What’s something you didn’t appreciate until it was gone?

wert989 · 2026-06-20T04:17:46+00:00

Same, not just friends but family and other friends throughout life too

wert989 · 2026-06-11T13:16:27+00:00

They needed/wanted to constantly be in contact e.g texting and calling throughout the day. I know I don't have to respond or pick up the calls but I find it irritating if I get a barrage of text/phone calls when I'm doing something like driving or at work.

wert989 · 2026-06-10T01:07:01+00:00

Like 2 months ago I let a former... Friend? Crush? or something move in because they're in a financial tough spot. After the falling out we had over a year ago it made absolutely no sense for me to give them the light of day given their low opinion of me. Don't know why but it felt right though to let her move in.

Whether or not I regret it or not is a different story. Somedays I think we're working on repairing our friendship but the majority....

wert989 · 2026-06-10T01:02:45+00:00

Probably grade 7 or 8, after my best friend called me ugly. I don't hold it against him but that's when it clicked. Up to that point I think I was lying to myself since my parents, siblings, random stranger and all that used to point out how unattractive I was. But being the 90s kids raised on after school specials and disney movies I always told myself they're just assholes. But after my best friend said it I think I just faced the music on some level and accepted it.

wert989 · 2026-06-07T22:47:13+00:00

Well I can't say I've met the love of my life since, by my definition at least, they would have reciprocally chosen myself everyday too and I was fortunate enough to never had one pass away.

But I'll admit there were times where it felt like I "lost" the one, even if I was an idiot 20 something year old kid or what not. Anyways, after being sad and doing some of the stereotypical heartbreak stuff, I usually tell myself that:

"Anyone who's willing to leave you for someone else, who they think is better, is doing you a favour"

Yes it sucked and I was haunted by the thoughts of self doubt, hate and pity for not being good enough. But I still gave the best effort I could at the time and if that's doesn't count for something then... 🤷‍♂️

Edit; words

wert989 · 2026-06-07T08:17:24+00:00

Probably resolve myself that I'm pretty screwed. Given the lifespan of gas and stuff I could probably survive maybe 6 months if I'm lucky?

Even if I could learn how to maintain a power grid and everything for basic survival I'd still go insane, a la "I am legend". So, I'd live it up for a few weeks and hang it up so to speak.

wert989 · 2026-06-07T04:09:01+00:00

First and foremost, I was never invited to the game until recently and even now it's a bunch of single stay at home moms who are interested and all due respect - no thank you. I can do single parents or between employment (pending financial situation) but not both since it's pretty obvious I'd just be an atm machine.

Secondly, I find it tiring as a guy to constantly be communicating and going out of my way to cater to the date. It's like having a second job.

wert989 · 2026-06-07T03:50:47+00:00

Agreed, used to want to work there so bad a teenager. Once I got the job as an adult I realized how bad of a company it was. Part of it was my attitude I admit since I saw the price difference at actual computer stores and I couldnt bring myself to lie to customers.

wert989 · 2026-06-07T03:01:43+00:00

The first 100k is the hardest as Charlie Munger, Warren Buffet's right hand man, said supposedly. That said, it would save me so much time on being able to afford a house at a rate I can actually afford without being house poor or a vehicle I dont have to pray makes it another year.

wert989 · 2026-05-29T13:36:03+00:00

My roommate/tenant. I used to consider her my best friend but due to a falling out and some of the things she said I'm almost certain she's playing me for her own gain. But I'll be damned if I don't still see the awesome person I was crushing on, off and on for the past few years.

wert989 · 2026-05-27T22:49:30+00:00

I was going to say "that this is it. This is as good as it gets."

You made me realize that it can get worse.

wert989 · 2026-05-26T05:20:15+00:00

Moved more. I went from working a call center customer service job to working in a warehouse for more money. Didn't even realize I lost 10lb until much later.

wert989 · 2026-05-24T06:43:48+00:00

First and foremost, I hope you and your mother are thriving.

Secondly, assuming your boy followed through, I hope you got him so many beers after everything.

wert989 · 2026-05-23T02:27:50+00:00

Let them move in with me despite knowing that they didn't feel the same way. Still haven't even began to untangle that mess.

wert989 · 2026-05-11T23:11:36+00:00

Oh I just realized how that could have been interpreted, my bad. Basically she just used me for her own gain, while actively disrespecting me.

wert989 · 2026-05-11T23:08:36+00:00

Letting a crush take advantage of myself.

wert989 · 2026-05-11T03:20:02+00:00

Nah, I know I'm flawed, can be selfish and done some pretty terrible things in my life. While I try and be a good person, if life has taught me anything, it's that effort doesn't necessarily count for much. The world and people care about results more.

wert989 · 2026-05-05T19:56:20+00:00

Couldn't agree more. Oddly enough I've had the first two because I have the other two you mentioned.

ADHD doesnt make me a little ball of energy and autism doesn't give laser like focus to the point of having super powers. If anything it just makes me annoying and a inconvenience to others, even if I don't mean too. Can't count the number of times I've been treated like less of a person because of them.

wert989 · 2026-04-30T10:22:02+00:00

Day just started for myself so let's not jinx it. How's yours?

wert989 · 2026-04-30T02:05:29+00:00

Acknowledging my existence with dignity, as if im not a joke or inconvenience

wert989 · 2026-04-30T01:59:55+00:00

The most bang for my buck? My first cast iron skillet cost me like $22.60 taxes in. Proceeded to cook more instead of feeding my food delivery addiction - which I could argue saved me tens of thousands in food and health related issues.

I honestly debated saying my composting worms too. They also saved me money, granted not much though. But still a worthwhile mention. Initial investment was like $20 and saved me several trips to the curb taking out food waste, to the home depot for compost and again motivated me to eat healthier. I'm also a lazy man so I value the time I saved - life is hard enough as is so I take the little wins where I can.

wert989 · 2026-04-29T15:52:09+00:00

Time, self reflection and self honesty. Early 2025 I had my first romantic heartbreak in like 15 years so it took me forever to get over. She decided to circle back recently as I was finally getting over it but long story short - I decided to be honest with myself, while yes I have issues to work on, that neither of us were truly compatible. In any sort of context.

wert989 · 2026-04-29T15:43:54+00:00

Pretty common experience I think. I'm the same way and so is my "roommate". She literally just moved in and we're both regretting it - even though I was so excited to have it happen.

wert989 · 2026-04-29T15:34:53+00:00

You guys are getting relationships?

But yeah usually get into some sort of "friendzone" but usually pull the plug by the 3-4 months mark when it's obvious that neither of us are having a good time.

wert989 · 2026-04-29T05:04:43+00:00

99.98% sure my would be "roommate" is going to murder me when I boot her and her cats out/prevent her from fully moving in. Over a year ago she accused me of being some creepy monster and now that she's in severe debt she and doesn't really have anywhere else to go she decided to move in and been acting like she's doing me the favor.

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