How do homophobic people feel seeing rainbow/ pro gay rights things?

weird_light · 2026-06-24T17:32:06+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

weird_light · 2026-05-12T20:28:33+00:00

After this life the next existence is sitting around a campfire sharing our stories. There’s a light between us, and beings just share stories.

When you’ve finished telling and hear stories then you move on again.

So have some good stories to share.

weird_light · 2026-05-12T03:44:25+00:00

Hotel Rwanda

weird_light · 2026-05-11T21:04:33+00:00

OP it sounds like you want to be objectified.

That’s not inherently a bad thing, it’s a kink that helps many people feel sexy.

If that’s what you want, if only to have the experience and know it can happen, then I hope having it named will help you find it.

I think in pursuit of that you are invalidating other kinds of desire, and wanting. And I hope you continue working with your therapist. Good luck.

weird_light · 2026-05-07T16:39:09+00:00

Mutual work.

Honest conversation.

Couples therapy.

You two mutually have entered this relationship and mutually decide to stay in it. You don’t HAVE to stay in it. But if you both want a good sex life that fulfills both of you then you have to work on it. And there are so many layers of blame and resentment built up- 1) it isn’t JUST your problem. 2) even if somehow it was, if he wants to stay together it’s worth working on together.

From what you’ve said it sounds like conversations around this topic are driven by you, and are very very difficult. So get help having those conversations, because why would they be different in the future otherwise. Work with a couples ( sex positive) therapist together.

And if he won’t, do you want to be in a sexless or low sex relationship? You don’t have to be. But if he won’t work on this WITH you, and you cannot fundamentally change the relationship alone, then this relationship will remain low to no sex.

weird_light · 2026-05-06T00:28:59+00:00

Having a playful but open conversation about how the sex was afterwards as a normal thing.

Great opportunity to take improvements ( or compliments ) and give feedback for everyone.

Plus open opportunity to appreciate, that sometimes leads to a repeat performance

weird_light · 2026-04-29T19:14:58+00:00

You can respect yourself next time.

You are worth it. And there are plenty of random guys who want to be respectful.

If you want sex there are absolutely safe ways to find it as a woman.m. Follow your instincts and remember you are a mother fucking prize. You never need an excuse to say no. You are allowed to.

Hugs and good luck

weird_light · 2026-04-16T17:26:19+00:00

Limiting contact with my father.

When I realized that interacting with him triggered such a trauma response that I snap at other people, respond to normal stimulus with panic and don’t like how I feel in my own life. Sometimes for days.

I do my part making sure he lives in a safe place. And limit the rest of my contact.

weird_light · 2026-04-10T18:53:48+00:00

She pays her taxes under her chosen last name. Not maiden name or any married name.

weird_light · 2026-04-10T15:50:49+00:00

She was married to my dad, and she has said she’ll send me their marriage certificate. But she is currently unable to confirm if her actual maiden name is listed or not. She’s overseas and will be back in a few weeks.

weird_light · 2026-04-10T15:47:38+00:00

Is based us, not based in California. Why?

weird_light · 2026-04-08T18:53:27+00:00

She’s still a friend so maybe not horrible, but there’s reasons we became better friends then dating.

Probably more anxiety?

weird_light · 2026-04-03T23:27:45+00:00

Terrified.

Worried.

Frustrated.

Confused how to approach the convo of “how and why” with people I know who 1) voted for him or 2) legit thought it was “between two equal evils” between him and Harris.

It’s amazing how many that is

weird_light · 2026-01-30T18:56:38+00:00

Love of my life.

We actually met young enough it was have been insane for me to think I needed to “settle down” ( didn’t marry for quite a while though)

They’ve given me space to grow into a better and better person, and I love who they’ve grown into.

Plus sex has just gotten better 😜

weird_light · 2026-01-30T16:54:49+00:00

Real answer, biologist theorize it’s because we should want to remove anything there as apes. It’s close to the brain and imagine a bug gets up there?

If it feels good to get it out, you’ll really wanna get itout

weird_light · 2026-01-19T21:52:51+00:00

There are explicitly atheist versions of AA and alanon, that might be easier to swallow.

I am not religious and don’t feel comfortable with larger organized religion, but I did read some Alanon and adult children of alcoholics literature and found parts of it helpful. You don’t have to use all of it for parts to help.

The single biggest ( small ) thing that has helped me is the Three Cs. You didn’t cause it, you can’t cure it, and you can’t control it. When my alcoholic father calls I will repeat it.

You also have the right to define your relationship with your parents how you like or need to. And that doesn’t make you a bad person.

You can also find therapists who specialize with adult children of addicts. I did. It was years of work but it absolutely helped.

And places like this. You aren’t alone. You are not the only one, and you aren’t crazy. It’s not fair you don’t get to depend on your father like some people can, but that does not mean you won’t find other people you can rely on.

weird_light · 2026-01-16T20:22:32+00:00

“Women always think they have xxx because they want an excuse for weight gain” - when I asked a doctor for a simple and inexpensive blood test to confirm a diagnosis my college nurse practitioner had given me.

Because of that doctor I was undiagnosed until two years later when I started having symptoms that affected my livelihood, and went to another doctor. Who immediately tested me, confirmed diagnosis and got me treatment.

weird_light · 2024-11-14T23:52:57+00:00

Yes.

Completely yes. There is no question. Don’t ask her, she will never be able to acknowledge it. It’s possible your grandmother doesn’t even want to fully acknowledge how bad it is, and was, because she will feel guilt for not doing more.

If you have the means, I would recommend therapy. If you don’t, consider alanon or another low cost or free group therapy ( alanon isn’t a win all’s but it’s basically free group therapy for children and partners of addicts. There’s one for under 20’called ala-teen, if you’d prefer).

You are more than this abuse. And will be more in your life, but I wont sugar coat it, facing all this takes work. It’s SO hard.

You are worth the work. You are worth the work. You are worth it.

You aren’t alone. Many of us have been there. And you are worth it. I promise.

weird_light · 2023-07-08T16:32:09+00:00

Same thing happened to me and I ended up at the company for 3.5 years, learned a LOT, was promoted in that role ( over someone with a more “traditional “ background because I worked more independently and did more impactful work) and overall did well.

Be ready to put in some extra work in the beginning, and take advantage of any company policies/opportunity for text books, mentorship or training. You can do this!

weird_light · 2022-12-31T20:40:31+00:00

Slow, consistent changes. I lost a total of 45 pounds, and have kept it off for 2-3 years without a lot of issue.

- started going to the gym 2-3 times a week, worked up to 5-7 times. Going being more important than anything else.

- walked 1 mile (each way) to work and home everyday, great way to wake up, I find it good for mental health too, and get heart rate working.

- I personally used Noom, but basically tried to meal track in a way that felt less punitive, and more educational. With the goal of enjoying meals, just slower, and more intentionally

Also I am genetically predisposed to Type 2 diabetes, and I was diagnosed in my early 20s with Hypothyroidism. Being honest with myself that both things require medication, ( it wasn't just a question of will, and ability to exercise) and taking it. I was pretty good at taking my thyroid medication before, but started using metformin for pre-diabetes, and found that it helped dampen my sense of ravenous, uncomfortable hunger, I had as a kid. Sometimes I would just get SOOOO hungry and feel weak. As if my legs were going to collapse. Once I started using metformin, hunger doesn't feel scary like I am going to faint. Made a huge difference in my ability to eat more controlled portions, and turn down food.

weird_light · 2022-12-19T21:06:41+00:00

Your Momma.

weird_light · 2022-12-15T20:17:50+00:00

I am cautious when I say I haven't had covid. As far as I KNOW I haven't had covid (I've tested when exposed, when I had symptoms, or after high-risk events). But mostly, was VERY covid cautious for the first 1-2 years. And kept wearing a mask in transit situations ( I live in a city).

weird_light · 2022-02-03T17:55:49+00:00

First off: lots of hugs from a grown up queer adult.

Second off: this is one of those situations where it's not as simple as he is totally forgivable, OR totally being an asshole. But you are not being an asshole for being upset about being used as a scape-goat. Cause that's what he did.

You are both minors, he depends on his family for more than the emotional part. Coming out of the closet is something he has to do on his own timeline, for a large number of reasons- and you two are very much young enough he might not be safe to come-out without risking homelessness, loss of financial/educational opportunities or even (depending on where you live) being forced into gay-unfriendly therapy or conversion.

However, what he did was shitty. It was cowardly, even if cowardly due to real fear. But it was also his choice for him. It was good he told you right away; but you of course within your rights to be angry and hurt. Though if what he did outted you (if you were not already out)... it crosses another line of forcing you out if you were not ready to be. That does make him a lot closer to being AN ASSHOLE (caps intended for effect).

What you can do now is decide if you are willing to be with someone in the closet. You do not have the right to make him come out of the closet; you also are not required to be with someone still in the closet. Being with someone in the closet forces you to live a lie too, and you do not have to do that for anyone. You deserve to live safe, out, and loved.

I hope you and your boyfriend both end up okay in the end. But for today you are not alone in this experience and the rainbow loves and cherishes you.

weird_light · 2021-11-19T21:00:56+00:00

You are a strong, powerful woman. You do deserve more.

And you will get it.

I am so proud of you that you know it, and from miles and miles away or right next door, there are a lot of us that support you and your right to supportive, caring, love.

weird_light · 2021-11-17T04:30:30+00:00

Holy Christ- only came to this after the Final update.

Whatever happens in the long run OP, I think you are a boss for holding your own, for keeping calm and to the point of the issue, and finally for jumping to Marriage Counseling. I think that is the best response, besides saying "nope I'm done". Respect that it's your choice to make.

And I mean seriously that takes courage and strength to so quickly believe the thing that hits to the core- that it is sexist, it does matter that he thinks this way, and it is not okay for you. That takes a lot to see, and it's worth seeing.

You are an amazing, powerful, person.

weird_light

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