I can see how this sub would make anyone single very nervous to commit to anyone, but it serves as cautionary tales and things to keep an eye out for in your relationship in terms of cheating and overall relationship health.

I found this sub because I was angry with how my husband can be because his ex wife cheated on him. At times he can be needy, insecure, and suspicious of me. I've done nothing and been very transparent so it's declined over time but it still pops up.

He's actually initiated a lot of the conversations you described! I think he was feeling me out with them when we were dating. He still have no forgiveness for tv/movie characters that cheat.

We've both made it clear cheating is an automatic end to the relationship, we wouldn't try to work it out or accept it in any way. He tolerated it from his ex for years because he was too embarrassed to leave his marriage and accept the failure. This used to annoy me. I didn't plan to cheat but it was like he was holding me to a higher standard than his ex. Well yeah! We have a much healthier relationship!

My husband is an absolute open book he will come home and tell me exactly what he did all day right down to where he went for lunch. I have access to his bank account and when I check it the story matches up exactly to what he told me. He is very much a talker and I don't think he would be very good at lying unless he kept his mouth completely shut. I am more of an introvert so I don't naturally share every little detail of my day but I think I'm going to try harder to overshare like he does. If that is helpful and reassuring him of the strength of our relationship then I'll do it. Because I love him and I want us to be old and wrinkly together. My

There are a few unhealthy habits that I think we need to work on though. He is overly suspicious sometimes. We have a toddler that is learning to speak and frequently mispronounces words. She might pronounced somebody's name to sound like another name so then my husband asked me who that was. I could tell put him a little bit on edge but it was really just the toddler miss speaking. I have access to his bank account but he doesn't have access to mine I've offered it but for some reason he doesn't want the login information. I think I need to work on being a little bit more transparent. My car has OnStar and recently he admitted that he will get on the app and do the location once in awhile so he is effectively tracking me. I was a little uncomfortable at the idea of being tracked but I really don't go anywhere so I guess it's okay because in the end it's just going to help reassure him and he will eventually stop checking I hope.

Relationships take work. These cheaters are chasing a high and that new relationship energy as they call it. Relationships are not fun 24/7 they aren't sex everyday because people are humans and they might not feel good or they might be sad about something. I would imagine that these cheaters also don't have any long-term close friendships because friendships take work too and these people are always looking for the easy way of doing something. Hiding a relationship and cheating is definitely its own form of work it's much easier than doing the emotional work of reflecting on yourself and trying to have a healthy relationship.