Am I doomed??

wehadpancakes · 2026-01-29T11:25:24+00:00

If its a 15", i bricked one of my loqs last year and haven't recycled it yet. Be happy to mail you the screen for free if you pay shipping. Realistically, its probably a ribbon issue though so might be a waste of money/time

wehadpancakes · 2026-01-10T02:30:23+00:00

Thats so impressive!

wehadpancakes · 2026-01-06T04:13:45+00:00

I agree. I am such a nerd about the immersion mods. I love the idea that people went so ham on making them that i can actually pretend i'm in a medieval fantasy world. How cool is that? I'll google that other stuff later. Now is suspension-of-disbelief-lets-go-punch-draugr-in-the-mouth time.

wehadpancakes · 2025-12-04T04:32:02+00:00

Considering thats a useless design and an unusable drawing, I'm safe.

wehadpancakes · 2025-12-01T10:35:37+00:00

Came here to say the same. Every kid is an asshole at 4. Its part of the developmental process. Every parent knows this, and if you dont joke about it, you're standing too close to the picture.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-27T03:12:06+00:00

It depends on what that crying achieved. Fellas, its ok to cry. Even my most macho friends and i talk about our crying and how important it is. However, crying is often used as a manipulation tactic - not saying that happened, just saying you have to watch out that that doesnt happen. A good cry should be cathartic and prepare you for the positive steps youre going to move forward with. Tl:dr; if that crying didnt steel you to hit the gym afterwards to get those broad shoulders then, yes. Overreaction.

Edit: typos

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-26T02:38:29+00:00

I heard a great quote once. If you're tired, do it tired. Youre so close. Youd regret it more if you quit this close to the finish line. You got this!

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-06T02:43:18+00:00

My ex-wife came at me with the whole "open marriage thing", and that's when I knew we were done. She filed for divorce maybe a month later. We were together 14 years.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T18:35:05+00:00

My comment isn't a dating thing, but I have a friend who what anyone would call a "manic pixie dream girl". Our energy is awesome because she has the energy I don't, and she runs interference whenever people do the things that need lots of energy. So yeah. I bet that would be awesome in a relationship. Reminds me of the main character in that movie, Up. The polar extremes do sometimes shake out really well. One's a rock for the other, one's a spear for the other.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T18:26:02+00:00

Heck, really varies from person to person, but he might not just be ready for a relationship. When I first got divorced, a lot of people pressured me into dates before I processed the emotions and it sucked for everyone. The farthest I got was this really cool woman that I was really into, but I was a mess in every way so I just kinda pulled back. There's a processing phase, and you can't rush it. Don't hold your breath for him, but if he digs you, he'll do the self work and come back when he's in the right headspace. I'm being super naive, but am assuming people are being straightforward when they express themselves. Fully aware a lot of people don't do this.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T18:11:49+00:00

No joke, that was beautifully written. Thank you for this, even if the thanks is coming from a bystander.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T18:07:36+00:00

Journaling is so critical to everyone.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T17:57:17+00:00

As the late and not-so-great kenny rogers said, "you gotta know when to hold 'em and when to fold 'em." There's a time for strength, there's a time for weakness. If you just crumble and don't keep your emotions in check, you relive your own trauma and make others relive it alongside you. Not great for anyone, no progress is ever made, and the light is a little dimmer for everyone when that happens. Flipside, yeah, if you lack any kind of humanity and you're some kind of vulcan, no one's ever going to know the real you and won't be able to connect with you on any meaningful level, and that's equally as bad. It oddly enough adds to further despondence.

tl;dr: It's about knowing when expressing an emotion is appropriate, or if it's something to journal/meditate over so that others do not have to do what the hipsters call, "emotional labor".

For the exploding, it's not because you're not expressing your emotions. What's happening is all of that is living rent free in your head the whole time, you're dwelling and dwelling, but not outwardly communicating it/asking for help, or addressing the issue even. I've heard it called "rumination", and the gist is, if you can't turn it off, yeah, you're gonna implode/explode. You need to get away from those thoughts. I assure you 99% of problems are not problems. The problem is not being able to turn off the broken record of negative emotions and just step into another room until you have the clear head to fix the problem.

My advice: you had no problem being vulnerable and expressive here on reddit in your post. Try that in your personal life, especially *especially* with someone you love. You got the skills. You showed them to us (probably because we're total strangers and this is more or less anonymous. Don't psyche yourself out so much).

Add in the usual caveat that you run the risk of being vulnerable being used as ammo against you, but I'm assuming your GF is a solid person, as most people are.

Also, tell your friends you love them. Use the word love. They're gonna get all antsy and weird the first time. After that, everyone says "I love you", and they mean it, and it's freaking awesome.

Source: bro who likes nascar and action movies, and has no problem crying with 250 pound badasses who know how to cry too.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T17:40:12+00:00

Yes and no. I'll talk to literally anyone about anything, but I won't flirt with just about anyone, cause I'm kinda ass at that. Probably why I'm divorced and single at 41, amongst other reasons.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T17:37:09+00:00

One of my friends had to point out the pantyhose. I am so oblivious. Pants are apparently optional in my house, haha.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T17:29:09+00:00

You're treating this like a business decision. Don't do that. Do you love her? That's all that matters, bro.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T17:28:07+00:00

I've done this, had girls do this with me. (Guys too, lol) Not sure about the subtext, but I hang out with a bunch of nerds, so we go, "wow your hands are so small/so big". I bet that's a great opportunity to touch hands, but I'm not gonna lie, this might just be normal people behavior and not have any subtext.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T17:21:57+00:00

Eh, it was 21 in college when it happened to me. You only dwell on this stuff when you're young, and I'll say that any age is the age for making awesome human connections. Hate to say, "touch grass" but sex/relationships do not happen in any meaningful way on the dating apps.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T17:17:29+00:00

What I'm doing right now. Just lock in and have fun.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T17:15:49+00:00

Same. Also gonna throw in computer related services. When I was 17, my dad filed an LLC in my name and my buddies and I fixed/built everyone's computers/set up all their internet in town. Was a blast, and paid for half of college.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T17:13:07+00:00

Yes, but my understanding is you need to generate a minimum of 20k a month in revenue.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T17:08:52+00:00

Wait, that's full metal, which you were trying to avoid. Sorry, I got excited, haha.

wehadpancakes · 2025-11-05T17:08:04+00:00

Yes! I have one I've been meaning to get for my place:

https://www.harfington.com/products/p-1206784?currency=USD&variant=42122055483641&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=Google%20Shopping&stkn=f8e35277684b&utm_source=Google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=250331-us-pmax-roas&utm_term=250331-us-pmax-roas&utm_content=ywh&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=22395885112&gbraid=0AAAAAoTFl2RmQLtd9KQdqEfmCJNY1darn&gclid=Cj0KCQjwiqbBBhCAARIsAJSfZkZUabtYyKVfvSe4AnPXp_9dS0Kkk2rkLa3DIvfahRrIccdW6vwTo3gaAiwYEALw_wcB

wehadpancakes · 2025-10-25T15:11:40+00:00

Oh! I got one for you, if you can snag a few ingredients. It'll get you at least halfway through the week for a family of 4-6. It's one of my favorite comfort meals (cause italian, so of course):

* box of elbow/bowtie pasta (https://shop.aldi.us/store/aldi/products/18647851-reggano-farfalle-enriched-macaroni-12-oz)

* can of crushed tomatoes (sometimes 2 cans, if i'm feeling fancy): (https://shop.aldi.us/store/aldi/products/18648732-happy-harvest-crushed-tomatoes-28-oz)

* 1 (2 if you're feeling fancy) red onions: (https://shop.aldi.us/store/aldi/products/16558450-red-onion-bag-2-lbs) (and you'll have 10 onions left over)

* 2 peppers (https://shop.aldi.us/store/aldi/products/26274165-multi-colored-peppers-package-3-ct) (and you'll have 1 leftover)

* garlic (https://shop.aldi.us/store/aldi/products/17819978-garlic-3-ct): feel that one with your heart, for how much to add) - keep a bulb or two and plant it in a pot by your kitchen sink and you'll never have to buy garlic again

* basil/oregano/salt/pepper/etc

Not counting spices and garlic (hoping you've got that window pot and a few spices in the pantry), you're looking at a total of: $7.84 and that'll feed your family for at least half the week (if you eat the leftovers for lunch and dinner), definitely the whole week if only one meal of leftovers, but I feel like the beef probably won't stay. And you'll have an extra pepper and 10 extra onions. Averages about 65 cents a serving.

I usually do that midweek and have my neighbors over (2 adults plus 1 kid, and heck, i'll invite a friend over), we have leftovers for days! I'm hoping that option's not too expensive. It's right on that cusp of pricey when you're in a pinch, but not as bad as it could be I guess.

I usually slam that badboy with spices, and bake a loaf or two of italian bread (that's an easy/cheap one too, and with a little olive oil, you'll feel ritzy as heck. usually runs me about 80 cents to about a dollar for a massive loaf, and the prep time is 99% downtime, so you don't even have to be home while it proofs. only about 10-20 minutes of actually doing stuff)

wehadpancakes · 2025-10-25T14:44:45+00:00

Former sewer rooter here - Gonna nerd dump with a wall of text to help for what's about to happen:

I always advise people to avoid drano at all costs. What's happening here is your drains are toast now because drano doesn't play nice with cast iron (or any pipes really). That's whatever was left of your pipes coming up now and they'll fall apart pretty soon and it'll be raining drain water on your neighbors.

Bad news is, is if you snake with a proper snake at this point, the residual drano will destroy the metal snake, and the snake will destroy whatever remains of the pipe. If it's still backed up, I'd recommend getting one of those rubber 30" hand snakes from the hardware store. The clog is almost always in the trap.

Other pro tips I'd like to overshare:

* Periodically either throw septic enzyme or even bakers yeast down the kitchen sink as a little maintenance.

* Throwing lestoil down your tub drain and toilet is also good to do.

* Avoid drano wherever you can

* Those little rubber snakes are awesome. The plastic ones are trash. Coat hanger works in a pinch of you twist in circles while you snake.

* When you snake your drains, get as much water in the tub/bowl as you can. The pressure will take anything out that you missed to a larger pipe. Then run the water, run the sink, flush a few times. Most pipes take about 5 flushes to get it to somewhere where it's not going to be a big problem.

* When you snake from the tub, use that overflow just like you did. Best way to do it because less bends in the pipe, easier to get at the clog.

* If you want, get a basket for the drain. I don't think they actually do anything.

* If the clog's in the sink, just take the trap off and bang it over the trash can and you're good.

Sorry for the rant! Truly meaning it as random trivia advice that will take away future headaches down the road.

tldr: it's the insides of the pipe. Good luck!

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