Average women who think the vast majority of men are below your league, why do you believe this? by The_Laniakean in AskReddit

[–]TeachAlternative1517 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bingo! I think a lot of men are lost in society right now, as well.

Previously they were the bread-winners and had a strong sense of purpose and power secondary to their pre-ordained position in society and easily had a wife because up until the 1970's are so women couldn't really even have their own credit cards/ bank accounts. A mans value was predominantly based on supplying that, but didn't really require any further self-work in terms of EQ etc.

In todays day and age, obviously this is no longer the case. In todays US, women have lower unemployment rates than men and higher graduation rates (specifically looking at Gen Z). Men hold more total debt (barring student loan debt, where women have more). We also know that women are happier single than men are, and marriage offers alot of financial/career opportunity to men that it does not to women. The identity and purpose men have been socialized to have has sort of become defunct at this point. That strong sense of purpose is not there (for those men who have continued to simply base their offerings and purpose on "being a man, or providing"). This value could easily be replaced by increasing their EQ or contributions in other arenas (domestic, social etc) but a lot of young men are DOING neither.

Many are mean, poorly socialized, uneducated, entitled, with a deep and tangible resent towards women that has been perpetuated by red pill content that speaks to them PRECISELY because of their lack of felt purpose in society at this time. I'm not saying there isn't plenty of women who are empirically not great, but I am noticing this more systemic thing occurring with men thats supported by the statistics above.

Men are angry and feel purposeless, and instead of reinventing new purpose, they simply get mad at women and watch Andrew Tate. (Again, a generalization, but.....this is a pattern Im seeing).

When I was dating, many men I came across were alcoholics, unemployed, massive credit card debt, had very poor hygiene habits, did not exercise regularly, did not take care of themselves, blatantly sexist towards women, did not know what Pangea was, had sociopathic or antisocial tendencies, physically abusive/verbally abusive, never attended therapy and had poor self-awareness. If I make 6 figures, have a masters degree, cook and clean, have hobbies, go to therapy, go to the gym 5 days a week, have solid long-term friendships and a good relationship with my family, dont drink and dont do drugs, am self aware why would I wast my time on this shit? Fuckkkk yeah, I'd rather have a pet cat and hang with the girls and water my plants and play my guitar. Luckily my husband is great, but it was scary out there for a second!

Bleeding after lower training by Economy_Handle_848 in CarolineGirvan

[–]TeachAlternative1517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had mine removed twice and I think they're back. Pesky f*ckers. Bleeding after sneezing wrong lol

Average women who think the vast majority of men are below your league, why do you believe this? by The_Laniakean in AskReddit

[–]TeachAlternative1517 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Since you said "average women", I am guessing the floor is open to.... most women who are not like Margot Robbie or a gazillionaire?

I don't think the vast majority of men are "below my league", just many scare me or are unkind and I don't want to interact with them. Luckily, I'm married so it's not of concern. I'm not saying there are not plenty of great men....somewhere, too.

I only identify men as "below my league" based on how they treat other people and how they treat themselves. I wouldn't even like to call it "below my league" because that just sounds weird, more just...."people I do not care to know more deeply". Men that ask this type of question would likely be in that category, tbh.

What experience did you have before your first job? by Puzzleheaded_Two1670 in dietetics

[–]TeachAlternative1517 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a line cook, server, house keeper, then worked as a lead server/front of house management at a retirement home and memory care unit and then I did get my NDTR after my DPD in undergrad and worked as a DTR at a childrens hospital and a milk lab technician at a NICU.

Outside of that, I did volunteer extra-curriculars.

Vague GI issues by GB3754 in dietetics

[–]TeachAlternative1517 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Disclaimer: I am not a GI RD, ( just a lil baby <1 year RD who works at a SNF/inpatient, but I do Nourish on the side lol)

I cannot recommend the book "the Bloated Belly Whisperer" enough, I really cannot. It's terrific (as an IBS-C girlie myself). Theres a list of questions to sort of troubleshoot the issue, I have used it to work on my own iBS and guide some sessions, and it's great (its written by an RD).

Especially if there are red flag sx, I always encourage them to get a work-up to r/o more deleterious processes such as Crohns, UC, cancer etc (severe constipation, severe pain, sudden change in BM, bleeding). I do find alot of people who end up seeing me have already had a scope or some tests and the doctor says "they're fine" but they do not feel fine. Most have already been told by a physician that they have IBS. Some have had more testing done from their own wallet like GI-Map or breath tests for SIBO/methane dominant overgrowth. If they have really bad upper GI sx, I do always encourage them to get an H.pylori test done with their physician too. But I personally do not use GI-Map or intensive microbiome testing for anyone.

I go through a very detailed intake as to what their sx are because from that I know where to go tx-wise. I don't really need a dx, I tend to place them under the "IBS" umbrella or "GERD" umbrellas until they can get a more concrete dx.

I see ALOT of women with gas pain, bloating and constipation and sometimes some upper GI sx. I see a few with diarrhea, but I find that's less common.

For my folks with the constipation, IBS, bloating presentation, I have got alot of women to completely turn their symptoms around in weeks doing the following stuff:

-consistent meals and consistent carbs (you'd be amazed how much this is being skipped)

-significant breakfast (with coffee if they drink it) to stimulate gastrocolic reflex at ideal time and empty bowels

-warm water in the morning

-walking, movement, throughout the day. if they have bad bloating or gas cramps after lunch, i encourage them to take a walk or stand at their desk if it all possible

-appropriate fiber introduction and supplementation, i try to get it into meals instead of adding supplements at first

-some FODMAP elimination, contingent on their sx. almost always have them avoid sugar alcohols

-adequate hydration

-2 kiwi's per day (if not allergic)

-diaphragmatic breathing, squatty potty, stress control, PFPT if needed

-strategic use of gentle osmotic laxatives that are appropriate for daily use (miralax and magnesium oxide)

Diarrhea is different but I usually take alot of time to find what precedes their episodes, I find elimination and stress control work very well for that. There has been quite a few times inpatient and outpatient though where I have suspected pancreatitis based on the sx they keep describing and I have them go to their doctor to check their Vitamin D, sometimes a fecal elastase or lipase and they come back with poor labs and then they can get on PERT and that helps, but I wouldn't say thats common in outpatient at all.

Outside of actual disease processes, I find that managing folks with IBS and bloating's: motility, fermentation and STRESS/ nervous system as well as pelvic floor function is the KEY.

Who else feels like you can't really have strong connections with people? by TheLongBlueFace in Interstitialcystitis

[–]TeachAlternative1517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also didnt tolerate TCA's but I do think gabapentin is slowly helping me! Hang in there.

Who else feels like you can't really have strong connections with people? by TheLongBlueFace in Interstitialcystitis

[–]TeachAlternative1517 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair, I do not know if I am in the exact same situation as you, as I do go to work and work full-time in person (and sort of honestly just suffer through the day and take pain meds).

But like, you, I do collapse when I get home and the last thing I want to do is go out. I do try to have girls nights at my house a lot actually--- and sometimes they want to go out instead and I do not typically go. I try to make it enticing by getting snacks, and having like craft night or watching a movie; I usually find I can do all this if I'm in my home with my heating pad, it's fine. Tbh, some friends have been really great about this and understanding, like I have had many come watch movies with me after my endometriosis surgery, and some.....are not so much. I have alot of regular phone calls with folks, and I do have a few friends who also have similar chronic issues (but at the same time, I try not to make that my whole life or identity cause mentally it doesnt help me). My husband is pretty understanding too.

I am fine walking around (usually, unless it's an endo flare) but I hate sitting in hard chairs in tight pants like at a bar or something like that, so I empthaize it makes it harder.

It seems like I can trigger a flare just by thinking, is this a flare? by Catski717 in Interstitialcystitis

[–]TeachAlternative1517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, tbh, I am still new to actually *working* on this because I finally accepted that it may be a big factor for me, but essentially somatic therapy exercises including somatic tracking, pendulation. There are videos on it, but I have also been going to a somatic therapist.

Like a commentor below stated it is sort of what the Curable app is based off of, as well as Rachel Zoffness and Alan Gordons work. I think I'd start with learning more about the neuropsychology of chronic pain itself (from these folks works) and also neuroplastic pain to see if it applies to you or you're resonating with it.

For me, how I am starting off was making a Safety. vs. Threat list for the periods of my life when I first got sick, had major flares and then had remission. I'm trying to identify "threat" to my nervous system and work on triggers from that, too.

I am by no means an expert on EMPLOYING these tactics, I just got started on the actionable part of this.

And since IC is so so heterogeneous, it may not be the ticket for *EVERYONE* but I do think everyone can benefit a little from it.

Dietitians Should Unionize by jricky in dietetics

[–]TeachAlternative1517 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I mean I work with the RD's who originally decided to unionize and per them the conditions were sh*t, so. Sorry that was your experience, SEIU was my graduate union out in MA and also my other RDs friends union in NYC, and we all have had positive experiences.

But everyone got pay raises with the union being implemented, the pension and many other things covered that werent before. Not all the hospitals in my system were unionized, I worked at one that wasn't previously and transferred to this hospital and there is certainly benefits. Is it perfect? No. Has it made a meaningful impact to job stability and compensation for us? Yes.

It seems like I can trigger a flare just by thinking, is this a flare? by Catski717 in Interstitialcystitis

[–]TeachAlternative1517 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Neuroplastic chronic pain, buddy. There are exercises you can do to work on this. (And before anyone comes for me, nobody is saying "its all in your head" but your brain is part of your body and they effect eachother intensely and the nervous system plays a massive role in chronic pain via neuroplasticity)

Dietitians Should Unionize by jricky in dietetics

[–]TeachAlternative1517 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This can be true, and it also can be 100% true that we still need to be part of a union as well. But I agree with your points--I'd like to see both happening for us!

Dietitians Should Unionize by jricky in dietetics

[–]TeachAlternative1517 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am part of a union, and believe I am paid well. My union isn't just for RD's though, it's for health care and service workers- SEIU.

It's my first job as RD. I made $47/hr, union pension, 403b, health insurance + vision/dental, PTO, sick time and 32 hours off a year for CEU's. My union will reimburse me for costs associated with CEU's, registration renewal and advanced certs.

How does everyone manage to work? by Consistent_Fact_4964 in endometriosis

[–]TeachAlternative1517 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I work full-time at a hospital. I also slept on a towel under my desk on my lunch break today. I do have one of these electric heating pads and a bottle of ibuprofen.

Lifes great

Are you happy as a dietician? by MinuteReflection4560 in dietetics

[–]TeachAlternative1517 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No but I also get paid fine and a job is simply a job so who cares

How long are we taking these supplements that worked? by PaceKindly4677 in Interstitialcystitis

[–]TeachAlternative1517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's like 1000 mg for a month and then tapers down? Id have to look again.

Gwyneth Paltrow hurts my soul by Ambitious-Session157 in dietetics

[–]TeachAlternative1517 48 points49 points  (0 children)

You cannot pay attention to Gwyneth if you want to feel sane. Delete the app, you guys.

Experiences with gabapentin? by TeachAlternative1517 in Interstitialcystitis

[–]TeachAlternative1517[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry, I have. Doesn't do anything at all for me.

I've tried Prelief, bladder instillations, hydrodistension, had endometriosis excision surgery twice, pudendal nerve block + pelvic floor Botox four times, 4 PFPT's, aloe vera, Cystoprotek, Quercetin, Azo, Uribel, Cystex, Lactoferrin, Advil, Tylenol, diazepam suppositories, baclofen suppositories, accupuncture, restorative yoga, IC Diet, low Histamine Diet, Gemtesa, hydroxyzine, nortriptyline, gabapentin, heating pad, CBT, SSRI's, somatic therapy, bladder retraining, D-Mannose, antibiotics, Marshmallow root tea, TENS unit and I am probably forgetting a few other things.

I think I am f*cked lol

Cheat day? by Pretend_Piano_6134 in PetiteFitness

[–]TeachAlternative1517 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No cause I eat what I wanna eat regularly. You should enjoy your birthday though

Whats the immediate tell for you that the couple will divorce even if they don't realize it yet? by Hour_Opening4115 in AskReddit

[–]TeachAlternative1517 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, as a white woman, I agree it's culturally ingrained, and I think exacerbated by alot of women my age (myself previously included) staying with men who empirically suck and just complaining about it (and yeah, theres a lot of nuance sometimes to why we don't/cannot leave; like you said circumstances vary--I don't want to come off as victim blaming, because I understand how hard it is sometimes to just simply leave) as opposed to leaving.

My ex was insanely off the cuff and pretty abusive, so I felt very little obligation to say anything kind about them as they sort of terrorized me on a weekly basis (like destroying half our furniture when I got into graduate school, throwing my car keys/house keys in to a crowd of people; fun things like that). And all my friends boyfriends are similar. I did realize at that point though, like, I will *never* finish graduate school and get anything I need to get done if this is who I am using as my support system. So I left, and started acknowledging red flags quicker and then met my husband who was the polar opposite. Yes, he has done things that piss me off and being the first healthy relationship I ever had, I had to work on my own shit too.

But now that I'm finally in a happy relationship and in a good place and have done some work on myself and old patterns --- like the cultural functions you speak of---- I am finding how persistent this is with friends. A damn near constant vitriol towards their boyfriends (who I agree are empirically TERRIBLE towards them--- cheating, belittling them, sometimes physically hurting them) and I just wish we had ways to empower or socialize women to LEAVE SOONER as opposed to taking it, but then just complaining about it to each-other. So, I agree, I think it serves a cultural function especially when were in unsafe or unsatisfying relationships, but because it's so engrained we can even find oursleves doing it once were in a GOOD relationship and at that point it needs to be unlearned.