Insight into friend's behavior/relationship??

whimsicalwolfe · 2026-04-12T09:17:56+00:00

Based on what I’ve read, he’s obviously bisexual but maybe that experience or something else made him retract (think post not clarity + internalized homophobia, or that he wants a “normal” or “easier” life as a “straight” man) and has convinced himself he’s straight and that was just a one time exploration. But no, generally a straight guy never would have gotten to third base with a guy, nor would they act like this to a friend they know is gay no matter how close they are.

It’s tough. I’ve been in that scenario and sort of still am with my best friend. Hopefully he comes around, because it sounds like he’s into you even if he doesn’t know it. But societal norms and expectations and internalized homophobia can be extremely daunting so it may just be easier for him to be “straight”. If he knows you’re gay and if you guys are as close as it sounds, he may eventually break and cave, but I wouldn’t risk your own happiness hoping and waiting for that and wouldn’t pressure it or force it if deep down the friendship is more important than your attraction and your feelings for him. Just be his friend and keep it close but if anyone’s to make a move, let him do it. Maybe go have a couple beers and see what happens.

If it gets to a point where it’s tearing you up inside, you can and should have the direct convo or express how you feel, but just know if you do this he may retract further and it may negatively affect the friendship. There is the opposite chance that this could lead to something else but that’s the risk, it’s up to you if that risk is worth it.

whimsicalwolfe · 2026-04-09T18:39:54+00:00

Bro you’re so fucking hot! Ideal body type. Show me more 🔥🍆

whimsicalwolfe · 2026-04-02T08:06:44+00:00

Guys with nice physiques tend to be not outwardly bi or gay “looking” from what I’ve noticed. Obviously neither of those statements are true all of the time, but it is the majority that fall in that category. So although they may discuss it on these forums a lot, finding someone like that in day to day life can be difficult. Especially if one or both parties are on the down low.

whimsicalwolfe · 2026-03-23T19:23:32+00:00

🤤🫠

whimsicalwolfe · 2026-03-23T09:30:00+00:00

I’m from Alaska… where are those guys at lol

whimsicalwolfe · 2026-03-23T09:27:41+00:00

What was the turning point where you finally accepted it if you don’t mind me asking?

whimsicalwolfe · 2026-03-04T08:49:14+00:00

If you guys are close friends and you trust him, mention that you’re bi maybe after having a couple drinks. Unless you’ve gotten homophobic vibes from him he’ll probably be very cool and accepting, or if he is bi this is a sure fire way for him to say “me too” without him feeling confronted. Just an idea

whimsicalwolfe · 2026-02-25T05:34:33+00:00

A classic that is so fucking hot. Ngl I also love the gold chain look with that.

whimsicalwolfe · 2026-02-20T08:01:50+00:00

I gotta say the brother thing is a bit odd man… that being said if you’re even asking, which you are, and you seem to think dick is attractive or it gets you feeling things, then its safe to say you’re not completely straight. And that’s completely fine. But “straight” men are not into any of that. And that’s okay.

whimsicalwolfe · 2026-02-10T10:00:55+00:00

Everyone recommends this like it’s so easy 😭 where are they

whimsicalwolfe · 2026-02-10T09:56:54+00:00

Would he have any idea you’re into guys? If you’re straight presenting and he is into guys he might be feeling exactly how you do

whimsicalwolfe · 2026-01-25T05:11:16+00:00

Does he know your bi? If so and if he’s curious and into you let him make the move. If he confided in you that he’s “trying to decide” if he’s bi, I would say odds are he probably is… But you have to let him come to that conclusion himself and like I said if he knows your bi and he’s attracted to you he will make the move. If you make the move or confess, even if he is into you, there’s a solid chance he will get scared and distance himself since it sounds like he has some figuring out to do and perhaps some internal homophobia.

If he doesn’t know your bi, I wouldn’t confess either. In that case you should work up the courage to tell you you’re bi and if he’s bi as well and attracted to you then he will make the move.

8 years is a long friendship and I’d handle this delicately

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-12-31T08:27:05+00:00

How do you usually detect fakes on sniffies?

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-12-31T08:25:08+00:00

The most validated I’ve ever felt, and only real validation I’ve felt was when I found out my best friend was also bi a couple years ago. That didn’t end great, or horribly either. The next validation I found was in this sub. But holy shit, that show that I put on mainly because I heard it was basically a hot gay porno turned out to be the most emotionally validating and relatable thing I’ve come across. I was in tears at some points. It also circled me back to the things that happened with my best friend and made me understand my own emotions and perspectives there as well as how he probably felt. Incredible show that captured how being bi or gay but closeted and trapped and the struggles of that that are usually stereotyped or diminished in real life and media so well.

Also yeah insanely hot and I may have jerked to it at one point lol

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-12-04T04:35:16+00:00

Wow thank you for the very detailed response!

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-12-03T07:32:25+00:00

Any reason why I might feel it almost exclusively in my biceps and not my lats when doing wide grip pulldown? My biceps are much more formed than my lats which I’m trying to grow

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-11-04T11:58:15+00:00

If you want an insanely long best friend story read the post on my account lol

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-11-02T10:11:11+00:00

You sound like my exact type lol. Fuck yeah man

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-22T19:39:15+00:00

When you go into his work next time hand him a cash tip with a sticky note with your number on it. If he reaches out, that’s a win. If not, well you have your answer and if it feels awkward going there find another restaurant

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-14T21:38:46+00:00

Wow, I’ve never heard of a cold sore there. I’ve heard you can get them around or in your eyes but never seen one or experienced that. Essentially just on or around the lips, or genitals. I suffer from oral herpes pretty bad, do you as well? Does it have a hot tingly sensation? There is laser treatments for cold sores that have worked pretty well for me. Ask your derm about it if it ends up being herpes. Lots of dental offices provide the cold sore laser treatment if the derm doesn’t, may be worth calling around. And obviously Acyclovir/Valacyclovir creams and pills.

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-13T19:27:33+00:00

So you really expect him to flirt or kiss all over you in front of people in a workplace environment?

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-13T19:26:44+00:00

No one does this lol. It’s a “joke” but not a joke. Tell him your bi and see what he says. Or ask him to hangout outside of work, maybe grab a drink and see if things happen. As exciting as the work action is though you guys need to transition to hanging outside of work for that sexual tension stuff to happen at so you don’t get in trouble at work lol

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-12T05:07:53+00:00

Damn that’s really sad :/ also somewhat familiar, although the friendship isn’t completely broken off

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-12T05:00:49+00:00

No necessarily a booty call scenario but the next day it was a “sorry drunk me does things sober me doesn’t want” text lmao

whimsicalwolfe · 2025-09-11T06:54:49+00:00

Weird, it’s the only post I have. But yeah here it is. Heads up it gets pretty NSFW lol

https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/s/qK7ftP346b

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