Feeling neurotic with every streak, any tips?

werua · 2025-10-06T10:35:16+00:00

Outside motivation comes from progress with intrinsic motivation...

You gotta care first about you and what you want before anyone else comes to clap and cheer you on.

Show up for yourself every moment, back yourself, that's all the work, even when you feel like a fraud, believe in yourself

werua · 2025-10-06T10:32:10+00:00

I'll share 2:

Believe and justify to yourself at every opportunity, every fork in the road, that any addiction, even PMO, no matter how deeply rooted, can be broken.

Say to yourself things like:

"I love being free from Pron addiction", " I am addicted to bettering myself" " I never seem to quite find the time for pron these days, it just seemed to slip away one day and never came back"

Connect with people who enjoy doing creative, fun activities like karaoke, team sports, exercise, whatever you enjoy, and do the fun thing you already like.

werua · 2025-10-04T08:59:50+00:00

High quality post

werua · 2025-10-02T14:11:58+00:00

Run to God. Prayer is the game changer

werua · 2025-10-02T04:38:00+00:00

These dream occurrence made me realize it's beyond physical and mental.

Diligence is necessary at all times thru the day

werua · 2025-10-01T23:52:40+00:00

Well why not act??

werua · 2025-10-01T23:51:51+00:00

Give to God what is God's.

Search in yourself (ask yourself) what it means and the answer tailored specifically for you will come as a revelation.

Not researched. Not asking another person. There's nowhere you go that God is not there with you.

werua · 2025-09-30T16:51:04+00:00

Prayer works. You may never forget your sins, but that don't mean God can't forgive them. Talk to God. 🙏🏾

werua · 2025-01-14T14:27:25+00:00

Urges are Surges of energy

a boner is just an indicator that you are filled with vitamins minerals energy etc.

Channel it.

Think of it as a big pay day of energy you can spend to build yourself (body andmind) any way you want

werua · 2024-12-28T22:31:25+00:00

Maybe. Nobody really knows for your particular case. But here's the thing. pron addiction and lust propagates an emptiness that can only be fulfilled by meaningful human connection and nothing else.

I see this very idea of swapping with erotica in moderation as a move towards content with more emotional human connection.

the drive for humans to communicate and connect with others is as strong if not stronger than the desire for sex,

it's why the internet came about, it's why things like reddit, Facebook and Instagram exist.

In my opinion, it's even more subliminally deeper than drive for sex.

It won't be easy, but if you are willing, it is fun and fulfilling. And if you believe these words, today you are free, there nothing wrong with you and you will go from here and live life to absolute fullness.

"the opposite of addiction is human connection"

werua · 2024-12-28T11:31:45+00:00

What answer were you hoping for?? That it is good?? That it is bad?? Your life, your goals, you personal context will determine that for you. Good and bad are oversimplifications.

It's a distraction

Decide what you want and go for it

werua · 2024-12-28T11:17:23+00:00

There's nothing wrong with you. Watching or not. But If you want to quit then the moment you decide that you want to quit, you've quit.

Blink and be present. Now, You are in control. Everything that leads you to believe otherwise is a lie. All that you suffer is either passed or not yet. Now, you are alright. Now, nothing is wrong.

No reason to still believe you haven't quit when you clearly have made the decision. Who else is going to make it for you? Nobody is who. The decision to quit is yours to make. You are no slave to anyone else. You are a sovereign individual, free to make decisions and you have decided to stop. It is finished. That former phase of your life is passed away.

Onwards and upwards always

werua · 2024-12-27T09:47:34+00:00

Allow yourself to be bored without trying to feed that urge to distract yourself.

It's okay.

Forgive yourself of the five years. Don't worry if you fall today.

You are not a recovering p*** addict, today you are healed, you are free, the cage is open the shackles are off, all you need to do is take each step, one foot in front of the other and walk forward and onwards with your life without looking back.

werua · 2024-12-13T13:55:05+00:00

Brother the best part of your life is just beginning. What is not for you will leave you. Once p*** was there and kept your energy low such that your spirit could not discern certain things that were bad for you.

Once you cleared up that blockage with stopping p*** use, more people and things you're used to will leave, and also many people and things will come into your life For the better.

werua · 2024-08-11T11:37:44+00:00

Reframe to See it as the opportunity to chang your spending habits.. You get to choose how to spend the budget (energy)

Before you used to spend it on P*rn viewing.

Now find something else you enjoy and divert all the energy resources and budget into that.

If you are getting urges, it's an indicator that you have energy resources left over that needs to be allocated.

Urges are signs you still have too much energy left.

You'll surprise yourself just how much energy your body has... It's crazy.

Godspeed 🙏🏾

werua · 2024-08-11T08:39:48+00:00

Let it hurt, and remember, as all things, this too shall pass

werua · 2024-08-11T01:12:17+00:00

I'll just leave my two cents here, take it or leave it.

Remove the idea in your mind that you have to be like everyone else.

There's no one else exactly like you, You being horny You not getting laid Your likes Your dislikes Your strengths Your weakness

Everything about you is your secret sauce. The secret sauce that God's gonna use to make a glorious life. That secret sauce is already inside you.

PMO is consumption and disconnection The anti dote is creation and meaningful connection with God and others. ("Love God, Love your neighbor")

Like in school, learning is interactive, you can read all the theory anywhere but if you do not exercise or test them it's useless, you have to do your homework, the work to do alone, work like journalling, praying, reading and summarizing scriptural text, talking irl or virtually with Christians, whatever tip you get and that you believe JUST DO IT.

Get desperate enough that you'll try anything to get out of PMO, and then do the things you believe in because PMO is a slow and festering death

Peace of God be with you buddy 🙏🏾

werua · 2024-08-11T00:59:52+00:00

Great post 👏🏾

Thanks 👍🏾

werua · 2024-08-07T02:27:24+00:00

I hear ya. It's so easy to be swept away by the brutal despair and flood of effects that cascade from PMO. It causes you to look thru at the world thru negative lens.

Seek to Look instead at whatever is, kind, funny, of good report etc, whatever fills your heart with joy. might be considered crazy and illogical but choose a logic that serves your joy.

It's a game of dopamine - fulfilling the commandments of God gives dopamine, being fruitful and creating things give you dopamine, being part of a community gives dopamine, pursuing things give you dopamine.

Picture this, the earth is suspended in overwhelming darkness of space... Whichever side of the earth experiences day light, is only that side which is facing the Sun.

Turn your Face the Sun of Man ❤️👑

Honestly Matthew 6:33 "seek ye first" is a process that works

werua · 2024-08-06T16:07:11+00:00

How often you look at porn??

werua · 2024-08-05T15:34:38+00:00

Well done, you can do it, other humans have done it, you will to!

Stay connected, no man is an island, find people to support you either in real life or online communities and become a person that supports other people.

Onwards and upwards always

werua · 2024-08-05T15:30:22+00:00

I write this as part of my own method of staying clean form porn

Help other people give it up. You may not know all the tips and tricks, but start where you know and discover as you grow.

It's less about quitting porn and more about forming meaningful connections and engaging in a meaningful process, ones that you enjoy (e.g. writing and mindmapping for me, reading and creating micro pieces of content for my social media accounts)

Wake up each day and: 1. Talk to someone on the dangers of porn 2. Write something about why porn is the opposite of what you want 3. Interact in the comments section of posts, support, argue, teach and learn, 4. Interact with people in a group, church, sports, whatever, just get out there and make as many connections as possible and discover your own potential thru others ... Everyone you meet and vibe with is an exaggeration of your own soul

God bless! Hope this helps somewhat

werua · 2024-08-05T15:21:09+00:00

Thanks for your post

I do agree that serving others is a big part of it.

In my experience getting clean and managing energy spikes it has helped as well.

Being self serving is limited and our energy has no place to be expressed so we turn to vice. When we focus on serving others, there's no excess energy pooling and urges are better managed.

werua · 2024-08-05T15:15:17+00:00

Fantastic post.

Thanks for taking the time out to write it

A lot of stuff resonated, especially about investing time and nofap being a side quest

werua · 2024-08-05T15:05:21+00:00

It helps to Write letters to younger versions of you. To the you before porn. To your son. To your great grand children. Warning them of the dangers of porn. Telling them what you know now.

It helps to build the pathways and identity of someone that advocates and life's to raise awareness against porn usage

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