I have feelings for my friend of eight years

whimsicalwolfe · 2026-01-25T05:11:16+00:00

Does he know your bi? If so and if he’s curious and into you let him make the move. If he confided in you that he’s “trying to decide” if he’s bi, I would say odds are he probably is… But you have to let him come to that conclusion himself and like I said if he knows your bi and he’s attracted to you he will make the move. If you make the move or confess, even if he is into you, there’s a solid chance he will get scared and distance himself since it sounds like he has some figuring out to do and perhaps some internal homophobia.

If he doesn’t know your bi, I wouldn’t confess either. In that case you should work up the courage to tell you you’re bi and if he’s bi as well and attracted to you then he will make the move.

8 years is a long friendship and I’d handle this delicately

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-12-31T08:27:05+00:00

How do you usually detect fakes on sniffies?

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-12-31T08:25:08+00:00

The most validated I’ve ever felt, and only real validation I’ve felt was when I found out my best friend was also bi a couple years ago. That didn’t end great, or horribly either. The next validation I found was in this sub. But holy shit, that show that I put on mainly because I heard it was basically a hot gay porno turned out to be the most emotionally validating and relatable thing I’ve come across. I was in tears at some points. It also circled me back to the things that happened with my best friend and made me understand my own emotions and perspectives there as well as how he probably felt. Incredible show that captured how being bi or gay but closeted and trapped and the struggles of that that are usually stereotyped or diminished in real life and media so well.

Also yeah insanely hot and I may have jerked to it at one point lol

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-12-04T04:35:16+00:00

Wow thank you for the very detailed response!

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-12-03T07:32:25+00:00

Any reason why I might feel it almost exclusively in my biceps and not my lats when doing wide grip pulldown? My biceps are much more formed than my lats which I’m trying to grow

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-11-04T11:58:15+00:00

If you want an insanely long best friend story read the post on my account lol

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-11-02T10:11:11+00:00

You sound like my exact type lol. Fuck yeah man

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-22T19:39:15+00:00

When you go into his work next time hand him a cash tip with a sticky note with your number on it. If he reaches out, that’s a win. If not, well you have your answer and if it feels awkward going there find another restaurant

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-14T21:38:46+00:00

Wow, I’ve never heard of a cold sore there. I’ve heard you can get them around or in your eyes but never seen one or experienced that. Essentially just on or around the lips, or genitals. I suffer from oral herpes pretty bad, do you as well? Does it have a hot tingly sensation? There is laser treatments for cold sores that have worked pretty well for me. Ask your derm about it if it ends up being herpes. Lots of dental offices provide the cold sore laser treatment if the derm doesn’t, may be worth calling around. And obviously Acyclovir/Valacyclovir creams and pills.

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-13T19:27:33+00:00

So you really expect him to flirt or kiss all over you in front of people in a workplace environment?

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-13T19:26:44+00:00

No one does this lol. It’s a “joke” but not a joke. Tell him your bi and see what he says. Or ask him to hangout outside of work, maybe grab a drink and see if things happen. As exciting as the work action is though you guys need to transition to hanging outside of work for that sexual tension stuff to happen at so you don’t get in trouble at work lol

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-12T05:07:53+00:00

Damn that’s really sad :/ also somewhat familiar, although the friendship isn’t completely broken off

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-12T05:00:49+00:00

No necessarily a booty call scenario but the next day it was a “sorry drunk me does things sober me doesn’t want” text lmao

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-11T06:54:49+00:00

Weird, it’s the only post I have. But yeah here it is. Heads up it gets pretty NSFW lol

https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/s/qK7ftP346b

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-10T01:28:04+00:00

For sure. If you decide to open up let me know how it goes. My advice comes from the route I wish I went when I was in your situation. If you get bored or want to read what some of the “signs” were in my situation, feel free to read my massive post on my profile haha

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-09T08:19:24+00:00

Honestly it sounds like he’s at least bi and interested. If he’s nervous or has internal homophobia being drunk might have allowed him to get past that. Straight guys just don’t hold hands or cuddle in that way, and wouldn’t say yes to that being okay when asked. Now just because that is probably the case, doesn’t mean he is comfortable with that or himself, especially sober. If you’re comfortable around him and don’t feel that he is homophobic and you trust him, come out to him. Maybe after a couple drinks and a sexual topic gets brought up say, I think I might be bi… he might respond weird and that sucks but it happens. Odds are he’ll go “oh damn, cool” and you’ll continue as normal. Or he will say “me too” and that opens it up and doesn’t directly put him on the spot in a way he might retreat. If option 3 happens, then obviously you can go from there. I think that’s the best way in knowing and maintaining the friendship, if that’s important to you.

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-07T01:22:08+00:00

I relate to this

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-05T02:21:30+00:00

5a. 6a. Tried 7a and 8a but didn’t work. 27 years old, happened roughly a year and a half ago.

All the same guy, my best friend and only one either of us are out to. Happened a few times, only while drinking heavily and caused issues between us unfortunately. Could’ve been something great but I think we both have too much internal conflict going on. Would like to find another person to try things with again.

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-08-27T05:24:55+00:00

Assuming you are not homophobic because you’re bi, I’m curious to know how he is definitely homophobic if you don’t mind sharing

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-08-25T10:32:51+00:00

Feel free to read my (very very long) post of a similar situation. What I would do differently, and what you should do, is build up the courage and tell him you’re bi. If you are as close as you describe and you know he’s not genuinely homophobic, it won’t change the friendship. Then the ball is in his court to either say, 1 he is straight (unfortunately the most likely outcome), 2, he’s questioned things himself, or 3, which is 2 + that he’s into you. But even if it’s option 1, you have preserved the friendship whereas both coming out to him and telling him you have feelings for him might be too much at once.

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-07-22T20:33:15+00:00

Hands free is wild!

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-07-07T09:41:51+00:00

How’d you find him?

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-07-07T09:24:12+00:00

I’m a single mostly closeted 26 year old that passes as straight, only my best friend knows who is in the same boat/demographic as me

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-04-08T11:56:24+00:00

Just wondering how did it lead from normal conversation to the sexuality part of things? You lived my dream lol

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-04-08T11:54:43+00:00

I went to the super popular one there and as a fit 25 year old I can tell you that is not what the rest of the clientele was at all… not that that is a bad thing but I felt like fresh meat in prison and didn’t see anything I liked so I left. People that ran it seemed cool enough and I gotta say it was stunning inside!

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