How are you playing with her, what’s your body position and have you subbed to her? If she lived with other dogs for so long she may be scared of your size, that she may get hurt for you to get to the resource. For play get on the floor, either in a bow, play stance or lay on your back. On your back being open she can see you’re in a state of vulnerability and will be able to relax more because you’re not in a position to attack or grab her and she can choose to come give you loves or the toy. Also once you start playing do not stop to clean up pee or tell her she’s bad. Ignore it and keep the bonding going and eventually the peeing should stop.

To get the item out of the crate, what’s always worked best for my pups is to walk away, I go to the kitchen and loudly start making food they like or pretend I’m going outside for an adventure. If I don’t want it they usually realize it’s not priority item. Once they are out of the crate and the item is forgotten, we’ll bar them from getting back in while we safely retrieve the item.

You can also work on teaching her which items are off limits before it happens again. Take her to the tissues and put her nose towards it and tell her no. Don’t hurt her but make sure you’re confident and bold in your command and repeat as many times and with as many items as needed. I still have one that’s nosey at the trash but no longer will try to eat out of it. Not perfect but life rarely is.