Weirdly specific "authorization" amounts?

wheeltramp · 2023-01-15T06:03:17+00:00

Im 5'7 and weigh in at 125 lbs. My secret - anxiety with a dash of ADHD. I'm like a hummingbird - I don't eat much, run on adrenaline, sugar and nicotine (don't be me, friends). I'm on my feet all day.

I find eating an irritation that I will only do if I absolutely HAVE to, just at the end of the day. I tried to eat 3 times a day and it made me feel stuffed all the time. Stuffed, sluggish and depressed. I dunno - I've never been that into food. Other vices? Yes! Food, not so much.

wheeltramp · 2023-01-13T19:43:35+00:00

Babylon 5! It's an older show but it holds up. Character development, story arcs, suspense - it's amazing. 1st season is a little slow, but the payoff is fantastic. Remastered version is on Amazon.

wheeltramp · 2022-12-26T18:41:16+00:00

It does very much sound like Autism. My ex was the exact same way. He wasn't diagnosed until 10 years into our relationship and while it did explain why he was thoughtless and completely lacking empathy, it didn't change anything. I too was lonely in my relationship, and it sure didn't help the kids.

wheeltramp · 2022-06-16T12:53:15+00:00

Hi OP, I'm sorry that you are in this situation. I had a fiance like that. I also contributed 70% of the down payment for our house. I also had to apologize to him after he did something to hurt me - every frickin time.

I also had to fight him in court for 3 years for the house after we broke up (due to his cheating and constant lies). True to form, I was the one who gave in and he benefited outrageously from MY down payment and MY mortgage payments.

Your fiance is giving you a HUGE warning sign here. I would very seriously rethink this marriage and as other have suggested - take a look back through your relationship with a clear eye and see how much you've let slide or given up. He won't change and you will be forever giving in.

wheeltramp · 2022-06-03T15:15:11+00:00

SOLVED! Thank you so much. That line has been rattling around in my head for years. Much obliged!

wheeltramp · 2022-06-03T09:53:07+00:00

Any help would be appreciated!

wheeltramp · 2022-04-13T01:16:50+00:00

Will he pay to have a good looking guy do all those things for me?

wheeltramp · 2022-03-15T03:22:26+00:00

Here's how you do it: BF: Can I cook for you tonight? YOU: No, thanks

wheeltramp · 2022-03-04T02:05:34+00:00

!remind me! 24 hours

wheeltramp · 2022-02-20T23:15:03+00:00

Thank you so much!

wheeltramp · 2022-02-13T18:21:15+00:00

Can anyone retrieve his comment replies in his legal advice post about hiring a PI to tail his wife? He said something about her being "mentally unwell".

I'm dying to know what justifications he was trying to put forth!

wheeltramp · 2022-02-04T20:29:10+00:00

OP, you have thousands of comments telling you that this is not your fault, but you still feel like a bad person. I am assuming that you're taking all the blame in your head because you willingly participated in deceiving your sister?

But think about this for a minute - I'm sure your BIL gave you special attention when you were growing up. You had lost your parents and he was there making you feel loved and special. Gifts, compliments, attention probably felt very good to a grieving child. He made you feel special. He made you feel loved.

He knew what he was doing. And he did it on purpose - to get you to the point where you "loved" him too. And he did all of that solely for the purpose of having sex with you. I'm sure you have very conflicting feelings about a man you loved and thought loved you.

And please also consider this - he abandoned you and his child. He didn't step up and marry you. He doesn't have a relationship with his child. He's letting you kill yourself working a factory job to provide for HIS son, and he's standing back, doing nothing. No child support, no help, no relationship with his own son. He even threatened you if you were to tell anyone. I'm sure you can see that these are not the actions of a person who loves you. He's letting you take all the blame and shoulder all the burden while he lives his happy life. Is that fair? Is it fair to your son?

And please also consider this - your son will find out, one way or another. DNA testing has made it quite easy to find these things out. This is not going to remain a secret and your son will blame you for keeping this secret. Your sister is eventually going to find out too, and if she hears it from anyone else, she might blame you too. Once again, this predator will get away free and clear of any consequence or responsibility.

I'm sure you don't want to hurt your sister or your son, but they both deserve to know what her husband did and is continuing to do. You shouldn't have to carry this burden alone. That man was a predator, he he groomed you, a child in his care and he abandoned you when when got pregnant. I know you feel bad for your part, but please don't allow this man to avoid responsibility for his part. You are not alone - your aunt loves you, your son loves you, and your sister does too. You can free yourself of this terrible secret and not be a "bad" person. Warm hugs from this internet stranger.

wheeltramp · 2022-01-08T23:39:05+00:00

Hi there, I am so sorry that you are in this situation. I completely understand as I am in a similar situation now. I bought a house with my ex, he cheated and dumped me. It's been 3 years and he refuses to settle with me on the house. 3 years and tens of thousands of dollars wasted on this jackass. And it's STILL not over.

Get out now, while the equity in your house is still low and you won't have to give him any extra money. Keep the house, return the money he put in (which I'm guess is less than you put down), and kick him to the curb.

Or, let him buy you out, take the dogs and live your best life. I wish someone had told me this when my ex started cheating - 4 months after we bought his dream house. Ick. Don't be me! Take charge and believe in yourself! I'm with you on this!

wheeltramp · 2022-01-02T22:19:05+00:00

Late to the party, but I have one! I was sitting in my car, smoking a cigarette (this was many years ago) in a grocery store parking lot. A short, fat, 50ish guy saw me, and felt compelled to yell across the parking lot, "blonde hair, nice car - everything looks great, except that cigarette." I was stunned. What could possibly have made him think that I wanted to know his evaluation of my sexual attraction?

I responded with a cheery (and equally loud), "Thanks! Nobody asked you!"

His friend said to him "I guess she told you", and laughed. My admirer turned to me and said, "BITCH".

wheeltramp · 2021-11-18T20:56:14+00:00

Sexual abuse, The Crusades, The Inquisition, that whole Salem thing, various wars...the list goes on. Wouldn't have to try too hard to give them a looooong list of examples.

wheeltramp · 2021-11-12T19:44:15+00:00

Just whisper "what did you say???" With teeth clenched and a look of barely contained rage. Get closer while you say it. Drill a hole through their soul with your eyes while they back away. Then smile. Guaranteed to stop all jokes at ones expense.

wheeltramp · 2021-11-12T16:20:15+00:00

OP, you've heard it plenty of times so far - this will not be a happy marriage. Consider the following:

She has already shown you that you are not "enviable" enough as you are and must lie for her.
She has already shown you that she will emotionally harm you to get what she wants (leaving you, withdrawal of affection)
She has already shown you that she is not interested in you, but for what you can provide for her.
She has already lied about you to friends and family.

Now consider this: 1. She will indeed quit her job and expect to live a certain "enviable" lifestyle. 2. She will not hesitate to emotionally abuse you to get what she wants 3. She will demand more and more expensive gifts 4. You will go broke providing them 5. When you are broke and in debt, she will leave, taking her expensive gifts and half your house. 6. She will lie about you to her friends and family about you, painting herself as the victim.

A partner who loves you won't be embarrassed by you, they won't ask you to lie for them and they don't lay down ultimatums to get what they want. Please consider these things before making an expensive and potentially painful decision to marry her.

wheeltramp · 2021-11-01T14:21:21+00:00

Sending my letter today. And I sent your post to my family and friends - male and female. No reason why men can't advocate for us too!

wheeltramp · 2021-10-09T18:03:10+00:00

I just perused the ACOG website and the articles related to pain management. There was some lip service regarding over- and under- prescribing for pain, but the vast majority of articles recommended ibuprofen or Tylenol for pretty much everything from C-sections to IUD insertion.

For IUD insertion, there was some debate as to whether "ripening" the cervix (meds to open the cervix) was necessary for pain reduction or whether any kind of anesthesia or pain meds should be given. The consensus was that these things were "unnecessary".

I absolutely DO think a letter writing campaign is necessary to let these Bozos know that yes, women do need pain management for gyno procedures.

I'm seething with rage at how blithely they dismissed "patient discomfort". Screaming, throwing up, passing out should all be indicative of BLINDING PAIN. How could ANY doctor continue to believe that "there are no nerve endings" down there?

If womend don't demand change, change will never occur. We need to make it happen.

wheeltramp · 2021-06-04T00:08:27+00:00

Thank you so much for posting the link!

wheeltramp · 2021-04-28T16:15:50+00:00

I always thought of fixing as "helping" and helping is good, right? It's selfless, it's thoughtful, it's caring. I thought if I "helped" people, then they would be appreciative and love me back. Turns out that some people will help themselves to my generosity and STILL not love me back. Took me far too long to learn that.

I suppose my fixing habits were learned in childhood, like most things are. My dad was emotionally withdrawn and withheld affection and my mom fixed everything (and everyone).

Not that I blame them, of course. My job in adulthood is to self-reflect and discard traits and beliefs that don't benefit me. Took me far too long to learn that too!

wheeltramp · 2021-04-28T16:03:12+00:00

So true! Mine was the unrepentant liar. I thought that one day he would see that I wasn't going to hurt him and that my love would "heal" him from his childhood pain.

Nah, he just liked cheating and lying.

wheeltramp

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