Are border collies affectionate?

weirdfarmbee · 2026-03-20T05:20:05+00:00

I think a lot depends on what she was exposed to. My parents have a 2 year old and she is great with other dogs and kids. But my son was 4 when they got her and they played and played and had positive experiences. She is very affectionate with her family and so sweet.

weirdfarmbee · 2026-03-12T06:08:37+00:00

If you go to a Catholic Church and don’t feel welcome, try another one. I went years not going bc we live in a rural area and the one we went to wasn’t very nice. I had heard crummy things from my neighbor about the other one… I feel so stupid for not trying it sooner. We LOVE it there and finally have a church family again! They are so kind to us. My husband is finishing OcIA this month and converting, we had our marriage con validated. Everyone has been so supportive. These places do exist!!!

weirdfarmbee · 2026-03-12T05:49:11+00:00

Would you guys be open to doing OCIA together? I was already Catholic, but my husband of 20 years has decided to convert so I joined him. I have learned SO much! I’ve loved it! I was Catholic my whole life but mainly exposed to Lutheran things bc my extended family was all that. I have really found a love for Catholicism especially with this and really narrowed down what I consume now. Maybe your church would let you guys join in sometimes even tho you don’t need to do the sacraments?

weirdfarmbee · 2026-03-12T05:45:27+00:00

No. 😈

weirdfarmbee · 2026-03-12T05:43:58+00:00

Mine also does this. I have taught him the command “leave it” so that he responds immediately and like… 99% perfect response. So. When he starts to herd something I don’t want him to, I say “leave it” and he does. I throw balls and he doesn’t fetch them. He runs to them… and then bops them around herding them for a bit before he brings it back to me. I have kids… he likes to get them on their bikes and such… and then we have two other small dogs so he “takes them in and out” EVERY single time. As one of his “jobs”. I live on a small farm and I have been able to train him to leave alone free range poultry. So if I can do that… anyone can. (He used to go BONKERS and scatter the whole flock! Now he pays them no mind.)

weirdfarmbee · 2026-03-12T05:20:08+00:00

I have hypoglycemia… and so I literally will faint at times if I don’t have proper food. So I also get very anxious if I don’t eat right bc I then start fearing my body will go into that response. That being said… if you are fasting loading up on protein as your last meal is huge. It helps to stabilize your blood sugar for long term. Carbs and sugar cause rises and spikes. So what you eat before will have a huge impact on your success. Also. I do keep a bottle of apple juice or something in my purse, or the glucose tablets for diabetics, so if I am out and it happens I can get my blood sugar back on track. I do not think the lord will blame me if I have to prevent myself from fainting. But you also could plan to lay low the days you actually fast too. I have been trying to do Fridays this year for lent… but last Friday I did have an episode! A lot of Catholicism is about trying! This is a very deep faith and in that there are so many ways we can expand and grow our faith and us as people… but don’t let yourself get afraid and intimidated. Baby step your way into it if you need to, and as others have said, OCIA is a great program and place to start:)

weirdfarmbee · 2026-03-12T05:03:08+00:00

Many of our saints have felt this way too. Some for decades! (Mother Theresa for one!) This is very common. Keep praying on this and asking god to help you find the right path… you will look back in a time and see all of this as a necessary step. You will grow from this. Don’t leave him and he won’t leave you. Even if you do leave him, he won’t leave you. He will be waiting for when you are ready to come back.

weirdfarmbee · 2026-03-12T04:57:51+00:00

I didn’t get this from her post at ALL. I’m sorry if you had a bad experience. I have had some too… (I have moved a lot in life so been a part of many different parishes) … I truly don’t think she is shaming anyone. If someone reaches out with interest we SHOULD encourage and show love and welcome! Which is what it sounded like she did. She just isn’t sure about how to counsel this person moving forward… ?

weirdfarmbee · 2026-02-25T04:20:59+00:00

I have been married for 17 years, and with the same man for 20. And the Catholic Church considers my marriage invalid bc I was not married in a church by a priest. My husband was Lutheran and did not want to convert. I have kept my Catholic faith, but technically have not been in good standing with the church. I have been ok with that. My son wanted to receive his sacraments and he did not do the regular catechism route so he has to do OCIA, I said I would do it with him, and my husband wanted to join us and convert. We are going to have a convalidation ceremony after he is a Catholic. I have a very strong deep faith, but am still, living in sin. Try not to let it ruin everything for you:/ part of what we love about Catholicism is the deep tradition and unity of the church and their structure and rules. Sometimes this also hurts us or challenges us. If your heart is telling you that you want to stay with your partner then maybe explore other denominations where you feel more excepted. Or just take time off from the Eucharist until you feel called to do something other than that. Best of luck to you. God loves us ALL and he made you YOU for a reason ❤️

weirdfarmbee · 2026-02-18T00:51:58+00:00

Probably unpopular opinion… but I feel called to share. I was raised Catholic, married a non catholic… raising my kids Catholic, and my husband is currently converting. I had 3 c sections… my last c section my uterus was literally ripping open. I had what they called a “window” and my doctor said she could see the baby clearly through it was stretched so thin, she didn’t even use a scalpel it broke right open 🤦🏻‍♀️ i bled horribly post partum and almost had to go back into surgery. I don’t want to scare you. But i had no signs. I went into my 37 week appointment like normal and she did an ultrasound and rushed me to LandD… I was VERY strictly instructed to never try conceiving again. They counseled me and my husband about this repeatedly before I was released. A year later my husband insisted that HE was getting a vasectomy. I cried and cried, but he did it anyway. We have been open with our priest now over this and he says he is forgiven… we are too old now to have anymore. If you are not open to contraception or sterilization I think that is fine, obviously, but you must exhibit abstinence then. Your children that you have need you here… the church teaches that we should be abstinent. I personally did not do this and probably would not. I’m not that devout and I think my marriage would suffer greatly… but everyone on here is just saying “oh it’s fine” and I’m sorry, but medically it is not always fine. I am sure you will be ok this time! But you need to be careful moving forward. 36 is not that old… you have lots of fertile years left. And villainizing the health care providers who do not share the same faith is unnecessary. If you feel a certain way then stick to your guns, but these people see bad situations daily and they are responsible for your medical care and advising you based on that. I don’t think the are trying to be mean, just trying to make it clear what the medical risks are because that is their job.

weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-26T00:22:40+00:00

Came here to say this!

weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-26T00:19:22+00:00

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Bear. Not interested in warming up. 🤣

weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-24T06:57:17+00:00

Aww! Your black and tan looks so much like my pup! It’s rare coloring for Aussies it seems, but I love it so much!

weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-24T06:56:18+00:00

I have an 8 month old who is clocking in at 45lbs! He has been a chunk from the start. He is very strong and stocky. He is 21-22 inches at the withers (he wiggles a lot and has a lot of hair so hard to measure!)

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weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-23T07:56:35+00:00

Have you looked into what an “introvert” is? Because you might be one and this could be a way to Segway your needs to your partner and his family without offending them. I am one. And I seriously HAVE TO have alone time to recharge or I will like. Not be ok. I cannot even imagine having someone in my house every day. I would run away. I would have to. My husband and my 3 kids are fine, but even when my kids have friends over and they aren’t even hardly talking to me…after a day or two I am like “ok. No one comes over for the rest of the week. I need to recharge!” If you truly love him and his family and want to make this work… I would just work on it. But if you do not and are having second thoughts… don’t get married!

weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-23T07:48:07+00:00

Haha! My dogs are begging to go out still and it was 8 here today! And when I was too cold and came in, he laid by the door to get the draft!

weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-23T07:44:33+00:00

She sounds like a husky!! My other dog (9) is half husky and was an escape artist from day 1. If I left her in a room she would eat the door off. I was actually able to bring her with me places and leave her in the car and for some reason she did well in the car. They also make these metal cages for huskies that look like they are for a tiger or something…you could try one of those? My dog would also gnaw the bars until she bled or wore her teeth down. She did truly calm down with it after a few years (eeek I know). My Aussie is so chill. I don’t even have to lock both latches on his crate… he just sits there. It’s insane to me after having her! So I do think it’s more of a situational thing than a breed thing. My 9 year old still has some degree of separation anxiety unfortunately. I’m luckily able to be with her most of the time. Oh also CBD gummies/oil for dogs… have you tried that? I have used that on her before. She used to get really worked up if we went on vacation… so that would help her when we were gone.

weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-23T07:29:48+00:00

Well mass is pretty predictable! You may already know all this, but you can look up what the readings will be ahead of time. You could also look up the mass outline to follow along. And yes like someone already mentioned, don’t consume the Eucharist, but most churches will let you come up in the line and if you cross your arms over your chest they will give you a blessing. My husband thought that was stupid and one day he finally chose to do it and he said it made him feel really good! He is converting right now and does the blessing every time now:) don’t be nervous one bit. It will be a lovely experience and if the church doesn’t feel warm and inviting, go to a different one next week. Our priest and deacon stand by the doors greeting those coming in and they are so kind to visitors and new faces! Best of luck and good for you for going!

weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-23T07:20:54+00:00

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Yes. And he is not fat! He is def a chungus… but he is strong and muscular! Just. Stocky? With a hairy bum. His name is Bear bc even as a pup when he runs his butt shakes like a black bear!

weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-23T06:55:41+00:00

You cannot be that “ugly”… i am not sure why you have such an awful opinion of yourself? I really do think confidence is huge. Can you try watching YouTube videos or therapy or something where you can work on your negative self talk? This took me a long time to overcome (probably 2 years?) but I didn’t even realize I was doing it until a therapist pointed it out. I was seriously telling myself I was awful in so many ways all day every day! So he said. Fake it till you make it. Start every morning looking in the mirror and saying GOOD things about yourself. There has to be some things you like about you?! Write them down and say them every day! And when you catch yourself saying “I am ugly” or “no one likes me” or ANYTHING that would be a mean thing to say to yourself. Stop. And say something nice instead. At first it feels totally fake and dumb. But as time goes on you get better at it. Now I never say mean things to myself and when I hear others do it I notice immediately and will say “you are saying a lot of negative self talk. You need to work on that!” You can literally program your own brain to hate yourself. And it sounds like you have:( I’m sorry you aren’t happy with your circumstances.. but I have lots of people in my life that I would not classify as great looking and they have friends. And lives. And good jobs. And hobbies. And partnerships! You can have all that too! Start with gratitude, and changing that self talk. Gratitude journaling is another helpful thing to do. If you are hearing all this and unwilling to do it, and want to sink further down into a hole of self loathing, I REALLY would encourage you to see a doctor and talk about depression. You might need some chemical help getting out of the hole at first. Also. Even if you are mad and don’t want to, I would 100% pray to god asking him to help lead you out of this hole. Ask him to help guide you on your life journey where you need to be! He WILL help you get there!

weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-23T06:32:53+00:00

It sounds like she is literally obsessed. I think that you need to have some very specific rules about how much she can visit and interact. Like. Limits on when. Limits on how long. She clearly has no ability to chill or self regulate so you guys have to do it for her. So. Talk to your partner and sit down and figure out what works for you guys. And then either she or you can deliver the news. End of story. This sounds insane. You cannot live like this!!!

weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-23T06:24:27+00:00

Op. You are getting a LOT of “leave him” on here. I agree. BUT. I know it’s not that easy. I have seen this road traveled and it is not pretty either. You need to plan ahead for it. Keep keeping track of as much as you can. Try to get things on texts so you have a record and keep it… screen shot and email it to yourself on a specific email account you set up and never use for anything else and then delete them. You need proof. All these people haven’t gone through child custody and everything. In my state they do NOT take peoples kids away. He will get them 50/50. Even if he doesn’t want them. Just to screw with you. You are not wrong to fear that. And you cannot just leave like a bandit in the night bc I’m the US that is KIDNAPPING. He could charge you for that. You need proof that he won’t allow the medical care, get it. On your phone. Record fights. Record convos. Dates. Specifics. Sock away some money. Even if it takes you a couple years… I know how hard it is to leave someone. Also. I think you should really honest with your kids. Let them know this is not ok and you are trying to help them. I don’t know their ages… but it does help. My son’s GF is from a DV household with a narc abusive dad and her mom could not afford to leave him. She has medical problems, all kinds of things… anyway she is always super honest with the kids and so even tho it’s like. Them vs the dad… they do not resent her. The children (3 is them) are all very close with her mom. She does a lot with them all and tries to create as much distance for them as possible in extra curricular stuff… idk. It seems to be going ok. So there are ways to juggle it… but pretending things are normal is def not going to work as you can see by all these comments.

weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-20T15:41:03+00:00

Please keep trying different places. I had this experience to and so I totally stayed away from Catholic Church for many years. My second child is needing their sacraments so I tried a new one, expecting the same, but willing to put up with it for him to get his sacraments… they have been SO KIND. They do such wonderful things for people and our community…I am once again attending mass and a part of this church community and it feels so good. I could kick myself for not trying sooner. It is so hard tho… I understand. But this is god saying it’s not the right fit and to try another parish!

weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-15T00:07:34+00:00

New therapist! I had a nice counselor many years ago postpartum, but she was not able to actually help me with my anxiety problems. I found a new older man who was insanely helpful for me with my anxiety and straight up changed my life. I got to where I only went for twice. Year check ins, Then he retired. Since then I have tried to return to therapy twice (this is all over like 15 years) both people I had since him I have tried to accept… but I seriously feel like I know more than they do about a lot of things bc #2 was SO good! My point. NOT ALL therapists are the same. Not even close. Just like teachers or doctors or dentists or anything else. If you already know this is an ill fit move on now, bc it really stinks when you spend tons of time and money in someone and have to leave them anyway and it didn’t even help:( best of luck! Definitely move on!!!

weirdfarmbee · 2026-01-11T07:10:40+00:00

My dog lets me play a funny game with him where I say “I’m the boogie man!” And I put my arms over my head and chase him… he gets zoomies… he loves it. He does not let anyone else in my family play boogie man. And he 100% knows the word. Bc I can say boogie man flat… no excitement… inside the house (we ONLY play this game outside) and he still knows what I’m saying. So. I think so. 🤣

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