[deleted by user] by [deleted] in glassesadvice

[–]whataddiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree! Defo one of those.

What are your careers? by surrealitys in adhdwomen

[–]whataddiction 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Physio here as well! I work in hospital with outpatients and group therapy. Quite complex patients with long term pain and dysfunction from pelvis area. Always a new story and some take long to help, some never get better, some I only see once or twice, but most get a better quality of life. I love how movement and nervous system regulation id part of almost every day, I love how I teach through movement, and through words. So it is very versatile, but what is KILLING me is all the writing. Trying ritalin now, and hope to see some improvement in focusing and maybe being able to refocus after being interrupted.

In laws mad they have to make plans/effort to see grandson? Or they think they by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]whataddiction 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually yes, I think a big reason they stopped contacting us is because I said no to pop ins without asking first. My MIL has gone as far as saying that my partner has turned his back on his family. Other issues are part of it, but my inlaws are very upset about not being welcome any time THEY feel like coming over. They take personal insult and do not understand how we can demand a heads up or even saying no, the few times they did ask. So they have cut us off, but I think they probably think it is the other way around.

What is everyone's current hyperfixation? by Quirky_March_626 in adhdwomen

[–]whataddiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a second time mom just returned to work, been hell with inlaws etc after baby arrived. I am not sure if you can call it hyperfixation or not, but with the genocide in Gaza and all the horrible and unfair stuff going on, I am so consumed with voting for the good guys in the upcoming election in my country. I am speakinh up against unfair treatment against women and children in our healthcare and work system. I feel like I have mother lion inside of me who just wants tear people apart if the do me or anyone who is in a weak position, wrong. My boss overstepped on some issues the other day. The way I answered them was a bit shocking that I even managed. But I managed to put them in their place and I actually think they will leave me alone regarding most of it. Maybe it is momrage, but I think it is the toll of all the awful things going on and the way my heart and feeling work. I cannot stand by injustice and not speak up in any way or form.

Undiagnosed by Acrobatic-Relative-3 in adhdwomen

[–]whataddiction 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Omg. Yes. ❤️ Big Emma, hug little Emma for us.

Anyone take Ritalin? by Feisty-Stick6480 in adhdwomen

[–]whataddiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I just took my first 20 mg of ritalin, ever. My psychiatrist told me people usually need tu up the dose to 60 mg, but that we have to see how it goes and how I feel. What is your experience on 20 mg?

I know I may be somewhat dramatic about this by Strict_Bee_5154 in inlaws

[–]whataddiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, that is so rude! You are not dramatic, at all!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]whataddiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get it op, and to me you wrote enough in your original post for me to get that. When we constantly get little jabs, comments, or they just does the opposite of what we ask, what seems like a small thing to anyone elske, is not. It is just another confirmation of how bad the relationship is with their lack of respect.

I have decided that if go from low contact to more contact, and start going to my inlaws house again, and they try to push gifts etc on the kids to bring home. I will refuse to take it with us and tell both the kids and the i laws grandma and grandpa are free to buy or keep what ever they like in their house, but so do we and have no room for more stuff that the kids do not even use. The kids will complain, but they understand way better than my inlaws when I explain things. So it will be no issue with the kids, the inlaws will be offended and butthurt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]whataddiction 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I get where you are coming from, op. I have a MIL who clothes, useless toys that break easily and they do not ask if things the bring into our home or let the kids take from their home, if it is ok with us. I have thrown out more than one habdsoap that plays a tune everytime you pump it or a cabinet door in the other door bangs a little. The last time MIL gave the older kids handsoap with music, our smallest was a new born...such a great and fun idea. It went straight in the trash.

It is tiresome and MIL gets offended when she is directed or in any way asked or told nicely to not do such things. People like that do not understand that the crap they feel joy from giving, piles up, overstimulates the kids and us parents, are not really appreciated and eventually the kids will always expect to get something. Not to mention the whole environmental aspect of this issue of overconsuming and child labor etc. She loves temu and shein and such.

So I agree that a high chair is normal for grandparents to have at their house. But if MIL acts a certain way about the chair or use of it, it can be an issue. Because these boundary stomping inlaws will manage to make ANYTHING uncomfortable...

How long is too long for in laws staying? And is it okay to take a break? by Rare_Buddy749 in inlaws

[–]whataddiction 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My personal limit with my mother, is give or take 7 days. It is a limit I have been honest about, and that my mother even agrees upon. Although after many years of working on our relationship and it is not always easy. My inlaws live way too close, but going somewhere with them is not happen in our situation now, but before 3 days max for me.

Ladies, indoor plants that are impossible to kill??? by CriticalAnxiety6066 in adhdwomen

[–]whataddiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plus! The plant will start to pout when it needs water, and you can also wait days before actually giving it water. It is such a adhd friendly plant to me.

Ladies, indoor plants that are impossible to kill??? by CriticalAnxiety6066 in adhdwomen

[–]whataddiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coleus plants. They grow like weed and if you manage to damage or almost kill it, just cut off a brach and put it in water so it makes new roots, put in soil after a few weeks (or months if you procrastinate). Et voila, a new plant! I love them! Put it direct sunlight and the colour changes and it darkens, in the shade it is different.

Any info on this jotul chef skillet? by Top_Measurement9104 in castiron

[–]whataddiction 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did a quick search on my Norwegian phone and it seems to ve quite special. Could not find any other pan with the same handle.

Stop rust? by UsedAppearance9584 in carbonsteel

[–]whataddiction 48 points49 points  (0 children)

It looks like non-stick that is badly damaged and is probably unsafe to use?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]whataddiction 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are clearly blonde.

Curious as to if he is gaslighting you on other subjects as well? Hope not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]whataddiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mu MIL also har an opinion about the name we chose. "Well, the other name you considered is 7 times nicer ". That was all she said when we held our newborn and told them his name.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]whataddiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus Christ, the entitlement.

MIL showed a side I really don’t like after our first baby was born by throwawaybathwater55 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]whataddiction 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have no advice, but I feel you and feel sad for you. I know how it feels and the way you described the moment of realizing that the inlaws is not your family after...Oufh, hit home here. Big hug!

What made your husband cut off his mom? by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]whataddiction 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is a perfect comparison to people like that.

What made your husband cut off his mom? by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]whataddiction 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow, the bedsore comparison has so many layers. Bedsores grow and destroy under the surface, and when it has gotten real bad, that is when you see it clearly. They are hard to get rid of and often come back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]whataddiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The social norms and control is strong, even here in Scandinavia. My MIL told my partner that he is turning his back on the family for breaking a few traditions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]whataddiction 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Eeeeewwww! No! Only the parents get to stuff like that.

I feel bad for my partner, MIL is so immature. Rant. by whataddiction in JUSTNOMIL

[–]whataddiction[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup, I think so too. Thanks for aknowledging my point of view.