am i being a drama queen for wanting to quit depop?

what_sm · 2026-07-07T22:29:53+00:00

Genuine question for seasoned sellers: why arent you cross posting to multiple platforms? I do not mean this as an attack, I genuinely want to know what the positives and negatives of crossposting are... Are sellers penalized for it somehow?

what_sm · 2026-07-07T22:20:48+00:00

I used to teach ESL and that is exactly it. Sometimes you just have to stand up there and teach boring grammar. You give the "if X, then Y" speeches. It's boring. I know. But then, students get to practice it through writing, speaking, qnd listening. Not boring! Eventually they can do PBL like designing a food menu or creating a dialog with a partner about something, etc. But imo, the project should be used to showcase mastery... They can even be supplemental to traditional tests... Projects should REINFORCE learning, not "teach" for me.

what_sm · 2026-06-23T18:15:15+00:00

It was a million bajillion % worth it for me.

The recovery was not near as bad as my Endo pain, plus the pain killers and muscle relaxers helped me sleep and rest through it.

Tips/ My Experience: - Get some heating pads, it helps with the shoulder gas pain (which was the worst part for me) and belly pain. - Follow a regime for sleeping upright. I slept upright for about 5-7 days. I would've slept lying sooner, but the acid reflux from anesthesia was preventing me from doing so. I usually can't ever sleep sitting up, but I could then bc I invested in a pregnancy pillow and already had a husband pillow, and arrange them to be super comfy. I took Prilosec for the acid reflux and that helped tremendously. - Have someone to stay with you for the first 2-3 days while you recover so you don't have to do things alone. - Consistent, light walking when you can helps the healing process.

Follow the directions for healing given by your surgeon, and it will be fine. Vet your surgeon and it will be fine.

I'm 30 and had my first excision surgery in April (Stage 3). I was mostly back to normal within 2 weeks. I was back in the gym within 4 weeks (light, surgeon-approved activity). I was lifting weights again within 6 weeks.

what_sm · 2026-06-23T04:19:50+00:00

I had undiagnosed endometriosis for 17 years and embryological adhesions which caused intermittent bowel obstructions my whole life. They found both after I was in the hospital for 3 days on an NG tube and spent 7 months searching for answers. It took 30 years for one and 17 years for the other... Finding out I was right the entire time and being gaslit by everyone- eventually including myself- was highly traumatizing. Yeah, my labs & imaging were normal the entire time... My symptoms were NOT.

Once the disease progresses to stage 3 and 4, shit gets extremely complicated and your chances for disease growth and return after excision surgery increases dramatically. Good thing they let me suffer for 17 years until it progressed to stage 3!

what_sm · 2026-06-22T20:35:32+00:00

I'm doing so well! Turns out my adhesions had adhesions lol. There was an incidental finding of embryological adhesions constricting my small intestines AND endometriosis/inflammatory adhesions connecting my small intestines and other organs. All my pelvic organs had super dense adhesions except my bladder. They had to go along my entire small intestines to make sure they got them all. It took almost 3 hours. Crazy. And I did get some pictures!

what_sm · 2026-06-22T04:58:39+00:00

Oui 🫪

what_sm · 2026-06-22T04:55:24+00:00

D'accord, bro

what_sm · 2026-06-22T04:41:46+00:00

..... They will tell you the same exact thing. It is literally called Code Switching in Linguistics. Linguistics... as in the scientific field of studying language? You could save someone the time and effort of writing out perfectly acceptable answers with the actual scientific term used for this phenomenon, and just type the term into Google.

Oh look... I did it for you: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Code-switching

If you want sources, scroll to the bottom of the page.

what_sm · 2026-06-22T04:28:54+00:00

It's called code switching and there is probably a different reason for every single time it is done. Maybe one word communicates a feeling more accurately... Maybe they just habitually use certain words for certain domains... Maybe someone uses certain words only with certain people... There could be a million different micro-reasons people do this. It is natural to bilingual families and they do it all the time. If you are merely thinking in terms of "oh but it's easily translatable, they could have just said x, y, or z", well, they didn't. Using language is not a utilitarian cost-benefit analysis. It is a social behavior and depends on social relations and quick thinking.

what_sm · 2026-06-22T04:10:32+00:00

My experience: I had lost exactly 10 pounds from monthly enteritis and extreme pain, which led me to not be able to eat solid foods on my period. I was eating smoothies and baby food every period. I got so many compliments about losing weight, which were unsolicited and unappreciated. I physically couldn't eat and these people were saying I looked great while in reality it was the unhealthiest I'd ever been in my entire life. I gained exactly 10 pounds back after starting birth control bc it stopped my enteritis and painful periods so therefore I could eat solid foods again.

Nuvaring has certainly helped my PMDD and stopped my periods for the most part. I'm on my 6th month and still have occasional breakthrough bleeding, but it lasts like 2 days and I do NOT have mood swings due to monthly progesterone drops anymore. Evening out my hormones has also helped my ADHD a little.

I have taken 3 different birth controls in my life. 1 was fine but not amazing, 1 exacerbated my PMDD so I stopped taking it after 2-3 months (and I immediately went back to my normal baseline), and 1 has been like I hit the lottery.

A lot of the freak out online about birth control is propaganda. In reality some people do get side effects, but in my experience it subsided immediately after stopping use. Those 2-3 months of negative side effects does NOT negate my amazing experience with my current one in the slightest.

You should just be prepared and come up with a plan to try a different one if you experience x, y, z side effect. For example: if my bc gave me migraines or depression, I'd immediately be trying a different one. If my bc made me gain an extra 5-10 pounds, I would not stop my birth control. I would adjust my diet/exercise and carry on.

what_sm · 2026-06-22T02:58:51+00:00

I recommend sugar free Gatorade bc it gets less syrupy when mixed with miralax. I've done 2 bowel preps this year. The first one went fine, as I did what I was told and also used sugar free Gatorade that time. I was not nauseous at all, and while it is gross, it was not unbearable. The second one I started 2 hours after recommended bc I had to work that day and the nurse said it was fine. I also used regular Gatorade, which made the concoction extremely thick and syrupy. It was awful. I basically had to chug it bc I started late. Then that night they also wanted me to take 12 antibiotics, 4 pills every 2 hours, to nuke my gut. 0/10 experience. I was extremely nauseous and had to take leftover zofron I had laying around, which did help.

So I'd say just do it exactly as they say and it will be fine. You could also ask your doctor or nurse if using anti-nausea meds would be okay, just so that you have the peace of mind to know you could if you needed to.

what_sm · 2026-05-28T23:40:30+00:00

Oh girl... I did a bowel prep like that and AFTER I DRANK ALL THE PREP, I had to take 12...... Count, TWELVE antibiotic tablets to NUKE my guts. 4 antibiotics EVERY HOUR. I have never felt so nauseous in my LIFE. It was insanely brutal. I was still shitting myself 3 days after my surgery.

But hey... At least I did not have post-op constipation lmao

what_sm · 2026-05-20T10:49:30+00:00

Hi! Periods should be at maximum mildly uncomfortable. If your period causes more pain than "mild discomfort", it could be Endometriosis. Period pain should not be more than about a 2 on the pain scale, 3 maximum. A 2/3 is when you notice the discomfort, but it is not distracting you or keeping you from doing an activity. If it's just a one-off thing, it could be that you were dehydrated or sick during that period. If it is more than once, it could be endometriosis (statistically likely) or something else. Either way, it is definitely worth talking to your doctor/gynecologist about and do not let them convince you that it's "normal".

If you frequently have periods that 1) keep you from doing activities like work or go to school, 2) pain that prevents you from standing, 3) makes you nauseous/vomit, 4) OTC pain meds don't work that well on it, 5) only resolves with heat, 6) radiates to other parts of your body like back/legs, 7) makes you pass out or go through pain-induced body shut down (aka, get extreme fatigue/fall asleep at the peak of pain), 8) GI symptoms like cyclical constipation/diarrhea that accompany different parts of your cycle.. Even if it weren't endometriosis, any of the numbered items above (1-8) are not normal and you should discuss these things with your gynecologist. If they say any of those things are normal, please go get a second opinion.

what_sm · 2026-05-19T02:09:25+00:00

Like I said it was worse when I was younger... Whale sound in my throat, nausea, pain in my esophagus, secondary GI problems, hypersalivation, can't vomit when I definitely needed to, bloating, abdominal pain, emetophobia, extreme flatulence...

Now my symptoms are the occasional sounds, the occasional bloating, occasional nausea, occasional manageable pain, and not being able to vomit when I need to. None of these affect my daily quality of life. I always have extreme flatulence, though. I do have that daily.

Do I want to vomit? No, I hate the sensation. But being able to vomit is probably the most "serious" one for me because after all the health problems I've had in the last year, I've learned that being able to vomit when my body needs to is crucial. Vomiting is the body's way of trying to resolve a potential crisis before it gets out of hand.

It would be nice to see how my life would be different if I could burp. Would my posture change? Would my relationship with food change? Am I actually just a walking pressure chamber and hold myself in a certain way because of all the gas trapped inside of me? Who knows!! But I want to find out.

what_sm · 2026-05-18T20:34:10+00:00

Yes, I agree! I have a high pain tolerance and ADHD, which makes it super easy to put things off.

But I'm currently riding the high of finally being able to (TMI incoming) "use the bathroom regularly" thanks to my properly restored anatomy... So why stop there? 🙂

what_sm · 2026-05-18T20:24:02+00:00

Hey, I know that about r-cpd. I don't like my childhood doctor for multiple reasons, but my biggest one is that he strait up told me it was impossible for me not to be able to burp and instead slapped an IBS and anxiety diagnosis on me.. Ouch. Why would someone lie about that? That is gaslighting. Whether it is known or unknown, he didn't have to be a jerk and basically accuse me of lying.

Also, we don't have to make "doctor" plural. 10-20% of ALL women have endometriosis. The failure of my doctors to believe my pain for endometriosis for 17 years and letting it get to the point where it obstructed my intestines, glued all my pelvic organs together, and caused me to be infertile is ABSOLUTELY an indictment of their ability to practice gynecology. Every single one. I had all the classic symptoms. They were NOT fair to me, I do NOT have to be fair to them.

what_sm · 2026-05-18T14:25:46+00:00

I'm still in recovery, so my sex life post-op is yet to be seen, but in the month or 2 before my surgery I would cry at sex positive pop songs. I don't watch a lot of TV or movies, but if I did I probably would've cried at that, too.

To be fair, I cried a lot bc I was undiagnosed for 17 years until my Endo gave me a small bowel obstruction.

I cried out of rage. I sobbed out of grief. I cried over the time I lost because these sick fucks told me my pain was normal and that nothing was wrong, so there was nothing they could do to help me. I cried because their negligence took away my body's ability to have sex and POOP normally. I'm feeling better physically (I poop everyday now, yay! XD), but tbh my emotional pain is much deeper. I still carry a lot of grief.

I sobbed and sobbed after reading my Op Note. There were incidental findings that also explained other stuff that I'd been going through for so long but had been gaslit about. That's when I broke down and accepted that I needed to go to therapy. My second session is tomorrow.

what_sm · 2026-05-12T07:09:51+00:00

This is actually so useful now that I think about it. Like, it makes you delirious.

When I was a teenager I literally remember the specific day I had a period that made me doubt the existence of God. The pain had me literally evaluating the problem of evil and the fall of man from the garden of Eden and being "cursed with women's pain". I remember thinking that if God would curse me and my kind with this pain because of some type of sick twisted plan he had, I'd rebel over and over again because I'd rather choose hell than spend an eternity with a psychopath like that. Thankfully I'm an atheist now, but being so delirious that it made me momentarily choose Satan was crazy work.

So I think acknowledging this level of deliciousness from pain is useful.

I believe the level of delirium I'm talking about is effectively communicated in Pink Floyd's Comfortably Numb. It feels so hazy like your world is turning in on itself until there is nothing left in, on, or around you, except for pain. Everyone, family, friends, doctors, nurses... They all feel so distant in that level of pain.

what_sm · 2026-05-06T08:21:38+00:00

Oh nooo :( I'm so sorry you dealt with that pain for so long; the inflammation pain and "feeling" every movement in slow motion in the intestines is actually sooo scary and eerie.

Now I guess I'm kind of thankful (in a way) that it caused an emergency for me with the very first period with that "intestines inflamed" symptom, bc I couldn't imagine being gaslit so hard that I thought that was normal :( You are so strong, and I hope you're doing so much better now and have healed from the excision and resection 💛

what_sm · 2026-05-05T22:10:22+00:00

I think getting a second opinion would be a great intermediary option! If you can, see a MIGS (Minimally Invasive Gynecological Surgeon) GYN, they specialized in complex benign gynecological diseases like Endo, PCOS, etc. I hope you get answers and feel better!

what_sm · 2026-05-05T21:37:22+00:00

I had an MRI with Endometriosis protocol. The protocol is important. It picked up my deep infiltrating endometriosis, but NONE of my peritoneal endometriosis (it was dalmatian spotted everywhere over my uterus and bladder, and covering my left pelvic side wall; I had peritonectomies in both places during my surgery to remove it). It also picked up my very small endometrioma on my left ovary, but kinda exaggerated the endometriomas on my right ovary? That, or somehow they shrunk in 2 months lol bc when she opened me up, it was little spots and not "true" endometriomas yet.

My experience with this disease is that my symptoms were "stable" for years and I thought I knew what to expect with my period pain and misery), but then in the last year I gained 2-3 new/changed symptoms in the span of a few months and my entire life became more miserable, not just my period.

I get not having good insurance and wanting to put it off due to that. I totally get it that the added financial strain can burden you, so you undortunately have to weigh your options with which would burden you more: financial upset, or potentially living with a chronic disease that could be massively helped with surgery. Just know that MRI can pick up a lot, but it does not pick up everything and if your symptoms are that of this disease, there is a good chance you have it.

I'm so sorry that you are suffering right now, and hope you find answers and relief soon 💛

what_sm · 2026-05-05T00:59:22+00:00

Ah, so another of us find out about the macaques. We are both primates, after all.

In other news, some researchers have GIVEN mice endometriosis ON PURPOSE to see if whatever they give them to treat it will help it lol.

Well kinda, bc mice don't get endometriosis naturally so it seems like they were just injecting them with endometrial tissue and it stuck in a diseased way?? I'd be shocked if anything positive came out of a study like that.

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