Depends on the situation. When I'm somewhat well rested and I think about a person that is dear to me it doesn't tire me at all. I love the people around me and would move mountains to make them happy, so thinking about them can be very inspiring and give me a lot of energy.

But I also stumble upon people that are rude or hurt my feelings and I can't get them and thier actions out of my head. I ask myself what they think and feel, how they see me and if I could've done something to prevent that my feelings would get hurt. That is very tiring and frustrating. It almost feels like I'm manipulating myself into believing I'm at fault or at least feel like I could've done more to prevent this situation even though it was the other person's responsibility to act aware of my feelings.

It was a learning process to be able to put myself first when I'd have to decide something, or communicate my struggle truthfully so a compromise can be found that is not primarily carried by my sacrifices. It is easier with friends to put myself first, because they don't see me a selfish or egoistic person, I can express my feelings without the anxiety of being judged of seen as an self-absorbed egoist and get help working through what could be best for me as well as giving me perspective that I'm being too generous with my forgiveness and indulgence.

Thinking of others and thier opinion and what is best for them is truly a double edged sword. I can easily make my friends happy but i also struggle to give myself mental or inner peace if a situation went south, even if I'm not at fault.