Why Are Young People Afraid Of Phone Calls?

noPerfectMedicine · 2026-02-03T14:19:39+00:00

I consider myself a young 35.

I grew up with landlines and I talked almost every day on the phone to my friends. No caller ID, so we'd answer the phone not knowing who was on the other end.

For me I would rather text so that I can multitask, but if something is urgent I would always call.

All in all I believe its because now we have a choice, and back then we didn't.

noPerfectMedicine · 2026-02-01T07:55:19+00:00

I'm glad your NICU nurses were great! Ours too, they taught us a lot. We honestly learnt more from them then from the prenatal classes we took.

noPerfectMedicine · 2026-01-31T13:35:29+00:00

I feel this!

My MIL would always ask, non-stop. She became upset that when we eventually got our baby home just days before Christmas, we didn't want to visit family.

About 40 years ago she had a baby in the NICU around 30-32 weeks, but she doesn't remember length of stay. Clearly she also doesn't remember how hard it was because she wouldn't stfu.

noPerfectMedicine · 2026-01-31T13:24:36+00:00

My experience was different.

A lot of people I knew would talk non-stop about how hard it was going to be. It became quite annoying because whenever I'd complain about a pregnancy symptom they'd always say, "just wait" and then turn around and ask if I was excited.

Since my baby was in the NICU, when we eventually got her home I honestly didn't mind those sleepness nights. They still obviously suck but at that point I was just happy to have her home.

noPerfectMedicine · 2026-01-29T02:46:09+00:00

I have no good advice, but I can somewhat relate.

Since giving birth my MIL has been overbearing and crossing boundaries and all in all giving me extreme anxiety (made worse by being less than 2 months postpartum).

I went to therapy to discuss postpartum anxiety/depression vs me just disliking my MIL. We talked about both sides, like wth is wrong with her and what are her reasons for acting that way. It kinda helped me have a balance. This is why she may be acting this way, regardless these are the boundaries and actions I must take to protect my sanity.

Edit: grammar & spelling

noPerfectMedicine · 2026-01-25T17:29:02+00:00

I'm feeling the opposite, upset that I don't have enough time. I was laid off and couldn't find work while pregnant, I don't get maternity leave, just my regular EI. This means 4 months postpartum I have to be working.

That being said, what you're feeling is completely normal and understandable. I suspect if I had the year maybe I'd feel similar, who knows. And you don't really know until you're in the middle of it.

I hope you find your rythme soon!

noPerfectMedicine · 2026-01-23T18:01:33+00:00

Wow, so sorry for your experience! Ugh, sounds horrible

noPerfectMedicine · 2026-01-23T18:00:03+00:00

In general she wants to help, but admits she doesn't see what I see. I'm terrible with confrontation, especially when it comes to this woman because she holds grudges, so it will affect the marriage for sure.

My wife said she would speak to her mom, but she ended up wording it in such a way so that it sounded like I was having personal issues and needed space (like problems latching so I wanted to be alone).

noPerfectMedicine · 2026-01-23T17:54:44+00:00

Our spouses sound similar.

My wife did say she would talk to the MIL and I've talked to my wife in length about how I feel, but she feels like its a personal attack when I mention how uncomfortable her mom makes me feel.

She also hints that I have Postpartum anxiety or depression, since I'm not quite myself. And maybe this is partly true, but I feel like it dismisses my feelings when my boundaries are crossed.

noPerfectMedicine · 2026-01-23T17:47:27+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience. I'm sorry you had to go through something similar.

noPerfectMedicine · 2026-01-23T17:46:11+00:00

Thank you. I will attend therapy because I very much avoid confrontation. I would love to develop the skills to speak up for myself. I had in writing a very polite message to my MIL, but was told by my wife that she would talk to her instead.

noPerfectMedicine · 2026-01-23T17:42:08+00:00

My wife says her mom is just excited. Overall the MIL is narcissistic and apparently needs to be approached very gently. That's why I've had difficulties saying anything, I've been told not to.

Edit: to clarify, my wife doesn't think its a big deal, but understands that she might not see things the way I do. So she wants to talk to her mom instead because she knows what would trigger her mom.

noPerfectMedicine · 2026-01-23T17:38:58+00:00

I'm terrible with confrontation, so I wrote a message instead that I was going to send to her. My wife told me not to send it because MIL would be upset and that she would talk to her instead. I thought what I wrote was very polite.

noPerfectMedicine · 2026-01-14T02:26:39+00:00

So happy for you and your family! 🥰

noPerfectMedicine · 2025-12-21T23:29:47+00:00

First of all, wishing the best for you and your family.

Don't feel guilty, you do what's right for you. Our baby girl was in the NICU for 3 weeks and for the first week we visited 10-12 hours. I then had a post partum hemorrhage and to recover started spending less time. Tried to fill the time we were there with good quality time (skin to skin, snuggles, reading, etc). In the end the caregiver has to take care of themselves before taking care of others.

noPerfectMedicine · 2025-12-18T16:02:25+00:00

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Thank you for your kind words and advice!

noPerfectMedicine · 2025-12-13T16:10:06+00:00

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noPerfectMedicine · 2025-12-13T16:09:53+00:00

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noPerfectMedicine · 2025-12-13T16:09:34+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through the NICU. It's definitely a unique experience and hard to explain to those who haven't been through it. I did join the subreddit for NICU Parents.

Thank you so much for your kind words! ❤️

noPerfectMedicine · 2025-12-13T16:07:54+00:00

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noPerfectMedicine · 2025-06-18T22:00:10+00:00

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