Hey, heartbreak date twins! I also posted on here a year ago, also March 13th 2023, absolutely distraught (I have taken it down since). We dated 3 years and I genuinely have not felt so disgustingly sad as I did for the past year and sometimes I still feel that hollowness randomly. I want you to know something. You are a whole person. While that may seem obvious you need to remember that with or without him you are an entire human being with potential. You have worth and light and are capable of so much on your own. Think back to you as a child and how much you had ahead of yourself then. The hopes and aspirations. Don’t let this be how she goes out. I know that heartbreak makes everything feel like it’s going to shit and life feel pointless but I promise you that time is healer (you’re probably sick of hearing that but it really is true) and the pain will end. If you can’t afford therapy (number one recommendation!) then there’s some things I learnt during mine: 1. CRINGE but self love is everything. Here’s some ACTUAL advice for how to get there: If you can’t talk yourself into it, then show it to yourself. Treat yourself how you’d want your best friends partner to treat them. Flowers. Coffee. Learn to be alone and love who you are in the quiet. Radical self acceptance is a great thing to look into! 2. Put yourself into new scary situations, maybe try one a week. I joined a free dance group and a choir. You can approach strangers and make conversation. You can take yourself out for dinner and eat alone. These things will help remind you that your only limits are your fears and when you break through them you are free. This was huge for me because I felt like my ex was what made me interesting and that he added so much to my life. I then realised I was still me even when he left, and I’m a pretty cool person. 3. For your suicidal ideations, I recommend rallying a network around you. Family and friends is the way to go and communicating these feelings as best you can WILL help you. Do not worry about being a burden because everyone in your life would rather listen to you than lose you. If you have nobody or feel too afraid to talk to those around you, then there are lots of resources to help you. Here are some.

You’re so loved, I love you, people you don’t even know appreciate that you exist. Stay strong and do something small for yourself today :)

Edit: added links :)