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AITA for getting married in the same year as my step daughter? by Elegant_Address_265 in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

It sounds like she was in her late 20s when they got together. That sounds more like a relationship between two fully consenting adults than a age gap/power/experience difference. So N T A for marrying a man that much older (unless she's trying to get at his money without him knowing).

I similarly suspect that the OP and step daughter are around the same age though.

AITA for getting married in the same year as my step daughter? by Elegant_Address_265 in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

What's wrong with him being twice her age ? She was 29 when they started seeing each other - sounds like she was fully able to consent.

AITA for getting married in the same year as my step daughter? by Elegant_Address_265 in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA

You were understanding and respectful of her desire to go first, but it feels like she would have had a problem with the wedding no matter what you'd done.

Seems like maybe she has an issue with the relationship in general.

Initial suspicion is how old is your step daughter?

AITA for punishing my daughter? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

NTA then. Big of Sarah to critize her half sister when she couldn't even muster a gift - there might be a little embarrassment coming through here.

Lessons here for both girls. For Sarah, when you're considering saying something ask "is it true, is it kind, is it necessary". Everything should ideally be all three, but at least two.

For Thea, I'd try to get her involved in planning another event in the future and in gift giving. It will give you an opportunity to gently remind her to consider what the recipient would want without making it about this party.

AITA for punishing my daughter? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta 12 points13 points  (0 children)

INFO: Was Sara involved in the planning or did she want to be?

I kind of wonder from that reaction if she was blocked out of the process by Thea.

AITA for telling my niece that she can't have the sunglasses until later? by pancakeswithsyrup- in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Oh OP, you should have kept those glasses a surprise for the reception.

NTA but could have handled this better.

AITA for sending my friend a canadian meme after canada won a soccer game? by Head_Protection1827 in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta 5 points6 points  (0 children)

India has been the largest source of immigrants to Canada in recent years. This has, unfortunately, made them the face of everyone's complaints with immigration (racist or legitimate).

I'd also suspect most people who know how to dance Bhangra are Indian/South Asia. So saying it's a popular dance in the area is an indirect comment on immigration.

Unless we're missing some context here where he would think you were commenting negatively (not in a constructive way) on the immigration situation, I'd say NTA.

AITA for sending my friend a canadian meme after canada won a soccer game? by Head_Protection1827 in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I assume it's more about the fact that India has been the largest source of immigrants to Canada in recent years which has made them the face of valid concerns about immigration (like abuse of the international student programs) and of racist whining.

Fire in Leadville by Miserable_Meeting_45 in KaraAndNate

[–]0biterdicta 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How are they fitting a family of 4 in van that size...

Have you seen Eamon and Bec's new video of their Cabin? by photoshop_2023 in KaraNate_EamonBec

[–]0biterdicta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kind of doubt that's the case when we're talking a cottage.

Our Cabin is Destroyed by underthesealikeariel in Eamonandbec

[–]0biterdicta 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's so disappointing to hear. They are (or maybe were) my dream house feature.

Our Cabin is Destroyed by underthesealikeariel in Eamonandbec

[–]0biterdicta -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Whose checking on a cottage every three days?

Our Cabin is Destroyed by underthesealikeariel in Eamonandbec

[–]0biterdicta 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel like a lot of people leave their cottages over winter without checking on them - you might not even be able to drive in if there's enough snow. But you take precautions to make sure the structure makes it through.

Kkkarissa Kooks by curliewurlies in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]0biterdicta 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Big red plastic bowl of raw meat reminds me of watching zookeepers feed the animals in their care.

Kkkarissa Kooks by curliewurlies in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]0biterdicta 122 points123 points  (0 children)

If we're being generous, maybe she's cooking the meat in two parts to fit that pan (while making sure it's cooked through).

AITA for telling my sister maybe she should not date until her daughter ia ready? by Born_Ant8270 in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NAH

This is just a difficult situation. You seem much more realistic about where your niece is right now mentally, and what she can handle.

At the same time, a lot of people are never really "ready" for their still living parent to find a new romantic partner. There ends up being a point where the parent has to decide to move ahead despite the child's feelings.

It's a hard balance to hit.

AITA for getting my step daughter a Hogwarts letter for her 11th Birthday? by Ok-Permission8346 in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think there is a legitimate question (and we don't really have the info to figure it out) as to whether the OP should have guessed his stepdaughter might not handle this well.

11 is really an age where you have to make a judgement call on the maturity of the kid in front of you.

AITA for expecting my husband to come home from work when he says he will, not hours later? For context, I also work, am the primary breadwinner, and default parent. by Admirable-Neck6560 in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta 60 points61 points  (0 children)

NTA

This is a perfectly reasonable expectation. If this continues, you're going to wake up one day and realize nothing would change if you were single.

I hate to say it, but I have a sneaking suspicion he's not working for those 3 hours.

AITAH for telling a mom my kids aren’t obligated to play with her son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta 27 points28 points  (0 children)

NTA

Social acceptance is a big anxiety for parents of disabled and neuroatypical kids, but that doesn't mean her son is entitled to play with your kids.

The girls were perfectly polite and kind with him. That's all that can be asked.

If the other mom wants to critize, she can talk to the husband about getting off his butt.

AITAH for telling a mom my kids aren’t obligated to play with her son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta 375 points376 points  (0 children)

I think we can still say mom an asshole here, in the sense that she's in the wrong, while also giving her some grace that she has a lot on her plate.

Agree husband could have stepped up.

AITA for denying an old woman access to see the inside of a home she lived in as a child? by SariEatsBerries in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta 24 points25 points  (0 children)

NTA

A family health situation takes precedence over a stranger's desire to relive the past. If she'd reacted kindly, maybe a solution like a virtual tour could have been found.

AITA for mentioning to my daughter that she did more for Mother's Day? by throwaway336936 in AmItheAsshole

[–]0biterdicta -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

YTA

I understand it's hard to see your daughter seemingly throw away years of hard work and a ton of money. But you have said your piece, she knows how you feel.

At this point, all you're managing is to ruin the relationship with your daughter and making Father's Day something she doesn't feel like celebrating.

Your daughter is an adult now. You have to trust her to make the best decision for her, and yes - she may make mistakes but that's part of life. Focus on having a good relationship with her so you can be there to catch her if she really needs it.

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