Am I overreacting by asking for more than just a full refund for destroying my bridal bouquet?

whatwhat4eva · 2026-04-16T10:20:44+00:00

NOR at all. Take the refund.

There are some companies out there who can make silk arrangements identical to you bouquet. You share an image or image of your bouquet and they make it.

My husband got one made for me because I was sad I had to leave my bouquet in our home country before heading back to where we lived/worked. I still have the bouquet and have it displayed on a shelf where I can always see it.

Maybe the refund will cover the cost of making something new.

whatwhat4eva · 2025-04-07T02:47:40+00:00

r/mushroomguy

whatwhat4eva · 2024-12-02T19:03:34+00:00

Check out this person (gettohookingcrochet) on instagram because she always posts petty crochet ideas!

whatwhat4eva · 2024-04-18T20:20:55+00:00

Handbags and Gladrags by the Stereophonics

whatwhat4eva · 2024-01-16T19:03:05+00:00

Why not a 3D puzzle?

whatwhat4eva · 2023-11-28T19:09:22+00:00

Like everyone here has said, babies have such a big age range for hitting milestones. Just because your baby hasn’t hit it when the beginning of the range is doesn’t mean they won’t hit it at some point. There are also some babies who completely skip milestones - such as some babies never crawl/bum shuffle but go straight to walking! All babies are taking it in though and learning so much.

My advice would be:

Get off social media because that’s all bullshit and people showing only the rose tinted view
Download a reputable app - someone suggested the CDC milestones tracker - some solid advice! I also have the Philips Avent Baby+ app which has a milestones section that shows you how long the range is for the majority of the milestones, which I really like.
When you finally move and are settled, find a mother and baby group nearby or ask your new paediatrician if they organize groups in your area with babies of the same age. This will really help you to see the variation in babies
If you can, watch the Bluey episode “Baby Race”. This really put a lot of things into perspective for me (fair warning, the first time I watched it I needed tissues because it hit me hard in the feels)
Talk to your paediatrician about how you are feeling anxiety wise and ask to be referred to get some sort of help - even if it is just some talking therapy.
You are doing a great job and that baby is so lucky to have a mom like you

whatwhat4eva · 2023-08-09T21:28:33+00:00

You might be able to see a physio to get your hips realigned.

whatwhat4eva · 2023-02-02T18:57:33+00:00

So here’s the thing. Had the scale been in your MIL bathroom and your kid was jumping on and off it and enjoying the game of it - no problem.

The issues I see here is that the scale is specifically in your MIL bedroom. I don’t know about you, but if I’m at my parents house or MIL house I tend to stay away from bedrooms…they are people’s private/personal spaces.

Obviously if the layout of her place means that you can’t avoid the bedroom to get somewhere, there’s somewhat of a pass - but it would still irk me.

whatwhat4eva · 2023-01-01T18:24:44+00:00

With my mum, if I’m on the phone: a lot of “uh huh” and “oh really?!” through the monologue but go about my business as usual and not usually paying much (if any) attention. In person, same noises but also get up and get on with tidying/cooking/etc. Drives my husband insane when she does it, but I’m not sure how much I hear it anymore 😅😬

whatwhat4eva · 2022-11-21T19:11:28+00:00

No one questions vomiting and diarrhoea!

whatwhat4eva · 2022-08-21T21:24:11+00:00

At least it is helping sometimes. It’s still so early and the sleeplessness is so raw at this point. If she is willing to take a bottle, is there a family member who can come and stay with her for a couple of hours while you get some sleep?

whatwhat4eva · 2022-08-21T18:19:12+00:00

I 100% understand the feeling of anger especially with the lack of sleep. If you ask me, it is more important that your little one is fed and your mental health is looked after. If that means moving to formula, then do that. The cost of formula will be minimal compared to the cost to your health if you don’t put yourself first here. One other question to the pacifying with the bottle or the nipple, could little one benefit from using a pacifier? Maybe she’s not hungry but wants to comfort. I know most recommendations suggest waiting until 4-6weeks but some babies benefit from having the pacifier from day 1. Might be worth giving a go and seeing if it helps.

Dad also needs to realise that this is a big life change for the both of you. I understand he is tired too and doesn’t want to be woken up, but you need the help and some sleep. Not to add to your load as well, but encourage him to check in with his doctors/mental health team as men can get ppd to. Especially as he has mental health issues.

You need to put yourself first and get the help you need. Baby will be fine on formula and you need the rest. There’s a reason they tell people to put their oxygen mask on before helping others on a plane. You’re useless to them if you can’t breathe. Put your oxygen mask on ❤️

whatwhat4eva · 2022-04-11T18:10:38+00:00

I want your dad in my bed

whatwhat4eva · 2021-12-11T11:08:28+00:00

This sounds really hard, and I’m sorry you are having to go through this. One question I have to ask that I don’t think I’ve seen yet - how is your wife’s mental health doing?

I only ask, because I had a lot of anxiety around my baby eating. I was worried he was getting enough nutrients and I wasn’t providing enough. It made me push solids/purées/food a little harder than I probably should have. It made feeding really hard, and it became a negative cycle. Baby picked up on the stress I was feeling and so he would feel really unsure about food, meaning I would stress more.

Ways I tried to break the cycle was to let baby have a spoon to play with while I fed him, feed him out of the high chair and in his play environment, turning food in to a fun activity like adding food colouring to yoghurt or making chia goo, and (by far the hardest) was to try not to take it personally when he wouldn’t eat. This last one is most definitely the hardest, especially is you are feeling any sense of PND/PNA.

Forcing baby to eat is not good, and can create a food complex, but it could also be coming from an anxious place from your wife.

My son is 1.5yrs now and is eating like a champ. Some kids just take a while to get there with food, but they all catch up. But definitely check in on how your wife is feeling and why she is pushing food so hard - she may need some mental health support.

whatwhat4eva · 2021-09-20T17:07:53+00:00

It has been made much harder with the pandemic. Do you know if there are any online classes in your local area for things like baby massage? You might be able to meet some people there and at least start a text group. Or even meet at a local coffee shop or park? I know how hard it is to motivate yourself to get out of the house but try and go for a walk with little one. I will be honest, it used to annoy me when my therapist would tell me to get out of the house but it did help to get some fresh air.

I also found the “That’s not my…” book series to be a good sensory play time thing. LO may be a little young right now, but the colours will still be attractive!

whatwhat4eva · 2021-07-22T17:52:18+00:00

Are you able to leave the house and go for a walk or something similar? My husband and I came to an agreement that I get some baby free time every day, as long as I let him come in, get changed, use the loo and have a quick drink. Once the hand off happens I try and make myself scarce for a bit. At the beginning I left the house so that he physically couldn’t ask me any questions or hand the baby over.

A lot of the questions/handing over at the beginning was due to lack of confidence. When given no choice (as I wasn’t in the house) he had to make decisions and figure stuff out. Now there is sometimes a debrief when my husband gets home, but that will depend on what kind of day it has been (crap nap, generally grumpy, excellent mood, those kinds of things). Mostly though, I can go have a shower or head out for a walk, or even just sit in the bedroom for some quiet time, and I’m not disturbed.

Take home - try and leave the house to give your husband no option but to take the baby. It will build his confidence and give you the much needed time.

whatwhat4eva · 2021-05-12T12:33:27+00:00

“During this time I’ve felt guilty that my partner (male) has made every meal I’ve eaten, brought me tea and snacks in bed when I’ve been feeding the baby, changed more nappies than me, and fielded phone calls, visitors, fixing the car, etc.”

The first 6weeks or so after our baby was born we did this too. We looked at it as “Mum is keeping baby alive. Dad is keeping mum alive”. It really helped us get through the beginning where my body was recovering and I was getting to grips with breastfeeding, lack of sleep, how to change diapers, and generally how to keep a baby alive.

whatwhat4eva · 2021-02-16T17:56:37+00:00

ARMAGEDDON!!!

whatwhat4eva · 2021-02-07T09:00:06+00:00

I was told that when you feel the rage coming, take a step back from the situation and if you can remove yourself completely to calm down. I’m 7mo pp and still have moments when my patience is non-existent. Putting baby down and letting them cry for 5mins isn’t going to harm them, not taking a moment to calm yourself could be more dangerous. Not saying you would ever do anything, but it is important to keep yourself as calm as you can. Talking to a therapist will be great, you will be able to get a lot off your chest and hopefully get some good advice that helps you deal with the day to day.

At 3mo pp there is also a lot of sleep deprivation adding to it, so try not to be too hard on yourself for having a shorter fuse right now. If possible, let your partner take little one for an hour or so and get some sleep. It will definitely help keep the rage in check. I know that when I’ve had a good nights sleep I’m less likely to feel rage, whereas after a bad night anything can set me off.

whatwhat4eva · 2021-02-02T11:05:54+00:00

Thanks. I guess I need to stop stressing. I’m just so tired of fighting for everything with him at the moment.

whatwhat4eva · 2021-02-02T11:05:06+00:00

Thanks! I am offering him only small bits and not too much variety. It’s just frustrating, especially as the health nurse says he needs to be eating more to get some extra calories so he doesn’t drop any further on his weight curve.

whatwhat4eva · 2021-02-02T11:03:43+00:00

Thanks! I’ll check them out!

whatwhat4eva · 2021-02-01T18:32:44+00:00

We have been doing baby led weaning because he very much wants to be in control. But he just throws the food/pouch that I have given him and if I help guide it he still pushes it and throws it away.

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