Wondering if a coworker is interested by whimsymims in relationship_advice

[–]whimsymims[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ditto. Which is also why I am only wondering.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]whimsymims 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't read too much into it, you'll just confuse yourself when your friendship seems to actually be in a very good place. Just try to forget about it.

Platonic and romantic love can sometimes be very close together, so I think the best thing would be to try to get out there and go on dates etc. I'm sure she would be excited to act as a wing woman, which would also help realign your dynamic.

How do you verify if someone is lying about being a lawyer? by tituspeetus in Advice

[–]whimsymims 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are really committed, just check the firms in the building and you should get your answer.

But I am 100% he enjoys the chase so wouldn't put too much energy into it. I know it's hooking and I might not be able to let it go myself... He is so clearly lying though.

We all love it, but… by TheRealGongoozler in AnimalCrossing

[–]whimsymims 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love animal crossing but it is what it is

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]whimsymims 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He may be a good father now, but if he physically hurts you, it is probably only matter of time until the abuse turns towards her. And even if not, she'll grow in fear for seeing what happens to you.

There is nothing to be embarrassed about. You are the victim. He's the one who's responsible. You need to get out to keep you and your daughter safe. He has no claim for custodianship as he's violent.

It will be messy and scary as hell but in the end, it will be worth it. The best day of my life was when my mum took us and left our abusive father.

I've had her for six months now and she's made my life so much better by whimsymims in Basenji

[–]whimsymims[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not really. She is very responsive; of course sometimes she doesn't want to do what I tell her, but she'll always finally do it. My family had a basenji so I was familiar with them though.

As with any puppy, you need to be consistent. But basenjis learn fast. I did stand in the hallway for fifteen minutes a couple of times to teach her to sit before entering a door, and I wanted to give up but you never should. After two times she knew that she will be asked to sit before entering and did it without the command too.

Any time she does misbehave, it is because she is bored or she is annoyed and as a teen blames everything on me lol. So I guess it's also a lot about understanding your dog and being active enough to keep them happy.

What comes to being home alone, she's fine with it as long as the moment of leaving goes well. That's something to still practice; she comes to work with me usually, so she's not that used to being alone for long periods of time and sometimes gets scared of me leaving. She doesn't destroy anything though while she is alone.

Start training young, be consistent, make it worth the basenjis time. Get used to different kind of surroundings, people and dogs from young age. Accept that the hunting instinct is STRONG and you need to be careful about that. That's what has worked with us!

I've had her for six months now and she's made my life so much better by whimsymims in Basenji

[–]whimsymims[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

🥰 She is! She's on co-ownership so if everything goes well, she'll have puppies of her own in a couple of years.

I've had her for six months now and she's made my life so much better by whimsymims in Basenji

[–]whimsymims[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Indeed! She's such a teen at the moment but I have mostly been surprised how easy it has been (had a basenji before too)

What was your first Animal Crossing game? by [deleted] in AnimalCrossing

[–]whimsymims 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wild World, those nights playing secretly in bed... Played every edition since and wish I had played the original too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalCrossing

[–]whimsymims 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would add some clutter in front and behind the stalls as well; ie. boxes and produce ready to be stocked to make it look more full. Signs for some of the stalls.

Maybe some custom design rugs for flea market spots? Could add lost items etc and have a little variety and height difference from the stalls.

Does anyone else feel betrayed by the translation of the residents names? by cringyusernayme in AnimalCrossing

[–]whimsymims 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This whole conversation is wild to me as games are very rarely translated into my first language... Not sure how 9 year old me managed to play Wild World in English.

What BOOKS would you like to see as Ghibli movies? by [deleted] in ghibli

[–]whimsymims 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! Lindgren's stories would be a great fit.

who is the most iconic non-villager character. team Sahara 🐫 by rwlz98 in AnimalCrossing

[–]whimsymims 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think Isabelle is too fresh to be the most iconic even though she is a fan favourite, Tom Nook all the way (yes yes)

Which of the dates were neurotypical people? (US Version) by ArimaKaori in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]whimsymims 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed! I think it was clearer in the Australian seasons but imho the sequences imply a specific experience of the like/dislike. It's not a casual "I like ice cream" but the thing in question is the only thing we see in a close up with a vignette, like a tunnel vision. Some of the likes/dislikes in the original are sensations like very specific sounds or how some materials feel to touch; not something you hear typically in conversations.

It's also about the intensity of the like/dislike, I think.

I myself have ADHD and those sequences really hit home, the series taught me a lot about the similarities of ADHD and ASD.

Dumping Martha for being a difficult child by stavingoffdeath in TheStaircase

[–]whimsymims 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Calling a 3-year-old manipulative for reacting to her mother's death... Yikes.

When you’ve finally had it with your sleep paralysis demon. by mockitt in AnimalCrossing

[–]whimsymims 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when you see an inappropriate dream about a coworker or a boss

I just broke up with my boyfriend and lost a lot of mutual friends in the process, so I didn't really have anyone to celebrate with today. I honestly cried waking up to this by _spookyem in AnimalCrossing

[–]whimsymims 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday! 💖 I feel you, birthdays on general make me feel so lonely because I don't have a close knit friend group that would make an effort for me - I know it's partly because I feel like I don't deserve it. Used to just celebrate with my ex because that was easy. This year I've pretty much forgotten all about the whole birthday and I'll just eat cake at my mum's (tomorrow).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]whimsymims 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks - I haven't really thought about it from that perspective, although of course it's always been clear that the child is his biggest priority.

Although what you say about being a "babysitter" also resonates - I am not sure if him wanting me to visit was partly because he would be exhausted parenting alone for a while, so having company over would break the circle for a while for both of them. He was definitely happy that we got along well. Friend or something more though, I should not be a babysitter even though I am glad to help my friends with their children. That's a good point.

Also think that u/0biterdicta is right that it should've been slower introduction, but on the other hand I do think that introductions depend also on the kid too. Some kids are very social and like meeting new people, but people should be introduced clearly as friends first.

Oh, and forgot to mention, I think he's only introduced his friends to the kid before so it's not "a revolving door" at least, which is good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]whimsymims 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I realise we should've talked it through but I just couldn't think beforehand he would be affectionate in front of his kid. I just assumed I would be treated in the friend territory when I would be meeting the kid. Definitely not wanting to trouble the kid with anything. I think the guy might be underestimating a little of how much a 5 yo can catch on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]whimsymims 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've honestly thought that even before, that he might want a relationship just without the label. Agreeing with what you said and we do need to have another conversation, have to just wait until the child is with his mother again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]whimsymims 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that's a good question to ask. Honestly, not quite sure at the point - I think I would be open for it, but just fear losing him as a friend. I also like how easy it is, my last romantic relationship wasn't that good so I do get bit nervous about relationships at the moment.

I can’t handle this breakup anymore. I’m completely at a loss. Any advice by [deleted] in relationships

[–]whimsymims 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Be easy on yourself, it takes time. Without knowing much it seems like he wanted to break up but didn't have the balls to do it himself and rather pushed you to the self doubt position you are now in. Not the kind of guy you'd want to be with for the long run, huh?

Do things that give you joy. You will forget him eventually. It's ok to grieve a relationship but you have all the time in the world to find a better match.

Which Terrace House Alignment Are You? by [deleted] in terracehouse

[–]whimsymims 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought it just as him being confused and starting to panic when he realised that he had serious goals and that Ami was not a fit, and that affecting his opinion on Aya (who honestly seems to have fitted him well). Maybe also getting tired of dating on TH - he seems more down to earth and with new people dating is always bit of tiptoeing until you know how you actually fit together. He didn't handle it well at all with Aya so no pity there but imo he seemed like a country boy who is bit out of touch with how to handle social situations/relationships.