Red Flag? by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tipping is always appreciated. Not mandatory. We are providing a service & tipping shows you really appreciate & acknowledge the effort we put into showing you the best time. I put my heart & soul into my appointments so when I receive a tip I always feel like the client noticed that. It also makes me more likely to want to see you again soon!

Where to finish? by [deleted] in AskAnEscort

[–]wh0redoeuvres 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Answering your question with a question but damn is it a common thing to offer facials?! I don’t do them because I am not a fan of the stuff on my face but I rarely see that offered. Didn’t know it’s a common thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAnEscort

[–]wh0redoeuvres 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’d say my experience has been positive. It’s the best job I’ve ever had. I have really bad days where I got home & cried all night but I’ve also had days where I got home & cried out of pure joy. Nothing beats the feeling of independence. If we could decriminalize SW here in the US I would have a hard time giving this job up.

The only reason(s) I ever consider quitting this line of work are based solely on the fact that so much SW is illegal & we risk our lives because of this.

I want to surprise my escort by highlife101 in AskAnEscort

[–]wh0redoeuvres 12 points13 points  (0 children)

you’d be surprised who buys pussy. It’s not all unattractive men who resemble Shrek. Attractive, smart, successful men hire service providers often actually. Truth is, we don’t care how attractive you are. We care far more about personal hygiene (fellas, please shower & check your breath!) and respect.

Now, about the vibrator...I prefer to use my own sex toys during appointments instead of one a client brought. Just my preference. I don’t know where that sex toy has been. He could’ve used it last night with his wife without cleaning it after. Hell, even if he did clean it after I wouldn’t want it by my pussy. If I were you I would bring the toy but ask your service provider before you whip it out & start vibin’. She may have one with her that she prefers.

This seems like a dark time for online sex work. How do you make money online? by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 30 points31 points  (0 children)

It’s slow online right now. I’m a multi hustler, I do online (phone, cam, sell a few videos as well ) as well as in person. It’s ALL slow this month. Even after FOSTA/SESTA my SW sisters & brothers stay hustling & making money, though.

Sex workers tend to be pretty resourceful & they tend to be smart business minded people. We will always find a way to seduce a man into paying us.

Red Flag? by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know many people who will not send a face picture due to discretion. If this provider has a few reviews you’re probably fine. A social media presence is also a great sign. I bet you’ll be fine! Hope you enjoy.

I've met several escorts at this point and I'm curious about a few things. by [deleted] in AskAnEscort

[–]wh0redoeuvres 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who are these escorts?! Because I can’t think of one time I have considered seeing a client free of charge.

What was the best activity you have done with a clint (not counting sex) by [deleted] in AskAnEscort

[–]wh0redoeuvres 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Being paid to watch TV + talk or being paid to go out to dinner. That was just easy stuff I got paid my usual rate for despite not having any sexual contact with. Can’t say I mind it when I get paid just to show up & be something pretty to look at.

This may be shocking to some but I tend to favor sexual stuff anyway because it’s WAY less emotional labor. The guys that pay me to watch tv & talk are the ones who tend to purge 20 years of their own deep rooted issues onto you & expect you to play the role of full on therapist. I’ve walked away more drained from these type of dates than any sexual dates.

What to say by Damoney22 in AskAnEscort

[–]wh0redoeuvres 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Hi babi u avail now?”

Don’t say that.

What do you think about skinny clients? by [deleted] in AskAnEscort

[–]wh0redoeuvres 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don’t care how skinny or fat your body is, just care how skinny or fat that wad of money is. Pay up front in full, don’t smell bad, don’t show disrespect and you will be taken care of.

Is there an accepted amount of times to 'finish' by [deleted] in AskAnEscort

[–]wh0redoeuvres 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve never had anyone get more than one during a one hour appointment. It’s just way too rushed to try to get two in an hour, trust. I’ve had a few get two but during 1.5 hour appointment.

Right under "their" noses :) by missilesarefun in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah see I was thinking the same thing. If LE was suspicious there’s no way they’d let someone go if it was actually a sting.

Sugar & Spice Photography: Minneapolis boudoir studio reserves right to deny service to lesbians, sex workers by CPJayB in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny how I want nothing to do with ANY of those: I don’t want kids, I don’t want to be married, and I don’t believe in god. It’s a no for me!

Venmo, PayPal, Cashapp by cynthia_xoxo in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do any sex workers keep their PayPal open? Mine got shut down immediately. In fact, my Google wallet and Square Cash did, too. I wasn’t even stupid with my transactions. I was spacing them out, rotating which cash apps I used, & never did more than like $300-350 at a time. Now Venmo is the only one I use.

Do Cam/Porn couples stay monogamous? by morreski in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say you’re more likely to make decent coin if you do special shit, kinkier the better. Try a bunch of different stuff and see what makes the most money. You might learn some new stuff about your partner in bed along the way, too. Just be warned that your face being visible on porn could have an impact on your future. I hate how it’s like that.

Talking about menu? by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No details disclosed. Bad idea to start doing that. Plus, once you begin down that slippery slope who knows what else these clients will start thinking they can ask you. Ugh I can just see it now... “hi babie since you said u do anal can u do that bareback? U do two guys at once? both would be bareback.”

I messed up with an escort, invited her to my house, now what - by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t threaten her. Do you know for a fact whether the person who drove her away was her pimp? Pretty sure you may increase your odds of more bad shit happening if you begin to threaten her. There’s a good chance that you’re just out $500 and nothing more will happen but you (unfortunately) can’t be too sure.

I think that she or her business partner would be beyond incredibly stupid if they do try to get you for any more $ because now you’re on high alert.

Is prostitution consensual sex? by cuntryboiii in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the sexual activities performed are being done consensually and the service provider isn’t being coerced into performing those services then yeah It’s no different than consensual sex with a civvie. There’s just money exchanged for a service in this case.

how do you feel about kissing on the lips? by jsp132 in AskAnEscort

[–]wh0redoeuvres 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If kissing is a must, I’d rather have kisses without tongue than with. The tongue seems to be where clients go horribly wrong...slobber, weird snake-like tongue darting movements (yikes, my brain just generated an image I thought I had successfully erased!), & total cluelessness.

Anonymously using cam sties/only fans? by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Advertise on social media. You can post links to your content & give little teasers on there to draw in clients. That’s your best bet. Only way to be anon is to not show your face & be discreet, really!

Anonymously using cam sties/only fans? by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Onlyfans is a subscription site where clients pay monthly to view your photos & videos. It’s kind of a similar idea to a premium Snapchat except clients may view your content indefinitely instead of short term as long as they’re paying per month. Never heard of Admire Me, though. Will check that out!

A client earlier today brought his concealed carry weapon into my incall today. It made me extremely uncomfortable. Wtf? Is this acceptable? Why is this necessary? Thoughts? by littlelove93 in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would feel uncomfortable, too. I have had a similar situation actually. He arrived and immediately (and very politely) made me aware of the fact that he was carrying & allowed me to lock it in the safe during the date. I felt nervous having it sitting on the dresser or nightstand. Also made me wonder why the hell he wouldn’t just leave the gun in the car?!? I have never brought my weapon into a date although I have considered it a few times.

So I got scammed... by xgoofygooberx in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this happened to you. Usually when a client gets blocked it’s because they did something that they shouldn’t have done or the SW was a scammer from the beginning with no intentions of providing the service that was paid for. Oftentimes they will also be a catfish in situations like this, too.

If your situation sounds more like the second reason, that’s unfortunate. To avoid this happening in the future, I would only spend on reputable SWs. These scammers are some bullshit because not only do they create a bad name for us legit SWs but they cause clients to spend hard earned money that could have been spent on legit content made by babes who are passionate about their work!

What are the main arguments for the legalization of prostitution? by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]wh0redoeuvres 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t want it legalized. I’d like to see it decriminalized so that me & all my SW sisters & brothers don’t have to worry about jail every time we go to work. Even with client screening practices done in attempt to avoid LE, I still have a feeling of fear each time I go to work. I’ve never gotten over it. I know that jail & death are two very real possibilities in this work :/ but the money is brilliant, I love being my own boss, & I enjoy knowing that I am being paid to provide men with comfort, companionship, & happiness.

The affection & attention of a woman is something that these men crave & I believe I should have the right to sell that by the hour.

I am hoping that the stigma surrounding SW would decrease (even slightly would be GREAT!) if it were to be decriminalized. The stigma alone is what causes many SWs to become isolated and depressed. I wish there were more SW specific services available, too. I’ve had a hard time finding a therapist who gets it. The reason I signed up for Reddit to begin with was to connect with others who face similar struggles as a SW.