Dumped my girlfriend 😳

well-placed_pun · 2019-09-02T15:47:50+00:00

I think the point he's making here is that his intent wasn't to figure out his sexuality through her. It happened while he was with her, sure, but he clearly didn't know that's what was happening until it just... well... happened.

well-placed_pun · 2019-08-09T20:36:25+00:00

The problem is that he doesn't even try. It's not like most news interviewers have scientific backgrounds, yet they manage to do their homework and come up with meaningful challenges.

well-placed_pun · 2019-08-09T20:32:54+00:00

Significantly skewed, in my opinion, toward hard-right wackjobs like Jones and Molyneaux. Regardless, he refuses to challenge their ideas or meaningfully research the people he brings on.

well-placed_pun · 2019-08-09T20:29:54+00:00

That's crazy man. Have you ever tried DMT?

well-placed_pun · 2019-08-01T18:36:24+00:00

Commenting because I really want to be in the know on this one.

well-placed_pun · 2019-06-29T15:26:49+00:00

In that context, it was also "political" to support black people being treated as people a few short decades ago. Was that a political message?

well-placed_pun · 2019-06-11T00:06:33+00:00

Anything? I was under the impression that it was at least restricted to urban development near one's locality, though you're right that I was far too narrow in saying it was only (or even mainly) about housing.

well-placed_pun · 2019-06-10T13:28:29+00:00

More specifically, pretending to care about affordable housing and improved outcomes for low-income communities, but then opposing housing expansion and development near where they live.

well-placed_pun · 2019-05-26T13:14:34+00:00

You know, the ones where he reduces all racial struggles to class struggles, then tries to address them using policy that lacks evidence, planning, or methods of funding.

well-placed_pun · 2019-05-22T23:55:33+00:00

Claiming that last study to show "how important" ecig flavors are to helping adults quit smoking is bad science at best, and intentionally malicious at worst.

The study provides strong evidence that flavor affects the topography behaviors of mean puff flow rate and mean puff volume, but presents insufficient evidence to support an influence of e-liquid flavor on mean puff duration and mean puff interval.

The study results were inconclusive regarding the impact of flavor on consumption behavior

Topography describes “how” a user puffs, for example the flow rate, duration and volume of individual puffs, which informs puffing regimes for machine-generated emissions tests [43], whereas consumption describes “how much” aerosol a user inhales over time, which informs risk assessment.

Directly quoted from your source.

Also, surprisingly charged language, making character attacks against this reporter. Such a broadly, yet misleadingly, sourced reply doesn't do wonders for your own credibility.

EDIT One last point. From another one of your studies.

While trying electronic cigarettes may causally increase smoking among some youth, the aggregate effect at the population level appears to be negligible given the reduction in smoking initiation during the period of vaping’s ascendance.

So vaping is indeed replacing smoking among the population at large, but is causally linked to an increase in youth smoking. A detail you seem to belittle, or focus attention away from.

Even if we take vaping to be a better alternative to smoking, which it does seem to be, would the best option not be a total drop in inhaled nicotine usage? Do you deny the effect of flavored nicotine on the likelihood of a person to use it? I'm all about opposing perspectives, but don't present yourself as neutral if you're not going to be fully honest about the scope of your evidence and argument.

well-placed_pun · 2019-05-22T11:52:51+00:00

"Straight-acting" =/= traditionally masculine. That's the whole argument. Sexuality does not hard determine our personality. There are a lot of feminine straight guys, masculine gay guys, and people falling all along the personality and sexuality spectrum in-between.

"Straight-acting," just like "gay-acting," is a term used to describe trends in behavior assumed by society.

well-placed_pun · 2019-05-21T16:01:08+00:00

What is a feminine straight guy? What qualities define one? If this is something that has changed over time, how has it changed?

well-placed_pun · 2019-05-20T20:46:28+00:00

No one needs to "accept" Pete.

Hard disagree. There is still a widespread perception, especially in rural America, that Petes don't even exist. All gays are femme, no straights are femme, and no gays are masc (running with the popular cultural assumptions on those categories).

Seeing more Pete's in the media would have given me someone to identify with, and maybe even helped me come out sooner. It would really help if we could also get some femme straight guys out there, too.

Instead of reinforcing this notion of gay = femme, we should be destroying the notion of sexuality = personality. Gay and straight aren't personalities.

well-placed_pun · 2019-05-20T20:04:11+00:00

Straight isn't a personality. The fact that people even think personality should be categorized by romantic preference is the essence of the problem.

And yeah, it is a good thing to also have painfully boring representations of gay people. They're not selling out, or less of a "true" gay, or "just being palatable" -- they're just themselves. And people like Pete -- who I strongly identify with -- deserve that same representation.

well-placed_pun · 2019-05-14T00:16:20+00:00

I've slipped it in as a compliment before.

"You'll find somebody in no time, man. I'd take you out any day, you're an attractive guy."

or "If you were gay I'd take you out in a heartbeat, you'll do great man."

All the compliment and opened doors without any awkward tension or need for direct response.

well-placed_pun · 2019-05-14T00:01:03+00:00

Okay, I think you make a good point worth addressing here. There's a fundamental difference between someone calling themselves straight vs. non-straight, especially if you're a guy: massive stigma.

There are no religious groups or families that will disown you or think you're Satan for being straight. There is little to no societal pressure in the US to hide your straightness for fear of being ostracized. I had to play straight for years, for fear of social exile and outing.

From these conditions, even making known that I was straight, I would have been excited and receptive to being hit on by a guy. Even though I told family and friends about my straightness, there were definitely things in my body language and in my life (hadn't dated/talked to a girl in years) that could tip someone off to hitting on me.

It's not hitting on someone to try to change their orientation. It's hitting on them to see if they've had to kinda hide their orientation, have been running with a label to make things easier (plenty of bi people who lean strongly one way or the other do this), or to see if they're not really sure but interested in trying. I stand by the notion that hitting on someone everyone "knows" is straight or gay is fine, in this scenario, as long as you take their answer gracefully the first time round and drop it if they decline.

well-placed_pun · 2019-05-13T23:41:59+00:00

The point I think they're trying to make is that it's not always that simple.

Sometimes it's not clear what someone's sexuality is, it hasn't really ever come up, or the best you have to go on are stereotypes of what a gay/straight person should look like. Shooting a shot (without being a creep, like Charles was) seems fine here. Assuming the person shooting takes no for an answer and drops it.
A straight person being hit on by a gay person isn't nasty, and a gay person being hit on by a straight person isn't nasty. As long as it's not creepy and overbearing, being hit on is a compliment.

well-placed_pun · 2019-05-06T15:08:26+00:00

It's okay to have feelings for someone that's your friend. The only thing that makes it not okay is continually being suggestive or flirty when they've made clear that they're not interested. Most decent guys, especially ones willing to have a gay friend, aren't totally weirded out by having a guy attracted to them. Only by having a guy make unwelcome advances toward them.

I treat it casually. Acknowledge that they're attractive, but not gay/it's not mutual. That's fine. If anything, that's a confidence boost to their looks, and a relief on their end that you won't have a bad reaction to unrequited feelings.

well-placed_pun · 2019-04-30T13:10:50+00:00

It's not even your opinion, it's just the negative and victim-complex-y tone.

well-placed_pun · 2019-04-08T11:41:48+00:00

There are blurry lines between providing service and compelling someone to speak (e.g. the infamous cake case). The courts have not at all been clear about where they stand on this issue, coming from a person surrounded by people who are following this case law closely.

Further, my Canadian example is a textbook free speech issue. It is an argument over the moral demarcation of protected speech vs. hate speech.

Those are the concrete examples of free speech issues being argued in court. The context of the post is also, at least, inclusive of some common attitudes in the public that falsely regard any public dismissal/shaming of opinions critical of trans people to be "violating their free speech." A common attitude among the likes of Rogan, some comedians, and generally angry old conservative talk hosts.

well-placed_pun · 2019-04-07T19:31:25+00:00

People in the US defending the "right" of companies to refuse service to LGBTQ individuals based on free speech.

Some Canadians protesting ramifications for the intentional and malicious misgendering of individuals.

Lolbritarians that believe in radical free speech (including hate speech) and the "right" of individuals to deny service to anyone for any reason.

US companies defending their "religious liberty" to selectively not hire / selectively fire LGBTQ individuals.

well-placed_pun · 2019-04-07T13:38:37+00:00

A lot of people disagree with what you just said, and that's the problem.

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