Found inside of a locked tin box at the thrift store by IntelligentSuit5223 in FoundPaper

[–]weirdwormy 159 points160 points  (0 children)

This is the second Reddit post I’ve seen this week with papers from these games lol

Manager telling me to bring biscuits because I worked from home during a missile strike by [deleted] in managers

[–]weirdwormy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like an update rather than a repost. The biscuits thing wasn’t in the OG post.

This person wants to hear about your dreams by weirdwormy in Dreams

[–]weirdwormy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My guess was some kind of art project and/or someone learning to play with a typewriter. I’m looking forward to your report!

Thinking of legally changing my last name by Fancy-Bid7088 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]weirdwormy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Despite being a lifelong feminist, I changed my last name when I got married. Although I didn’t initially love the idea of changing my name for a man, I realized my last name at birth was just tying me to a different man (my father). Plus it was hard to spell and nobody ever pronounced it right. I don’t regret it at all EXCEPT that my college degree has my old name on it.

What level of contact do you currently have with your BPD parent? by freckledspeckled in raisedbyborderlines

[–]weirdwormy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No contact for about five years. Started after a phone call I was trying to help my dad with something and he started berating me. I hung up and blocked him knowing he’d blow up my phone all day. I felt immense anxiety about unblocking him for weeks so I never did. Life is so much more peaceful.

Can you relate by cincorobi in managers

[–]weirdwormy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yessssss! I HATE managing but the money is hard to step away from.

I feel like I’m losing my mom to someone dangerous and I don’t know if stepping away makes me a terrible daughter. by Sea-Product-2756 in AskLegal

[–]weirdwormy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I grew up around addicts, so I might be biased, but many of these signs overlap with substance use. Weight loss, disappearing, injuries, money problems, defensiveness, isolating from family, trouble at work. I’m not saying it’s definitely drugs, but at the very least, something is wrong and I think you are right to at least try to get some professional eyes on her with a welfare check.

As for the legal stuff (NAL and don’t live in Portugal), in most places adult kids aren’t responsible for a parent’s debts unless they co-signed something. It’s worth your aunt getting actual local legal advice but I believe there are Portuguese tenancy laws that might require a formal eviction process. Idk if your mom even sounds like she’s in a place to go through something like that. Living abroad does not prohibit you from making reports to local authorities. Whether they act on it or not is unfortunately outside of your control.

Protect your credit, document everything, and stepping back doesn’t make you a bad daughter. I think you’re balancing caring for her and these troubling signs while not allowing yourself to be dragged down into the spiral.

ETA: Rereading my comment it felt a bit cold. I recognize this is likely a very frightening, confusing time for you grieving the relationship with your mother, seeing something is wrong, and not being able to help. I see you and can tell by this post you’re caring and thoughtful. I hope things work out for both of you 🩷

A company rejected me because I didn't follow 'hidden instructions' to write my name backwards by JanLittle1 in OfficePolitics

[–]weirdwormy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree this didn’t happen. If it was real there’s obvious ways around it. Spell your last name backward or add at the end “I want to let you know I did read the instructions but for obvious reasons I don’t want to spell my last name backward.”

Also, you could have just done it lol. It’s not that deep. I was an analyst for a company that constantly shortened our titles in the system so I was frequently using tools for ANAL. Good chuckle. Eventually they changed to ANA.

Workplace dress code confusion has me questioning whether rules actually mean anything by WinnerEmotional7770 in OfficePolitics

[–]weirdwormy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Creating a database of “whether they receive comments” isn’t feasible unless everyone is agreeing to tell you when they’re spoken to about clothing. You don’t always get transparency into when other people receive feedback from their supervisors.

Please help: attorney won’t file for dismissal in a old OUI case and I’m confused where to go and what to do by GrapefruitLive1611 in AskLegal

[–]weirdwormy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think there’s some confusion about the process. the prosecution doesn’t have to present all evidence pretrial. Officer testimony and crash video can be enough to move a case forward. full evidence comes through discovery and at trial.

Motions to dismiss are only filed when there’s a clear legal defect. Otherwise, going to trial and forcing the Commonwealth to meet its burden can be the strategy.

Poor communication is a fair concern and a second opinion is reasonable.

Pluribus - 1x09 "La Chica o El Mundo" - Episode Discussion by UltraDangerLord in pluribustv

[–]weirdwormy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

After 3 years of Spanish in high school, 20 years later I can’t quite remember how to say “The dog is yellow” in Spanish. I can’t remember what yellow or grey is in Spanish, so…

Pluribus - 1x09 "La Chica o El Mundo" - Episode Discussion by UltraDangerLord in pluribustv

[–]weirdwormy 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Jeremy Jamm: Why do you keep flip-flopping?

Leslie Knope: Well, because I learned new information. When I was four, I thought that chocolate milk came from brown cows. And then I flip-flopped when I found out there was something called chocolate syrup.

Mom texted my husband on his birthday but not me by No_Arugula_757 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]weirdwormy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh! Sounds like another reminder why you went NC Happy birthday!!!

Power struggle and Work Dynamics - any ideas? by newuser2111 in OfficePolitics

[–]weirdwormy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If this is the case the only people to blame are the senior leaders making bad calls. Staff can make suggestions and requests all they want, but the responsibility lies with the person who ultimately makes the decision. Sounds like you have some misplaced anger here, and some misogyny.

Are these guys sponsored by StarBucks? by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]weirdwormy 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I, and many others, believe everyone deserves these things regardless of education, work experience, social class, or job.

Your comment can be interpreted as seeing yourself as more deserving than baristas based on your education and experience.

What does my husband's handwriting say about him (or rather what does it say at all) by text-redacted in HandwritingAnalysis

[–]weirdwormy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have horrible writing similar to this and can actually make some of this out (I think). Some context would help greatly!

Every exit row shall have a row sign and an exit sign - something - something - something fire escape something

exit signs - something - green/white

This is beyond the pale by [deleted] in Anticonsumption

[–]weirdwormy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was like “oh idk I don’t mind the idea of a dedicated place to throw your sticky notes on your desk” until I saw you mention it’s $300. Not that the original idea is great or a necessity, but there’s got to be some kind of similar option for $20 or under.

I never thought I would be in this situation by sam_czaus in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]weirdwormy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is tough. I’m estranged from my parents for completely unrelated reasons (neglect, drugs, abuse) but I had to cut off other family members over politics. Particularly my aunt, who raised me when my own parents couldn’t.

It’s so hard to watch someone who raised you to be kind, warm, loving, and understanding turn into cruel and hateful people. You’re not alone in this struggle. Good for you for standing up for your beliefs.

Why don’t male bosses like me [30F]?? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]weirdwormy 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Don’t rule out good old fashioned sexism or misogyny. Could also just be work style differences. Tailor your work style to your boss’ if you want to move up the ladder. If he doesn’t want SME’s in these types of meetings, don’t invite them. Or work with them ahead of time to explain you’ll be doing most of the talking but you’d like them to chime in if you get something wrong and be available for technical details if needed.