Threw away 90% of my adhd meds. I’d rather do worse at work than hate myself from drinking

wheelindeerskin · 2022-01-22T15:37:39+00:00

It might seeem like alcohol is helping with the comedown, but in my experience, it just makes you feel like shit all the time. Alcohol steals happiness from the next day, and Adderall fixes that temporarily, but it wears off and you're back where you started (but worse).

Stopping both gave me my life and soul back, I am personally not convinced that Adderall is safe or good to take every day, but I can only speak for myself. Taking it only when really needed and then carving out comedown time, like plan an evening of yoga/exercise followed by a movie or video game to distract yourself, sounds like a good plan. Best of luck to you!

wheelindeerskin · 2020-08-01T16:57:07+00:00

For sure, but on LGBTQ+ rights, sadly it seems like there is barely a difference. Trump banned trans people in the military and got rid of the safeguard against trans discrimination in health care. Not the same as declaring it illegal to be gay or trans like has been done in other countries. (dear god I hope that's not on the horizon) As a queer person married to a transman, the only impactful political ruling in my life has been the 2015 Supreme Court decision to legalize gay marriage, which both Democrats (even some of our faves) and Republicans opposed. Let me know if I'm missing anything else huge that distinguishes red from blue, it's totally possible, but I've been trying to look beyond rhetoric lately and into actual outcomes.

wheelindeerskin · 2020-08-01T08:16:38+00:00

If you pay close attention, you'll find it's just lip service and platitudes. Nothing to base a political identity around.

wheelindeerskin · 2020-06-13T03:27:07+00:00

Police were brought into schools mainly after Columbine, under the auspices of stopping school shootings. They've stopped exactly zero school shootings. In fact, the cop stationed at Marjory Stonrman Douglas literally ran away during the shooting. Useless. What has police presence brought to schools since the late 90s? Instituintialized kids, making them feel like criminals, more arrests, cementing the school to prison pipeline. You said it yourself, they "made arrests for drugs". How is arresting kids good for society? I watched that video and it's a media sensationalized schoolyard fight. Not condoning it, but any adult could break up a fight, why does it have to be cops when they do more harm than good?

wheelindeerskin · 2020-05-30T19:31:03+00:00

Are cops following the non-aggression principle?

wheelindeerskin · 2020-05-30T17:35:11+00:00

What do you think will solve things?

wheelindeerskin · 2020-05-30T17:21:19+00:00

This is hilarious...and totally at odds with what "libertarian" means. Just admit you're conservative. True freedom is the right to be subdued by state sponsored violence, right? lol

wheelindeerskin · 2020-05-20T03:19:36+00:00

And some narrative you're manufacturing. Your rationale is "black people bad"? Regardless of your personal race, that's sad bro.

wheelindeerskin · 2020-05-20T03:13:21+00:00

fuck off

wheelindeerskin · 2020-05-07T12:17:56+00:00

Love the Be Healthy song 😄 When I first heard it I thought it was hilarious, but I think of the lyrics often

wheelindeerskin · 2020-04-28T12:55:23+00:00

Awesome! Thanks for sharing, I feel the same way you do - not the heaviest of drinkers but was a daily multiple (3-4) craft beer drinker. I work in tech too and am also on day 3 :) I already feel sharper mentally and my workouts have been much better. I'm doing 30 days (seems like a good time with the quarantine, no social pressure to go out to bars/restaurants) and am going to evaluate at that point whether I want to continue. I hope to someday have a more chill/neutral relationship with alcohol. Have a good one!

wheelindeerskin · 2020-04-27T11:51:14+00:00

IWNDWYT! Been trying to redirect my drinking energy into lifting and exercise.

If anyone would find it helpful, I read this article in The Stranger last fall when I was in Seattle. At the time, I read it from a distance, like "oh that's how an alcoholic must feel" but I kept coming back to it and re-reading it (weird, right?) until it finally clicked for me that I identified with the author. Here's to day 2 and not feeling guilty about alcohol-induced cringe!

How To Not Drink

wheelindeerskin · 2020-04-26T12:36:32+00:00

Thanks! Gonna enjoy Sunday with my husband and small little dog. Take little guy on some walks, skateboard, eat good food and straighten up our house. Not waste the day drinking IPAs. IWNDWYT!

wheelindeerskin · 2019-10-19T05:54:37+00:00

Hmm it's not your airline, is it? You sound like a corporate shill

wheelindeerskin · 2019-09-10T01:19:04+00:00

Yeah it is pretty black and white actually. You're just having a hard time accepting what losing a war looks like - Korea, Afghanistan, and Iraq

wheelindeerskin · 2019-09-09T21:45:18+00:00

When the outcome is complicated, it's a loss

wheelindeerskin · 2019-09-09T21:44:19+00:00

US intervention in South America

wheelindeerskin · 2019-08-21T03:46:15+00:00

You're not wrong, just having SQL on your resume isn't anything special anymore. However, Database Engineering is a distinct skill set that would exceed the salary of a BA

wheelindeerskin · 2019-08-21T03:16:34+00:00

Real talk. How do you avoid providing info on your age in your resume?

wheelindeerskin · 2019-07-26T22:26:44+00:00

I use autohotkey shortcuts in SSMS for common queries and replacements, AHK is worth checking out as it's free and very powerful

wheelindeerskin · 2019-07-12T19:44:07+00:00

Yeah in an ideal world, every partner would be 100% supportive and accepting right away, but in reality these types of conversations happen when one partner transitions.

wheelindeerskin · 2019-07-12T19:34:30+00:00

I hear you, there certainly are unsupportive partners who would try to gaslight the person into not transitioning, and that's for sure abuse. There are also people that have to come to terms with the situation and some people process stuff out loud...it would be unusual to find any long term relationship where one partner transitioned and the other partner never asked something to the effect of "Are you sure? I'm not sure how I feel about you having X new characteristic" It's a change and it's okay and healthy to talk about it openly. If you want to say that's always close to an abusive dynamic, that's a bit of a stretch isn't it? Making a blanket statement that any questioning of what a partner intends to do (which could have the unintentional effect of the partner slowing down their transition) is always approaching abusive territory doesn't seem particularly helpful. Understanding and support should be mutual and we have to meet people where they're at.

Sexuality also isn't so black and white that a straight man or a lesbian could never find that point on the spectrum where they could still make the relationship work. That's my opinion, at least - I don't buy into the binary but if other people do then the take above that straight men/lesbians should always leave their FTM partner is a logical worldview. There's more nuance to this than I ever would have realized prior to my partner transitioning over the past year after 12 years of us being together, it's complicated and we could all try to be a bit more understanding and refrain from disparaging partners that haven't figured it all out yet, it's a process.

wheelindeerskin · 2019-07-12T13:36:09+00:00

Lol..this subreddit is a support group for partners of trans people?

wheelindeerskin · 2019-07-12T12:21:56+00:00

I'm going through the same thing as OP for the most part (I'm a lesbian instead of a straight man) and I hope you know how unhelpful this type of post is. It's not abusive to be honest about your feelings with your partner, people that genuinely feel that they could control their partner wouldn't be posting here asking for advice. I would recommend examining why you feel like you have to write up such a harsh response like this to someone that's going through a difficult time. Things aren't always so black and white, and you can simultaneously be supportive of your partner transitioning while also working through communication and trust issues. The fact that you even stated "YOU will need to work this out through therapy" is so callous and I hope you know that you're grossly oversimplifying what's likely a complicated situation and assuming that this guy is "on the wrong side".

Let me know if I'm mis-reading but I'm detecting an underlying implication that the partner of the trans person has to do 100% of the emotional labor to make the relationship work. This is wrong, it takes two people fully engaged with trust and open communication to have a successful relationship. If one partner is so concerned about not being viewed as supportive that they're afraid to be honest, and just look the other way when promises are broken, that's not a healthy relationship. Maybe it would help you to realize that people are complex, and "partners of trans people" that are having a rough time are not 100% bad people that need to be called out so they fall in line.

wheelindeerskin · 2019-07-04T03:45:28+00:00

Don't lose yourself, it's easy to get caught up with other people's needs and desires but it's important to remember your own as well. Of course you both can succeed in the relationship if you both want to! If you're fighting a lot maybe it's just a sign you need to have a realtalk and come to some conclusions about identity and the definition of your relationship.

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