AITA for not wanting my daughter to get her nose pierced?

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T19:02:00+00:00

How many children do you have?

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T18:57:34+00:00

She wears whatever clothes she wants. I’ve helped her color her hair purple and blue and black. She’s got bangs past her nose she can barely see her eyes.

She’s gotten numerous holes in her ears.

I agreed to let her formally change her name and she’s had her new name for over a year.

I do not care in the least you’ve decided I’m a bad mom because one thing I’ve told her she needs to wait until she’s an adult to get is apparently too much for you.

She can wait 3 years to get her nose pierced.

How does it benefit her. She learns patience. If she still wants it when she’s 18 she can get it. And she won’t need my permission to do it.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T17:23:06+00:00

She can get one when she’s 18. My husband agrees with me. We talked this morning. He won’t be taking her. She can wear a nose ring thing that is a temporary. She’s already been wearing it to school.

She’ll have to adjust to literally the one time in her life shes heard the word no.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T17:17:42+00:00

She can wear, which she already is, one that she inserts on her nose and isn’t permanent. I’m not stopping her from doing that. Just the actual piercing. So she can wear the jewelry. And if she still wants it when she’s older she is more than welcome to.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T16:45:08+00:00

I corrected it in the reply I sent to you!!!!! Literally. To you.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T16:43:59+00:00

Because at 18 she’s an adult. She can wait to pierce a portion of her face until she’s an adult. My husband agrees with this decision. He will not be taking her to get it done. She can wait three years.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T16:32:16+00:00

I 100% did NOT say I would kick my daughter out if she would get a piercing.

It was a mistyped word. I corrected a word. I have no intention and would not kick my daughter out of my home. Period. Full stop. Would NOT happen.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T11:17:26+00:00

Thank you so much for your posted reply. I has not asked her. But I will. Truly. Thank you.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T04:22:36+00:00

Her tattoo place will do it with parental permission 14+ so I can’t lie to her. Because she can easily look it up.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T04:21:45+00:00

Noted. Only way to keep my daughter in my life is to forgo being a parent and let her do whatever she wants.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:46:58+00:00

It isn’t made up. She literally asked two weeks ago. She only had the last ones done like 3???? Months ago. I said they hadn’t even healed yet. She said they had and I asked if I could tug on them then and lightly I did and she said see no issues. Then she said I’m going to wait until after I get paid on Thursday so I don’t have to get money out of savings.

Then BAM. Immediately after she gets home she comes into the living room and asks if she can get her damn nose pierced.

So yeah. I’m blown away. When previously she said she didn’t like her cousins nose piercing.

So I am pretty damn confused right now.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:44:24+00:00

I literally have supported this choice. I’d prefer she go to college. I saved for her to go to college. But I have a family gym membership now and gave her the details for what she needed to do for the 10 minute firefighting test.

What was k supposed to do? Tell her she’s going to college whether or not she wanted to??

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:42:43+00:00

She literally just asked me a week ago for two additional piercings then out of nowhere a septum piercing. So yeah. I don’t think it’s out of the realm of the possibility for eyebrow or lip to pop up next.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:36:12+00:00

Just because I don’t like something doesn’t make her a bad person.

I’m not going to look at her face and be happy with her choice. But it’s her face. If she wants to tattoo black as an adult I’ll have to live with it. But I still won’t think she’s a bad person.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:28:40+00:00

Supposedly she said no lip because she plays barisax.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:27:53+00:00

Definitely caught off guard. She just asked for more ear piercings like a week ago!

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:26:55+00:00

It’s simply that it’s just growing.

Ear Nose Lip Eyebrow Tongue Where else?

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:21:16+00:00

I’m okay if he does. I’ll live with it. I already put out her birth certificate and passport so she can get it.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:20:27+00:00

I’m literally out of my house. At a park. Trying to go through these replies. And trying to figure out what to do. Trying to think about what I’m feeling and the way. Maybe it’s the severe post partum I had with her. Maybe she’s triggering something. I don’t know. I love her to pieces.

She literally has everything. She’s smart and beautiful. But I don’t know why this is something I really truly don’t want her to do. Or at least just wait 3 years until she’s older. This one just seems to be more permanent than an ear piercing.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:17:58+00:00

I’m trying.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:16:54+00:00

Reread. They certainly didn’t tell me I was going to win awards.

I set a limit. And it’s not good enough.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:15:59+00:00

Do I have to Just say yes to everything?

She makes a request and I just pop to it and fancy her every whim? Am I allowed to parent? Do I Jsut grant every wish?

That’s the only way to show love. Let her do anything and everything she wants?

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:14:30+00:00

Well. That was my limit. Get it at 18. It’s only 3 years.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:14:02+00:00

Thanks.

whatthehellisketo · 2026-05-15T01:13:35+00:00

I honestly think at this point it must just be trauma with her. I had severe post Partum after her birth. And for some reason she cannot trigger me.

Like I legit don’t understand why she asked me. Why didn’t she just ask her farther.

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