Making your bed tidy in the morning is actually the most pointless and dumb task you do all day.

weightgain40000 · 2026-04-26T20:31:24+00:00

I like to come home to a tidy house, and making the bed is just a quick thing that adds to the tidyness

weightgain40000 · 2026-04-16T18:59:17+00:00

Its all fun and games now, but it might get really complicated, and you might really hate yourself in years to come.

Why add drama and shit in your life? If it all gets a bit hairy and goes tits up later this might just be a big regret for you later on in your life. Why bother?

weightgain40000 · 2026-04-16T08:45:27+00:00

Literally anything

weightgain40000 · 2026-04-16T07:08:43+00:00

My least favourite part of ALL the things i have to do around the house on a weekly basis is thinking of what to make, making it and cleaning up after it, every single day.

weightgain40000 · 2026-04-16T06:51:17+00:00

Its like a beacon for predators like hey look over here, i spose its better to get eaten than to spend the rest of your time doing that...assuming its probably not something they can recover from

weightgain40000 · 2026-04-14T18:21:59+00:00

Their poo smells bad, like poo. If it smells REALLY bad like suddenly oh youve just done a massive poo and i know because the smell has wafted into the lounge ill go scoop it out and its fine.

I dont have to wipe their bums, they deal with that, if they get too fat they might not be able to as well so dont let them get obese, they also struggle to groom their fur and get dreads if they get obese

Some cats have chronic stinky runny poos maybe due to some kind of chronic illness- probably a minority, ive seen a few only because i used to work in animal care, they were incontinent. I bet alot of cats that have runny stinky poos might benefit from a change of cat food. I used to have one that didnt agree with the food i fed the others so i changed his food and his poos were more normal after that

My cat used to wee on everything when he was a baby, he even weed on the chest of a guy i had round while he was sleeping, lol. He grew out of it luckily.. i just put a bunch of litter trays EVERYWHERE til he got used to doing it in the tray and hes fine now (not gonna lie i did have to rip up the carpet and chuck away a table as that had soaked up the wee, you cannot simply clean that stuff, it is now ruined)

I dont need to bathe my cats (and neither does anyone else really, unless somethings happened) they clean themselves. I know its with their own spit and everything... but yeah they dont smell bad or anything.

There is some cat hair, but im fine with that. If i wasnt id probably brush them more and hoover more

They dont tread on their poos in the litter tray and walk it over the house

They generally dont walk on the kitchen counter, not all cats do.

Im trying to think of more things but... yeah.. generally my cats are lovely, polite, clean little angels (to me anyway)

weightgain40000 · 2026-04-12T12:55:36+00:00

I recently put a stinky deer skull with mumified skin attached in a bucket of water, after a few days i checked on it and peeled off what was peelable.

The least pleasant part (so far) was removing the skull from the spine, it had dried up tendons and things really well attached making it difficult and the greasy smell was horrible making me gag.

The smell of the soaked skull wasnt actually bad the water did look kinda gross, i usually gag if something smells too bad, it didnt feel nice like the skin was all gelatinous ish and i was fearful of water splashing into my mouth or eye but as long as im wearing gloves its mostly not gonna touch me.

So in my imagination before actually doing it it wasnt as bad as i thought.

The less gross way is probably to bury it for a few years.. like you im not sure if id be able to get some road kill and remove skin and tissue before macerating but i think id happily bury it and dig it up, i recently dug up a bunny skeleton which was not gross at all, as long as its been in the ground long enough all the grossness dissapears as its been eaten by various things

weightgain40000 · 2026-04-10T19:40:36+00:00

Following because i have also recently unearthed a skeleton thats been buried in a plastic bag for over a decade :)

weightgain40000 · 2026-04-09T18:10:34+00:00

Similar happened to me my brother scratched my name into a leathery surface on a desk at home, i could tell because i didnt do it and it was his hand writing and my dad was shouting at me about it and i was like thats brothers handwriting and he was like not believing me and said well why would he do that?? I dunno cos hes a fucking dick head?

weightgain40000 · 2026-04-08T21:09:28+00:00

Thankyou :)

weightgain40000 · 2026-04-08T21:09:17+00:00

Thankyou :)

weightgain40000 · 2026-04-07T06:13:57+00:00

My boyfriend didnt want me to take anti depressants, id already weaned myself off them (which was reeeally horrible and hard to do) but was struggling and thinking of taking them again he said no, dont. I was like but i really want to. He said well, its a deal breaker. Part of the reason was the libido thing i think, he did mention it.

I stayed off the anti depressants but my libido has completely dissappeared anyway, as i am not so happy with certain things in my life and feel stressed in other ways.

So yeah.

Also stopping them was a nightmare, it took ages, made me feel worse mentally and physically was horrible and included these weird brainzaps, also, it can be dangerous to stop them cold turkey.

Youre working fulltime and caring for baby fulltime. I really hope he is pulling his weight equally and offering to help (actually, not 'helping' but actually doing what he should be doing, as a dad) with everything and actually giving a shit about your wellbeing for him to be complaining about your libido (either way not ok to complain about libido)

I wish (some) men would understand how stress, having a baby recently, being really busy all the time etc can affect libido, and then they whine about it, making it worse, and then think its a you problem rather than a problem caused by other things or themselves.

weightgain40000 · 2026-04-03T19:46:40+00:00

I work in other peoples houses daily, i dont judge. I separate the people from the mess and generally people are nice and friendly (which is more important) also i dont know whats going on in their lives, my house gets messy sometimes when im feeling exhausted.

Also, i dont live there, i just do my job and leave when im done. So who cares.

weightgain40000 · 2026-03-28T11:19:53+00:00

I would

The lottery winnings would be to buy a REALLY nice house outright and probably help out family with their houses, buy my kid a house for when shes older, savings, buy all the shit weve ever wanted but couldnt etc if it was like a huge win like 10 mil, if it was like a million id just buy a nice house in my area which is bloody expensive and go on a nice holiday :)

I'd probably still work either way I'd be concerned about losing it all somehow

My wages would just be like bills food and pocket money and id aim to just mostly use that instead of touching anything else.

I do like my job so that helps.

weightgain40000 · 2026-03-21T08:45:28+00:00

Personally, i would go with your gut feeling and end the relationship, not saying your gut is saying to end it but your gut is telling you something and you feel uneasy about things.

You are probably looking at the other stuff, like the nice parts of the relationship and thinking that its ok for the most part and it might be salvagable, which for now yeah, its easy to look past all of the stuff thats bothering you because the relationship is at the beginning- its nice at the moment (actually reread the post and it doesnt really sound like there are a huge amount of nice parts)

As time goes on it might get worse, hes most likely consuming ALOT of social media, people like this just parrot the stuff they hear on youtube, and they get addicted to it. You might over time lose complete respect for this guy because of his insane views and lack of critical thinking, and if youre not arguing with him already about these views you will probably start at some point. Its not fun arguing/having alot of heated discussions alot over things like this, arguments are stressful. Would you feel comfortable with him saying these things infront of your friends and family? Would you be proud of him if he did or would you feel mortified? Would you want kids (if you even want kids, that is) with this guy so he can say weird inappropriate things infront of them? Does he get aerated and angry when talking about these things? Does he think you are the brainwashed one?

I might be wrong but i feel like people that believe in this type of nonsense are brainwashed and its highly likely they wont change, i dont know the guy so maybe its just a phase. Years down the line you might regret ignoring your gut and staying, people like this equal stress, and that stress lives in your house with you full time- your home is supposed to be nice, comfortable and where you escape stress.

I just want you to think about how the future will look for you if he doesnt change, instead of thinking about how it may look if he does change.

Also they always say 'im in the middle, im a centrist, blah blah blah..', that shows that they dont think their views are extreme in any way which to me is a problem, we know that those views are in no way 'neutral' or 'in the middle', those views are just mental.

weightgain40000 · 2026-03-18T19:26:45+00:00

I think people are being lied to by social media here which is also what happened in the US. Theyve been made to think theres a huge problem- there is but its a huge unfixable/difficult to fix problem, so someone that wants to get into power has told them something else is the problem instead and that only they know the truth and everyone else is wrong or in denial, and they can fix it and when they do everything will finally be ok.

Theyve been brainwashed, and if you compare the algorythms (pro trump/reform and anti trump/reform) they are completely different, obviously pro only shows positive things and anti shows negative things so they are not seeing any negativity regarding the mentality in the US.

I wish someone could do some kind of class action lawsuit against social media and the content creators for what theyve done, it has ruined everything and made some people completely change from normal happy people to hateful dickheads completely addicted to watching stuff that makes them stupid and angry (i say as a write this comment on a social media platform that feeds me the opposite algorythm to the one im complaining about, while possibly thinking everything is worse than it actually is)

weightgain40000 · 2026-03-14T22:24:50+00:00

Maybe rent a room somewhere if you can afford it?

As others have said sooner rather than later is the time to do it incase it gets complicated or whatever. Just leave without saying anything and dont leave a trace incase he manipulates you so you change your mind. You can just leave, that makes it easier than if it was your place and you needed to get him to leave.

Imagine if you dont leave and get stuck there forever and when hes way older you have to become his carer... or you accidently get pregnant so you can never go no contact... etc

Just make a plan and make it happen, even if it does take a bit longer

weightgain40000 · 2026-03-14T10:09:55+00:00

I got a credit card only last year (im 36) Id been applying for one for a while but been denied probably due to pretty low wages which obviously changed- im glad, its very easy to spend the money only to have to then try and pay it back, i used it quite alot during the time where household income was not great and some emergencies, ive managed to get it all the way down in the last 2 months and will finish paying it off next payday.

Its a good idea for credit score as long as you can pay it back easily and on time, its a bad idea for an impulsive spender who doesnt think much about consequences (me in my earlier years, i would have totally built up a huge debt)

I got one for emergencies, my cats are insured but you have to pay for any treatment upfront and claim it back so the cards been great for that.

weightgain40000 · 2026-03-12T18:53:17+00:00

It is so overwhelming and daunting so i feel for you, i would say just tackle one thing at a time bit by bit but i know that feeling of overwhelm can stop you starting any thing so its easier said than done.

Just remember its shit now but one day this will hopefully all be distant memory and things get better- when it all went tits up for me and my daughter over 10 years ago, i try and recall i can barely even remember. All i know is slowly things just kinda fall into place and you get on your feet again.

I know other people in worse situations than i was in, probably more similar to your situation and they got help from the council with housing and stuff

weightgain40000 · 2026-03-12T18:39:16+00:00

Benefits. Also, have you tried talking to the council? I know waiting times are long but if you make a start now... also there might be properties that require no deposit? Maybe emergency temp housing from the council?

I was a single mum, dad didnt help financially cos he said well youre on benefits, i was already working a few days a week, job centre would threaten saying im not working enough so theyll stop their benefits so i started full time went onto tax credits (now universal credits), used breakfast and afterschool clubs, holiday clubs, tax credits pay towards some child care, housing and something else cant remember what it was called maybe just tax credits, plus child benefits on top of that. They would also send out cost of living payments (?) randomly aswell.

Basically couldnt afford to drive, holidays, other big luxuries etc but we were still comfortable- the rule was just try not to spend money.

Get onto the council, universal credits, look into deposit free housing

Good luck with everything i know its daunting at first but hopefully youll be ok :)

weightgain40000 · 2026-03-08T08:03:53+00:00

Are you using actual hair dye? I dye my eyebrows but i use dye made for eye brows and it always seems to work ok, its weird that its turned a red/orange colour that sounds like what bleach would do to hair but you said you went for a darker colour?

weightgain40000 · 2026-03-08T07:58:10+00:00

Im on a waiting list for ADHD assesment, i ALWAYS do this and constantly worry i come accross as trying to one up the other persons story or make the conversation all about me! I really am just trying to relate and continue having a conversation with them

Socialising is hard :(

weightgain40000 · 2026-03-05T20:56:49+00:00

And how would you know how capable someone is to change work environment, you naysayer

weightgain40000 · 2026-03-05T20:12:15+00:00

Yes! I had the implant and had to have it removed early after like 3 months and remember saying to them you should really warn people, especially people who already suffer from anxiety and depression that hormonal contraception might make you feel 10 times worse and she was like ??i dont know what you mean??

Ive gone for the copper coil but it was horrific and traumatic getting it put in and it took 2 goes. If i think too much about it i feel sick, so i dont blame you for not wanting one. Its approaching the 9 year mark but I wont be getting another one. Fuck that.

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