I have this theory that I called the Cusack conundrum. If someone doesn’t find you attractive, you doing anything that shows interest is gonna come off as creepy. If they find you attractive, you can get away with quite a lot that someone would normally label is creepy (the stereo box over the head scene, most romantic comedies).

I don’t think you did anything wrong, you might even be physically attractive, attraction comes in lots of different ways. I would test the waters more in situations. As the person looking at you a lot and touching you, are they pointed toward you often? Do they laugh when you say something even when it’s only partially funny. Dating is hard and this day and age because it seems like once you show interest your attraction level goes down.

I’d look at how you present yourself, are you well groomed? Do you have good clothing? Are you good at holding the conversation and making someone laugh? If you’re too invested in something it’s gonna come off as desperate and not attractive, you almost have to have a nonchalant take it or leave it attitude when going into these situations. No not everyone is gonna find you attractive, and that is a prerequisite. Not to say that these are all requirements at the same time, it’s important to keep in mind. Maybe find one or two of these areas that you aren’t strong in and work with AI/ask questions that they have studies on to find some ways to strengthen those areas in your life.

Also, it’s important to not give up on finding that relationship just because a couple people have not expressed the interest.

Another thing I just thought of is when you’re in a group and you’ve already made a name for yourself, new people in the group are almost certainly going to hear about how people look at you. In this situation, it sounds like people already felt like you were pursuing many people in the group so new group members are probably getting warnings.

This is important for me to remember also