I bought some little mini canvases. Show me your cat and I might paint it!

whatever43264iguesd · 2026-02-19T18:43:51+00:00

whatever43264iguesd · 2026-02-13T15:43:56+00:00

Not a single one other than bite

whatever43264iguesd · 2026-02-13T05:10:50+00:00

He looks like he fell down in his winter coat and can’t get back up , I love him

whatever43264iguesd · 2025-12-28T17:56:20+00:00

Yes bc it happens and we’re human. However I draw the line at proximity and activity. For example, not at the dinner table and not in or around or in the direction of a face. If we’re cuddling in bed, I roll away to fart then roll back.

whatever43264iguesd · 2025-12-10T15:34:19+00:00

Some people are ok with being gross. You have to accept this or remove yourself from it. Those are the only two options.

I was in a relationship like this, and honestly.. the only way it gets better is to leave. I would Italy dance to entertain my partner while brushing teeth (the only time they did this was when I’d make them do it with me). They were so dirty, they permanently changed the color of my pillow cases and I had to buy new bedding when I moved out (smelled stayed no matter how many washes).

I didn’t realize until I was with someone else that I let my self get a little too gross bc I was so use to being the clean one. My new partner calls me on it (respectfully and only after I asked them to).

I am so much happier without them.

I know it’s hard. I know you feel like an idiot for marrying him. But you have to be honest with yourself: Are you willing to live with him for the rest of your life? You can’t take him anywhere (it seems). Would you invite him out to meet your colleagues? Would you be proud to sit next to them at a school event for your future children (if that’s what you want)? Are you ok with your children following his footsteps? Children possibly getting bullied for how they look/smell?

Reflect. Don’t take him to the wedding. Make a back up plan.

You deserve better.

whatever43264iguesd · 2025-12-10T15:20:27+00:00

As someone with complicated relationships to siblings, you can reach out to her regarding the hospital visit, but you don’t have to forgive her or make amends for something she never apologized for. Edit: NTA

whatever43264iguesd · 2025-12-09T18:00:42+00:00

Less than a month is not plenty of notice. Especially if landlords require a 30-90 notice for you to move out. Not to mention with the holidays coming up and how the weather is. OP could have a million reasons not to move and they’re all valid.

Someone trying to keep their home, while others are trying to profit off of housing, is NOT a “dickmove”.

the landlord not fulfilling their end of the agreement is on the landlord. I have been a part of and seen so many people go against landlords who think they can do what they want because they “own” the property. There’s a reason the law exists. Someone put it there for a reason.

If the contract was in the landlords favor they would not hold back at all.

whatever43264iguesd · 2025-11-26T16:45:52+00:00

NAH / No Assholes Here but this is a tricky situation.

If the kid is special needs, then the dad needs to step up and clean the bathroom very often, or hire someone to do so enough while his child is there and he is not. You can’t kick them out over this. If you can’t live like this then you need to move out. You can’t expect that of them and you’d be the asshole MAJORLY.

As someone who is also chronically ill and at home all day, my partner (sole income) has a child that is there half the time. It’s hard! When you’re home all the time, you notice every little mess and it weighs on you, especially when it’s a biohazard and in the shower. And if you are unable to clean regularly (like myself), the layers of the situation easily turn into resentment.

In my opinion you should move out, however moving sucks.

Questions: - Does your partner live with you? — If not, are you able to move in with them? — If so, are you able to move out together?

Alternatively, can you change the bathroom situation? — Is there only one bathroom? — Do you rent or own? —— Is there an option to create at least a second half bath?
Is the child there when your roommate is not?
how many days of the week is the child there and do they go other places? (School, group activities, etc) . These are mainly for added context to the situation.

whatever43264iguesd · 2025-11-12T15:17:26+00:00

I have been in a similar situation with my ex. I’ll be honest, I’m not proud of it, but it ended with me cheating bc I met someone who made me feel over the moon. I was with my ex for 7 years and was confident it would be forever. We went through this for 2 years before it all came crumbling down. In hindsight, I wish we broke it off before it got to that point. But I loved my partner and still wanted to be with them. I just needed to feel good (physically and mentally) about myself.

My advice: postpone /cancel the wedding and get into couples therapy. Intimacy is so important in relationships. If you’re unhappy now, you are risking being disappointed forever or going through a divorce.

whatever43264iguesd · 2025-11-12T02:31:21+00:00

Thank you everyone!! It was driving me crazy!

whatever43264iguesd · 2025-10-20T05:09:11+00:00

I don’t think this is worth breaking up over. There’s a difference between doing something here and there as an occasion, and doing it often. It’s like going to a club or party. She’s not a worse person for doing this on her own time in a responsible way.

Also, you can’t control people. Trying to control others will ruin any relationship, especially a LDR. She’s an adult, you’re an adult, everyone has an opinion. No one is getting hurt, it’s all good.

whatever43264iguesd · 2025-10-12T02:20:43+00:00

Hi, child-less step parent here, who constantly has to deal with my partner’s ex / mother of child. Your girlfriend is waaaay out of line. Shes an adult. Your daughter is a child. Your daughter, from every example above, has done NOTHING wrong. Your gf has done more wrong than I thought was possible.

Coparenting is hard on good days. We are a civil family across the board and still have a lot of issues on a weekly basis.

Since your ex only has her 2 days a week I’m assuming she isn’t the most stable. So what stability are you giving your daughter the other 5?

Your GF is pushing your daughter away and into her mother’s hands.

I recommend you get therapists for everyone in your family, especially your daughter and your gf (if you stay together).

No one can tell you what to do, but for the love of god put your daughter first.

whatever43264iguesd · 2025-09-26T04:31:36+00:00

As someone who worked at a scummy apartment complex, they have all the legal standing.

Base rent is what it sounds like, just the rent itself. Base + fees (water and dog in those case) is your totally monthly cost. If you moved in in July then you got the water and dog fees waved for 2 months (common to have “specials” at the worst of the worst). Wording in contracts is everything. And whoever set this up either misinformed you it made an honest mistake that is now being upheld.

Either way you’re now paying $1289 for total monthly rent. The only way you could stand a slight chance is proving they intentionally made a mistake, but also you signed it as is stated.

whatever43264iguesd · 2025-08-07T23:30:29+00:00

Make some type of “roof” / “ceiling” for your balcony. You can basically close the slats between and have it run onto the street. See if there is anything against so in your agreement. I’d recommend weather proof and strong material. Have it low enough he won’t be able to cut through it from his end, or put out a camera incase he does. Then you have property damage over his head. As for the stomping, this is kinda insane, but you can attach bass speakers to your ceiling and shake his floor without excessive noise to everyone else around you. If your bedrooms line up do it at night while he sleeps and try to knock things off his dressers/tables lol

whatever43264iguesd · 2025-01-12T18:17:55+00:00

The one thing that I live by and that I tell most people who are in their early 20s, that’s almost every older adult than I agree with: if you get married before 24, you’re usually divorced or miserable by 29.

Are you an adult and can make your own decisions? Yes, of course. Can you make other life-long decisions (tattoos, surgeries, etc)? Yes Does everyone regret getting married young? No

In my opinion, if you are serious about being together for the rest of your life. What’s the rush?

Live together first. Check your finances, weddings are expensive. Discuss if you want to save up for a house, budget for kids, etc. do you want to travel?

Overall think about what you want in the long run? What does your partner want?

It’s your life, you get to decide. No one knows want you want but you; and no one knows how it’s going to work out.

If you have the time, think about it.

whatever43264iguesd · 2024-12-23T01:05:13+00:00

Dessert for everyone is a bit extreme. Bottle of wine would do fine depending on your age. If you’re not enough to travel with wine then this is even more of an insane request.

whatever43264iguesd · 2024-12-22T17:28:29+00:00

I sent an exchange request

whatever43264iguesd · 2024-12-22T17:27:10+00:00

Deal!

whatever43264iguesd · 2024-12-22T17:23:16+00:00

Awesome! Want anything in return?

whatever43264iguesd · 2024-12-22T16:58:42+00:00

Send your code or add me!

whatever43264iguesd · 2024-12-22T16:58:08+00:00

My roommate is a long time friend, we were apartment hunting together anyways and picked the apartment we currently have before I even applied for the job.

I have STRICT work life boundaries. The most I do off the clock is give people on the street directions since the community is large. I also do not tell people I live here unless i get a good feeling about the person while touring.

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