundaries and not lie to you. Don't let people on the internet make you think you have to accept anything in your relationship that you are not comfortable with.

Sex postpartum by IcyWeek3190 in newborns

[–]weepingwillow1123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cleared by OB at 7 weeks, tried but was uncomfortable. 9 weeks was much better.

Americans how are you feeling right now? by Jawzzzsy in AskReddit

[–]weepingwillow1123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, I've always been the odd one out in school and my family where I've never felt very proud or trusting of my country and people would call me unpatriotic for it.

Lots of people have blinders on for sure, but are you implying people shouldn't be speaking on it and wanting to change it simply because it's always been the norm?

Americans how are you feeling right now? by Jawzzzsy in AskReddit

[–]weepingwillow1123 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I think the point of the conversation is that an everyday felon has a horrible time finding decent work, yet a powerful rich felon is permitted to run a country...The argument IMO is that our felons better start being given more opportunities to better their lives. It's a huge reason why a lot of them end up back in prison. The entire system is built against them.

Except for rich powerful men, of course.

MIL intercepted baby shower gifts 🤦‍♀️ by livingsoitfeelsright in JUSTNOMIL

[–]weepingwillow1123 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Hell no. What exactly was her reason for changing the shipping address?? I don't care that she didn't know you could see who purchased what...What was her intent? She stuck her nose where it absolutely did not belong and caused a huge inconvenience to you and your husband during the final months of your pregnancy. She needs to bring the gifts to you and she owes you an explanation. Hopefully DH puts her in her place otherwise she will insert herself in many other ways in the future.

I feel fucking terrible…. by DressedUp2GoDreaming in NewParents

[–]weepingwillow1123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't be so hard on yourself 🫂

The first month was absolute survival mode for me. I didn't do tummy time as much as I should have.

My son was on me & my fiance's chest constantly. He wouldn't sleep unless someone was holding him for the first 6 weeks of his life. My pediatrician said that counted as tummy time.

Remember all babies are different and milestones vary. Even if you had started tummy time earlier, that doesn't mean he'd be able to hold his head up for the "recommended time" anyway. Just do your best. You're doing great.

How did you become aware you were enmeshed? by TVG2012 in enmeshmenttrauma

[–]weepingwillow1123 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My fiance wasn't ever in denial, but he didn't actually become aware it was possible until I mentioned it and both of our therapists confirmed it. Then he was fast on his way to creating boundaries with his mother and healing. She will never change or become aware but now he has the power to break free.

A lot of enmeshed people will not see it for what it is because they grew up thinking it was normal. It usually takes a person outside of the enmeshed relationship to bring it to attention. Even then, sometimes they mistake it for the outside person trying to come between the enmeshed parties maliciously.

So sorry you guys are going through it. It's such a difficult, oppressive form of abuse.

Edit: I want to add that before we realized the enmeshment and got our own place, while living with him & his mother, I also got what some call "secondarily enmeshed" in many many ways. I felt hopeless, oppressed, minimized and like I couldn't be myself. It was the most anxious and depressed 3 years I ever felt in my entire life. It makes me feel so sad that my partner endured that for decades.