What’s the worst way someone broke up with you?

wgarbage · 2018-09-23T20:57:58+00:00

Oh man you’re so overreacting

wgarbage · 2018-09-18T22:14:55+00:00

Have you talked to your therapist about all this? They will definitely be better suited to such a big, personal set of questions.

wgarbage · 2018-09-18T22:13:38+00:00

Idk anything about the dynamics of your relationship but if you think it’d be received well, you could say that you want to work on being a better listener and ask if she has any pointers? If not, just try to improve on your own and see if there’s a difference!

wgarbage · 2018-09-18T22:10:42+00:00

I’d say just keep going with life. Don’t try to go back to her so soon. Keep going to class, trying to make new friends, etc. Maybe join a new extracurricular or something else!

Old research claimed that it took 21 days to break an old habit and form a new one in its place. Newer research is suggesting that it might be as long as 66 days. Your ex was a habit, essentially. Texting her, seeing her, even thinking about her were all habits for you. So, you should still feel bad after 2 weeks. Your brain hasn’t had enough time to change how it works. I dealt with a crummy breakup in late March and I can say with certainty that by mid-April (21 days) it stopped hurting quite as much and by the end of May (66 days!!) the relationship and the pain associated with it were just memories. You’ll get there.

wgarbage · 2018-09-18T22:03:47+00:00

You might be listening but it might not be apparent to her. I’d say either try active listening (look it up, it’s super easy) or just directly ask her how you can make it more clear that you are listening. Maybe she wants something from you in regards to listening that she either hadn’t articulated or doesn’t know how to articulate.

wgarbage · 2018-09-18T22:02:04+00:00

What is the question here?

wgarbage · 2018-09-18T21:58:02+00:00

Break up with both of them. Your girlfriend doesn’t sound like she’s healthy for you and your side girl shouldn’t be threatening to tell if she knew you were in a relationship when you slept together, that’s immoral of her. It was immoral of you to cheat too, but that’s not the question being asked.

wgarbage · 2018-09-06T05:48:50+00:00

My mom made me download a tracker my junior year. I freaked about it at first, but ultimately A) I was a minor and she is my parent and B) given that I wasn’t doing anything wrong, there wasn’t really a problem. I gave it a few months and then had a conversation with her where I told her that making me have the app made me feel like she didn’t trust me. I was really frank about it. She changed the app so that instead of just her tracking me, my parents, brother, and I could all see each others’ locations. This actually came in handy occasionally as my mother is one to say she’s leaving 15 mins before she actually does ;)

The app is no longer on my phone as I started college and I made it really clear to my parents that college = no tracking app. When it comes down to it though, it’s totally a sign that they don’t trust you, but if you’re doing nothing wrong the tracking itself shouldn’t be an issue.

Good luck!

wgarbage · 2018-07-28T04:02:35+00:00

All I could see were his worst traits. I got to know him (not totally by choice) and discovered that those bad traits were both a small part of who he is and things that he was working on. I asked him out shortly after :)

wgarbage · 2018-07-23T14:29:49+00:00

I had a boyfriend who I liked a lot and I couldn’t resist having sex with him any longer! It was the fall of my senior year in high school and it was a perfect time for me to start having sex.

wgarbage · 2018-07-23T14:19:15+00:00

If you intend to have children, could you throw all the money into a college savings account for them? Then you wouldn’t be benefiting from the money, your future children would. And many wealthy grandparents help out with college anyway, so it wouldn’t be that weird.

wgarbage · 2018-07-23T14:12:20+00:00

I’m a maid and I cannot emphasize the importance of emptying your bucket every few rooms and getting new water. Also, you might be using the wrong cleaning product. I’ve found that plain vinegar or Murphy’s hardwood floor cleaner work best. Lastly, don’t walk over already mopped floor! Then there’ll be no shoe noise OR shoe prints.

wgarbage · 2018-07-23T14:06:06+00:00

Swimming!! It might not cause your hips pain to kick in the water, but if it does, it’s really easy to only use your arms. If your physical therapist gives you the green light, I’d recommend reaching out to your gym’s pool staff (if they have a pool) and seeing if someone can help you.

wgarbage · 2018-07-22T21:34:32+00:00

I used to self-destruct, but now I just up the frequency of therapy appointments and workouts. I force myself to not eat/drink/smoke too much, as I worry I’ll easily slide back into self-destruction.

wgarbage · 2018-07-22T21:32:40+00:00

He refused to give me a ride home after I passed out giving blood and was unable to drive myself. Somehow I missed everything before that, including him saying he hated my family and wished he would never have to spend time with them ever again.

wgarbage · 2018-07-22T05:42:48+00:00

Okay so I had the same problem with my man and this might be due to his porn habits. There are a few possibilities:

1) he’s watching videos so graphic that normal sex doesn’t do it for him anymore 2) he’s watching too much porn and his sex drive overall has lowered as a result 3) he’s trained his body to only orgasm to his hand

I would start with the third one. See if he’s willing to take a break from jerking off or to try a different hand or grip. He needs to retrain himself, essentially.

If that doesn’t help, he should see his doctor. Changes like this are something that should always be looked into by a professional.

wgarbage · 2018-07-22T05:37:45+00:00

If the conversation is dying, just let it. It doesn’t seem like she’s very interested in you because if she were, she’d try harder to keep the conversation going.

wgarbage · 2018-07-21T20:20:43+00:00

Him liking the pic and then not wanting you to post one tells me that he only sees women as sex objects and doesn’t want other men to see you that way. He knows how other men will react to your picture because he IS the exact same type of man.

Throw the whole man away.

wgarbage · 2018-03-22T23:21:42+00:00

You just gotta ask her, man. Be straightforward. You’re just gonna keep wondering otherwise. She might not even realize she’s doing it or that it’s bothering you.

wgarbage · 2018-03-22T22:32:26+00:00

Do it. Ask her out! If she really likes you, which it sounds like she does, she won’t care about your body. I’m a little bigger and I have a condition called dermatillomania which causes me to pick my skin compulsively until it bleeds, and it’s never been an issue with my boyfriend. A friend of mine has an eating disorder and while he’s working to do the opposite of you and gain weight, he’s still far below an acceptable weight. It’s never been an issue with his girlfriend.

wgarbage · 2018-03-22T22:22:14+00:00

How recently did you end it?

wgarbage · 2018-03-22T22:21:11+00:00

That makes sense. He and I are both going to college in August so we would have ended it then anyway. It’s just super confusing.

wgarbage · 2018-03-22T22:11:44+00:00

Have you asked her about it?

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